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Battle With Esophageal Cancer

My Dad got diagnosed with Stage 3 esophageal cancer a year and a half ago. He went through surgery and two different chemo and radiation but the cancer keeps coming back. We were told this week that his cancer has metastasized to his bone and to lymph nodes in the throat. I work in the medical field so I am aware that we really do not have much time left with him. My Dad is only 66 yrs old. I never thought I would have to worry about his health until he was 80. My Dad never got sick and he was rock climbing until few weeks before he was diagnosed. I take everyday that he is with us as a blessing and focus on one day at a time.
Nausica Nausica 31-35, F 6 Responses Oct 4, 2007

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May GOD bless him & u)I 2lost my dad from esophageal cancer.though he did not opt 4surgery or chemo he lived a year and a half after being diagnosed, without much pain & discomfort.he wz truly brave & my HERO I love him very much & miss him each day.but I knw he passed on 2meet our creator which we all have 2as well. All da best.

Thank you all for your warm support. My father passed away on December 22, 2007. I was able to spend a memorable three weeks with him. My two year old son and I visited him at the hospital every day. We had such a special time. I felt so connected to my Dad for the first time in my life. I was able to comfort him and he was able to share his fears with me. I felt so blessed to have that special time with him. I also got to spend two nights with him with my Mom in hospice. We took turns staying up and holding his hands until he took his last breath. Once again, I feel blessed that I was able to be there with him. I miss him terribly every day. But I have wonderful memories and I feel like he is watching over me. I have no regrets. I am so glad I made the choice to spend time with him.

You are in my prayers and thoughts from today on. I have a dear friend who has lung cancer, inoperable. I want her to know everyday I'm able that I am her friend. I've found out that she many times wants to talk with her children about her illness, and possible end, but they don't. So she confides in me! DO ask your dad what plans he wants in place before he leaves....hard as that is to do, you will be helping him....and yourself.

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Oops sorry 2trouble u , I honestly did not realise yr dad passed a few years already , well all da best.

Thank you for your comment fuzzywuzzy. My father also is getting treatment in a different country. It has been really hard for me but in a way I think it would be a lot worse if I was near by. I have watched so many cancer patients grow weaker and it is so hard on the family members to watch their loved ones get taken over by the disease. I visited my Dad few months ago and I went with him to get his chemo. It was so hard to control my emotions...I watched him go up the stairs of the subway station really slowly...he looked like he was 80 yrs old. I felt like crying so many times that day but I know that it just hurts my Dad to see me cry. He secretly told my aunt that he did not want to make me sad or see me cry...

So part of me thinks the distance is ok. But I promised my Mom that I will be there with him when the time comes to say goodbye. I have two small children so even if I want to be with him now, it makes things very difficult.

Maybe you can take just a little time off and spend some quality time with your Dad. I felt better after I spent two weeks with him.

Thanks Celanin. Your support is much appreciated. I am so sorry about youd Dad. It is so hard to lose someone who could have had so many more years with us. Hugs to you too :)