Step Daughter Is Now Pregnant
I have a 19 year old stepdaughter. My DH was a single parent for 6 or so years before we began dating. Looking back in those dating years, there was advice that I should just walk away because SD would make my life a living hell. I thought I'd be strong enough to weather the bad behavior of a then 14 year old. Wow, I was totally wrong about how helplessness feels.
My three children have the same rules to live by (they live with us every other week), and the SD and my SS live with us full-time. SD and SS see their mother on Thanksgiving and Christmas. Mother is an alcoholic and drug abuser, currently living in a halfway house.
SD bounces between playing the aggreeable stepdaughter and the "I can do whatever I want" person.
She was recently, at the age of 18 3/4 the option of respecting us and our rules or move out. Given a week to make her decision, she chose to move in with a boy that she ran away to when she chose to "do what she wants". December 19th, we were informed that she is pregnant.
DH and I knew it was just a matter of time, but not expecting it to be so soon.
The worst is my brother-in-law, who is 40 and acts 13 spewed venom on Christmas at his parents house... once we left. My DH and I have been trying to stop the blaming, and hateful words toward us, primarily me. My DH's sister and her husband are helping to stop the bad-mouthing and I have been educating the family of some details that BIL has severely skewed. BIL has evaded us and won't man up to his lies and gossip.
My DH and I are looking for support for the SD because being a new parent is going to be difficult. Even though the SD created all the lies to gain sympathy for her situation, she will ultimately fall back to us when time gets tough. I just need to remain strong and help out the grandchild once it arrives sometime this summer.