Hiking, Gaming, Butt Shaking, Coffee Drinking, Book Reading Adventure Seeker!!!

My perfect 3-day weekend?  Finding an awesome canyon to hike and a gorgeous spot to camp for a couple days.  Then one night find a shower and hit a dance club in some big city.  Then I would come home and play Perfect World Int on the computer all night!  And if I have time to hit the library and a coffee shop, even better.  And maybe late night dinner at a dive bar, great food!!

The hard part is finding friends who would be interested in all of that, or at least accept all of me.  When I do make a new friend they generally get put off by one of my interests.  So they like to club, but would never camp or touch a computer game.  Or they game, but don't dance.  Or they love the coffee shop, but wouldn't step foot in a dive bar.  And they have all of these stereotypes that prevent them from being friends with me.

So I guess I need to keep my activities secret until my friendships are stronger!  My fiance will go along with just about anything, but does have high standards about bars and restaurants (snob!) and I can't get him interested in computer games, although he does play Playstation sports a lot!

Helinda Helinda
1 Response Mar 9, 2009

Thats got me thinking about my own problems with connecting with people...<br />
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I have interests that most 'normal' people don't have. So I'm not going to have much in common with work collegues. I'm really into punk music, travelling, adventures, and I'm vegan. <br />
Musics a very big part of my life, so I guess when someone from work asks what I did at the weekend and I say 'I went to a gig, got smashed' they usually look at me like they really don't understand. And punk music - they just think 'Sex Pistols'. Veganism's something I really try not to mention! I usually don't get invited back to a work night out! I just can't pretend that I spent the weekend gardening or something though... <br />
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And my friends who are into punk and are vegan sympathisers - well they're all really sociable and can't understand I want time to myself. I love cycling, camping on my own etc. I find it hard to connect with them on a deeper level. I'll turn up to gigs and know people, and have a great time, but I'll always walk there on my own. I know some people think this is wierd, so I don't admit it!<br />
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I also like to travel on my own. I love travelling solo - I get to meet all sorts of new people for just a couple of days - enough to have a great time but not long enough to realise you're not connecting and to feel crap about that. I wouldn't admit that to my friends - they would think I'm strange. When they go travelling its to meet all the friends they have around the world...<br />
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So I feel I have a more active social life than my work collegues, but much less of one than my friends (or aquaintences should I say), and that makes me feel crap.<br />
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Anyway, I've never talked to anyone about how I feel, and never been on a forum before. Reading all these experiences other people have similar to me helps alot x