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~~~I'm not cheap.  I'm sensible.~~~

As my children grow into productive citizens of the world,  I see some of that sensibility peeking around corners.   My twin sons have lived in the dorms for the past three years.  It's been fun watching them figure stuff out.  Like how to feed an unsatiable appetite and palate.  Let me stop here and of the greatest gifts you can give your kids is the love of good food and HOW TO COOK IT.   Lots of these college kids live on a diet of food from the gas station.  How gross is that?   But eating well on a college budget is hard.  Twin Two bought a bag of flour and a dozen eggs,  for making his own pasta.  "I did the math, Mom, this is much cheaper.  Those boxes of pasta cost $1 !"

Anyway,  this week I heard the ultimate plan of sensibility...

"My iMac is all beat up.  I really need a new computer,  but they are so expensive.   I'm just going to build my own."

The parts he ordered were delivered yesterday.
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Lilt Lilt 46-50 51 Responses Jun 3, 2010

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Tulick and I have agreed to disagree, just like we always do.<br />
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I'm so happy to see you, UC. <br />
I know the road has been rough, but you have been missed very much.

This story is wonderful. All of us moms hope our kids can be as independent, self reliant and budget conscious as your kid ( not too mention creative)<br />
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Keep up the good work and kudos to your son !!

I don't understand people like this ... dunno what to say!! But look from whence it came.<br />
Please don't stop sharing your stories, they're so real and funny and heartwarming. X@

That's easier said than done, Des.

Cabbie, Tulick follows all my stories to tell me what a horrible mother I am. <br />
I usually let her comments go on by, but this is getting ridiculous. I know I can block her, but somehow that makes me feel like she's won something. I've never blocked anyone. <br />
I may just kill this story and move on :-(

Sheesh what an insecure, bad-mouthing, unloved, probably it's own fault, unlikeable, downtrodden, interrupting, know-it-all, jealous, poor-lil-ole-me, attention-seeking, helpless, can't do anything for myself - I could go on and on and on and on - pathetic twit!<br />
Should we flag it? Poor lil-ole-me!!<br />

somehow i doubt that <br />
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ALL parents like doinig that you just do it with a touch of a cruel streak

Tulick, you have never been so wrong about anything in your life.

no you just like laughing your butt off attheir mistakes <br />
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looking at their struggles and saying i told you so

Frito, I'm in awe of the adventurous spirit of all kids!

Lilt I'm impressed with your son working on his own electronics but I am in awe that he will make his own pasta, Smaaaarr!

and who said i could't "take it"

If you are going to "dish" it out, you better be able to take it.<br />
Want fries with that?

and no one has to ask streight up what

Sorry Tulick, but this dish is served straight up.

Guess which 2 fingers i'm holding up right now

I even tossed up a Ceasar salad, without poking an eye out.

I know my sons won't be starving for at least a little while. They were over for dinner last night. They each had a 16oz. T-Bone, prepared by Cruella DeMom on the dangerous grill.

oh i can think of a way boiling hot water acidently knocked on self <br />
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and its worth the cnhance of 3rd degree burns to save a few bucks <br />
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i do get it- its you that doesn't get it that its NOT cool its not ok for you to sit back and laught your butt off watching them struggle its cruelty of the first order

I have never heard of anyone causing serious injury to themselves while making noodles.<br />
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My children are struggling to eat, live and function??? <br />
I am implying that everyone should do what my kid is doing???<br />
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As Tulick would say...<br />
"You don't get it."

Faucon my comments about this have no corilation to bathing wether you take a shower or a bath or use soap a rag and a sink you DON"T have to stink <br />
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same is true here you DON"T have to cook it eat well and not spend a fortune (mircrowaves anyone) <br />
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and you DON"T have to take a chance of causing sirious injury to self to have pasta or any other food and its not worth the chance <br />
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but "the anger" is more about her braging about sitting back watching her college kids struggle to eat live and fuction <br />
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"the anger" is more about her bragging that she has raised a cheepscate kid who apparently doesn't know when he should spend money who is petrified to do so <br />
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and what happens when building the computer doesn't work and he's out the money he spent on parts and still has to buy a PC <br />
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oh and the implied idea that we should all do what her kid is doing in this story notice she never did answer my question how a bag of flower, and a dozen eggs is cheaper than a $1 containor of posta make me smile, b.<br />
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I agree with you, Des, being a food journalist would be great fun. I would also love to be a judge on Top Chef!

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I don't have a problem with the lady. nothing she writes can irritate me.<br />
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hahaha<br />
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So, now she cannot **** in my sandbox.<br />
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soooo easy and sooooooooooo very peaceful.<br />
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love<br />

Well, that's why you are a stand-up guy.

Glowy, we make "half-sours" with a simple mix of vinegar, salt, water, and garlic. It's sooo easy.<br />
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Sametoyou, putting the whole world down would take a long time, eh?

*bl<x>inks at the anger*<br />
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*tries to spread some sunshine*<br />
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Moving on..<br />
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Lilt - that's really cool!! Mr Glow has also been building computers for a while now. He has a side business doing that for other people too. He has finally given up the fight on our ten year old Dell desktop though...We're getting the new bits to make Hal9000 or something, I think. I just leave him to it...<br />
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I love reading about you guys and your older kids..hope I can do as well with mine. The Little Bird loves to cook. He's six now, and I'm starting to let him help me make dinner at night. I think it will be a great asset if they can cook. Goodness knows that I've always been impressed with a man who knows his way around a kitchen. <br />
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I have never made pasta. Unless you count pierogies. I've always wanted to, but have always been intimidated by the idea. Pickles, now...YUM. I've been ogling the cucumber plants in the garden and my mouth waters. Not much longer!!!

