Hello all! I am new on this site but the stories I already read are helping me a lot.
Let me tell you a bit of my story and I hope someone can help me ...
I was married to a nice man, we got 2 daughters, then he started cheating on me (I make this long story a short one) and we got devorced. My girls were 9 and 11 years at that time. I met this man from Cameroon, we started a relationship, I got pregnant, we got married. We lived, all 5 of us, in one house. My husband did not really liked my girls, he did not mix in the family. We we decided to move to an other city, my youngest decided to live with her father.
After we moved, things slowly changed. My daughter is a nice girl, but a little lazy and she can discuss things with me or talk to me about anything. For my husband, those things are a lack of respect, because she is not supposed to discuss with me, she has to do whatever I say and immediately. For me, that has never been the case. So this is difficult.
A few months ago, my husband and my daugther got into an argument, I asked them to stop because we were eating, but they continued and it ended by my girl calling him a name, my husband chasing behind my girl, smashing and ruining the door of her room. I ran after them and pulled him away, out of her room.
It was a very, unpleasant situation. The atmosphere in the house is not good, i am walking on egg-shells all the time. If something happens, everything and every discussion leads to this thing that happened, that she called him this name.
He is not willing to listen to anything i say, he will not go and see a therapist, he is not a talker, in short, if things dont go the way he wants them to go, we are in a fight. I am so tired of this, I am so unhappy. I love him, but I hate this. There is nothing i can do or say to make him change. My child will probably leave for study in about 6 months, but she will be my child for ever and she will always come home.
He says he hates her. What can I do? I feel so misserable.