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Thank you Hipdude! I want to show him what you have said hopefully others will add and he can see how silly he is behaving. Rally the troops:)

I think Alli's right, try to get your hubby to sign up, then thats all you will have to argue over is who will use the computor...

I'm so happy to be even the smallest part of that catharsis!! EP does the same for me. I hope the jealousy isn't code red.

It sound's like your husband is insecure. He might have issues to deal with and just don't know where to go to get help. Communication about his feelings and yours is the best thing for a marriage, get everything out in the open.

even if you look at it from his point of view, he is still overreacting. missmia's movie idea is wonderful, my hubby and i do that atleast twice a week.

i've only been a member here for a couple months or so. but there is noone in my life that i can discuss certain issues with; i use this site as a great way to speak my mind, learn, and share experiences with others. this is something i can not do in person because of my anxiety and antisocial issues. i love this site, i dont feel so alone when i'm on here. its nice to have friends, even if they are only in my computer.

Perhaps you can negotiate an amount of time on here that you both feel is appropriate?

Speaking from a point of complete ignorance, it seems that you might be able to learn a few things about your partner and potentially improve both your relationship and his life if can use this tension as a bridge to explore some things.

I do not mean HULLO THERAPY BY INTERNET. I just mean that sometimes this is the way that some men open up about their deepest needs and insecurities. What is this jealousy *really* about?

Insecurity, after all, is fear of a particular type of hurt. But hurt can be healed, and maybe stronger things grown from it.

MissMia and Dodo have both pretty much stated the issue. he has a issue and if ya want peace solve it. Does he have something in mind for the two of you to be doing as opposed to you being on here. compromise is a reality to functional relationships. Tis easy ta critize him for behavior that isnt suiting your needs at the moment and I am not downplaying them, But it sounds like he has some which arent being met. Gotta be a halfway mark here.
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maybe this, maybe that. the only ppl that know is yourself and your husband. i know that sounded harsh, wasn't intending it to be..BUT having been in a controlling relationship for wayyyy too long, i won't let someone tell me what or when to do something ever again. The good question was,,is there something he could suggest you guys do together instead of being on the computer? or does he just want you to get off for the sake of getting off? If he wants you to get off and do some laundry WELL, i don't think so. Compromise is always the best way. Discuss amongst yourselves maybe on the best time of day for you to enjoy e.p. and see how that works.. Only my opinion....
good luck darlin!!!!

this is a P.S.
I wanted to double say that i didn't mean to come across like i know everything and to heck with your husband ok? ok! LOL

Thanks everyone for all the truly insightful comments. I gave my husband a "tour" of our world. I showed him this and some of your stories and some of mine. I explained how we can gift each other and how we can send each other gestures. You all really made an outstanding impression. My husband is gone a lot (musician) and EP has and will continue to be an outlet for me. My compromise is that when he is home, alert and awake, my focus will be on us. I admit EP can be a place to hide from life and I have been guilty of that on a few occasions, but by the same token I have hidden from life in my bedroom, i suffer from depression for heavens sake. My husband and I are passionate people who argue with gusto, and make up with equal gusto. Its all good, and I owe everyone of you a HUGE thank you!