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Trying To Let Go Of The Past And Deal With Difficult Family Now

I am 24 yrs old and really want to overcome the life I had growing up. I am learning to forgive my parents for being totally useless, but the things that I struggle with the most are learning how to treat them now.

Do I cut them out of my life? Do I act really nice and happy even though I feel they don't deserve it?

They are not mean or abusive towards me they are just stuck in thier ways and have no intent of becoming better people/parents. For a bit of background my mum is a bi polar drug addicted alcoholic that I haven't had a lot to do with since I was 13. And my dad is a relationship addicted and neglectful father that could not handle raising 3 kids on his own so we raised ourselves. Any advice or chat would be much appreciated :)
smariew smariew 22-25, F 1 Response Jan 29, 2013

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In my opinion, even though they are your parents, you dont owe them anything. You dont have to love them or be in their life if they dont deserve it. I'm not saying you should cut them out of your life necessarily, but you shouldnt force yourself to do anything because you feel obligated. Act how you feel and see where it takes you.