You seem to have a lot of time on your hands, tulick. Maybe you should try making something.<br />
Aside from making people pissed off.

well it must be nice to have that kind of time on your hands- your right about 1 thing though **** vlassic i don't like pickles <br />
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and hey weren't you the one waging war on the F word ???

hahaha<br />
**** Vlassic, I make my own pickles because they taste better.

sensable is not equal to ignoring every modern convience <br />
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sensable is not equal to making your kid such a tight wad he's afraid to spend money <br />
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and as i said some of us will incure the cost before spending 6 weeks in a burn unit trying to make something from scratch that doesn't make us gluutonus consummers or less human

You're right, Tulick, I don't get it.<br />
I'm not rubbing anyone's nose in anything.<br />
But I do know that your nose is perpetually bent out of shape.

oh i'm scared NOT- <br />
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lilt you just don't get it do you- you never do <br />
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you get off laughing at your kids trying to figure things out <br />
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with this story you have managed to once again rub other peoples noses in what they "can't" do or rather choose not to waste their time with my grandmother was a good could when she could cook so was my mother neither one of them ever bothered making their own pasta even at their poorest<br />
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and how exactly is a dozen eggs and a bag of flower cheeper than a box or bag of pasta <br />
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and as i said before not all of us have the faintest idea how to build our own computers and some of us will incure the cost before spending 6 weeks in a burn unit trying to make something from scratch that doesn't make us gluutonus consummers or less human

Thank you, Medusa :-)<br />
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Got that, Tulick? You know I always give you a second chance. <br />
But if you see Faucon coming, you better run !!!

I'm in no mood to be antagonized by you, Tulick.<br />
I thought we had a bit of an understanding, even some compassion. I was mistaken.<br />
I really don't feel like having my parenting-worth judged by you today.

she taught her son how to be a cheapskate and she gets the parenting of the year award <br />
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We have some pretty great sons, our bunch. Cheers! X@

i cant belive youre son has the ability to build his own computer talk about a smaet kid :-<br />
) bless them

Lilt. <br />
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Every saturday morning it was bacon and eggs between 6 and 7am. By 10 am it would be cake, (chocolate, coffee or lemon) iced and caramelled. Tall glasses of unpasterised milk from the neighbour's farm which matt would fetch on his bicycle. One could see the yellow fatty cream floating on the top.<br />
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yep, I am now 5kgs lighter.<br />
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Have they started "mod-ing" them yet? ...Cutting fancy holes in the case and adding colored lights and fans? It can become quite a macho competition thing!

hahaha...Datura, I've seen those huge bags of rice in their pantry. And if you get your roommates to pitch in, it's a real bargain!<br />
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It's kind of funny, because the computer thing has sort of turned into a bit of a competition with his friends. They are all trying to build one now. I think it's a "guy thing."

A twenty pound bag of rice costs $12 at Tops supermarkets. I know that because my college son told me!<br />
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My son is in electronic and computer engineering and has been building computers for people for profit for several years, Lilt. If your son runs into trouble maybe we can get him some technical advice. He built me my first computer from pieces of old ones, absolutely free. I love enterprising young people!

ummm...I could maybe answer that question, if I knew what that was :-/

bcj...I love hearing about all these Chef Boyardees! I'm sure you don't miss the extra pounds, but the cakes and pies ....mmmmm.<br />
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Tulick, microwave, it's a good thing. I'm not sure my son knows HOW to build a computer, but he's always been really good at following directions :-)

oh good god <br />
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oh and its great that he knows HOW to build his own computer not eveyone can even come close to that

hi Miss Lilt<br />
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Very nice story. <br />
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Matt was registered for Hotel Management and Catering at primary and High schools. He would cook and bake every week, both at school and then at home too.<br />
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Oh, but he cleaned as well. The kitchen sparkled when he was done.<br />
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I was 5-10kg heavier than now while he was with us.<br />
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love<br />

Wow! Your boys sound amazing! They are professional cookers.<br />
I agree about the clean-up. When they still lived at home, they would decide at midnight to get in the kitchen and "create" something. I'm sure it was good, but the creative mess in the morning would **** me off.

My eldest went to Hotel School, and decided not to go the culinary route, but is now in industrial Catering.<br />
The middle one trained at the Bush Academy - a faculty of Hotel School - and does some mean barbecues.<br />
The youngest was a trainee in a Hotel and Conference Centre, in the kitchen, and is keen to be a food journo, amongst other things.<br />
Feeding teenage boys is a never ending story, so I roped 'em in young, and made them self-sufficient. <br />
I taught them basics like pastas with mince and cheese sauces, mac and cheese, roasts, stews and soups. <br />
Dad added the finesse. They're better than me in the kitchen now!<br />
They also bake cakes and cookies, and make my famous fudge and meringues.<br />
But! I failed miserably when iyt comes to clean-up! That goes for kitchen, bathroom and bedroom!<br />

You and you husband are smart, Cabbie.<br />
We are all foodies at the Lilt house. Just can't help it.<br />
Even the little man started making his "famous" cucumber salad when he was just 4. And I let him use the real knives.

I'm happy to say my 3 sons are amazing in the kitchen! But it's really credit to dad, he's a fab cook! However I did teach them to bake. Very proud am I.

When your kids are real little, they just assume you know everything. <br />
When they are in their teens, you know absolutely nothing.<br />
When they move out, you miraculously start knowing stuff again.<br />
Weird, but TRUE!

That's great, Des. I think most kids like to have fun in the kitchen.<br />
Everyone should know how to roast a chicken.