You Are Not Alone, Take My Advice And Just Walk Away.
My mother is the definition of pure evil. She let me know at an early age that she hated me. She beat me mercilessly for no reason, has knocked teeth out of my mouth when I was 12, refusing to replace it. Denied me basic necessities, that heaven that I have an aunt who has throughout my life shown me mercy and tried to fill that gap; but she was also the subject of my mother's abuse.
To anyone who is in that situation...GET AWAY and do not look back. If you have children remove them from the equation to prevent them becoming contaminated with that evil. I left home at 16, was homeless, but did not care. Homelessness was better that being berated and physically abused by someone who is supposed to be my mother. I had to leave my siblings behind, but they were already being poisoned. I tried to see them in private (coming to the school at recess), but they were too afraid of what my mother would do to them if she knew they were speaking to me. I just let go and left everyone behind. I am married, have a beautiful home inthe suburbs, managed to pay my way through school and am a working professional with a Masters degree in my field. I also have 2 children who I keep away from her. It is the best thing I have ever done. I have peace and do not have to worry about her infiltrating the minds of my children.
BTW, I did try to do the right thing once I got myself together and try to reconcile the differences, I tried over a period of several years on and off. I even let her meet my family. She did successfully try to wedge herself between me and my siblings, even now as adults, they feel they owe her their loyalty. Those are her kids so she can do with them as she wishes with them. I accept that. She hates my husband because he loves me. She tried getting slick with my children. Once I got whiff of what she was onto...POOF we went, all of us. She is now never welcome in my home or near my children ever again. My siblings can keep with their loyalty to her in hopes of her leaving her fortune to them. I say good riddance.
Take my advice and walk away.