Problem Solved

Last week my seven year old son had a really bad day at school.   For the sake of his second grade dignity,  I will not go into details.  Later that afternoon,  he went out into the middle of the yard and started digging a hole.  I let him dig.  I could see it was something he really needed to do.  It's only grass.  After about an hour he came in,  feeling much better.  Well,  I looked and saw the hole was HUGE and DEEP!   Dangerous.   I let it go,  knowing we had to get on with dinner and other evening rituals.

After a couple of days,  when his psyche had returned to a more normal state,  I said he needed to fill that whole back up.  After about an hour,  he came back in and said "problem solved."

I went out to the yard and the hole was carefully filled.  Next to it was a new hole,  identical in size and shape.

Lilt Lilt
58 Responses Oct 5, 2009

Tell the truth, Mewold.<br />
Auntie may be a cooker, but she ain't a looker.<br />
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I should go to bed now. :-/

Right. She tried, and failed. Great boobs though. lol

When my oldest daughter was about 9 or 10, she hated milk. One of her Aunts, a sweet lady who was always trying to help the single father (me), told her that she should drink milk because it would help her grow up to be beautiful. My daughter looked at her and said, "Did you drink milk when you were little?" Her Aunt smiled and said that yes she drank quite a bit of milk as a little girl. My daughter looked at her and said, "Didn't help you, did it."

I'm constantly amazed at how much people with no children know about raising kids!<br />
But equally amazed at how some people can be a parent for so long and still not know what they are doing.<br />
I think good parenting requires a lot improvisational skills.

Sweet Lilt, some people talk through their behinds! Not worth speaking to or about. <br />
You're a great mom I think, I know that doesn't hold a lot of water, I'm also just a mom and granny, but I've got sons that I'm hugely proud of. They're certainly not perfect, but well-mannered and well-liked by people that matter. That means we didn't do a bad job. Your sons seem the same, almost perfect is better than perfect in my book. <br />
Ignore the idiots, take on board what normal, sensible, mothers and fathers have to say. They are the ones who know what you're talking about and have been there and done that too. XXXXXXX<br />

Cabbie, it's been a special treat to log on and see your comments today. More than you could ever know. Everything I thought I knew about parenting has been challenged in the last few days. But you reminded me of the good stuff. <br />
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Thank you.

Lilt, I love your sons! They crack me up too and make me think of my 3 growing up! There's a saying, that a mom of 3 boys is guaranteed a place in heaven! X@

Cool, more books !! I thinks books are the best gifts.<br />
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I would love to see you acting the part of a star, my friend :)

I like The Little Prince too! I like how it's surreal and reminds me of when I was nine. I was a star (as in star in the sky) in a Little Prince play when I was nine. And understudy to the snake.

It does make sense. <br />
Adults make life so complicated, don't they?<br />
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Actually, we don't have that book. What do you like about it?

Mello, good question.<br />
And the answer is simple....<br />
Everybody uses the handles and that's kind of boring.<br />
If you use the jump rope it's more fun.

Krypton! Where have you been? I miss you tons.

Of course it is a Lilt story about the ever famous wonderful boy and it has 7 pages of comments before I can place my own. haha <br />
You and your family crack me up. Wonderful story.

Kids do well when Mother Nature is in charge.<br />
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Grown-ups too.

Thats too funny...i dug holes when i was a kid! I also planted random seeds to...anywhere:-D. Definetly one of the cool moms it seems.'re right Robbo!<br />
I see a landscape design biz and sod sales :O<br />
That is too funny. But a little scary at the same time...

Lmao! Kids are so funny aren't they? Not sure if this is a coincidence or not , but when I was reading your story I saw at the side there was an advert for I think you may need them, Lol! :o)

I always hear people say, "Oh no, I sound just like my mother."<br />
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Well, sometimes that is a good thing.<br />
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Now, go outside and play!

Hmm...that's a good idea actually! Maybe it will keep her from dismantling things with a screw driver. I think she's game! : )

Love it, Tekka! <br />
Are you now breeding the next generation of hole diggers?

Ha ha! I dug holes too. I thought there was treasure or dinosaur bones...mostly because my mom said I was pent up with too much energy. She said, "go dig a hole in the backyard" so I ran out happily screaming with shovels and...hammers. There were rocks in the way that I HAD to get rid of...then I got the punishment of a lifetime for breaking down the cement foundation of the yard. : /

Guinea pigs are NOT cute.<br />
They are rodent-y.<br />
I saw my friend's boa eat one once, that was cool.<br />
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Faucon, stick with me and the kid....never a dull moment :-/ that like "too big for your britches."

your son is very smart, great story, thanks for sharing this

All of these comments make me smile. Kids keep it real, eh?<br />
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I love that burned butt story too, Drew :O<br />
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Anna, we've had snakes , lizards, and tarantulas...but if there was a guinea pig on my head, I would go into cardiac arrest.

OMG @ "You Are So Beautiful When You Are Sleeping." <br />
Or "I Thought I Told You To Stop." -- How many times have I said those two statements???<br />
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And NEVER is 'SCHOOL' on caller ID EVER a good thing ~ cringes ~<br />
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I LOVE LOVE LOVE the Butt Slide story ~ sinister laugh ~<br />
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Don't know what it is about these boys and diggin'. Mine ended up in the Urgent Care getting stitches on his forehead from his friend's 'Spade Malfunction' onto son's forehead (four months after stitches in the same place from other friend's golf club).<br />
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~ Priceless Stories ~

LOL!! Awesome!

Lilt, reading this made my day. :)

A kid that enjoys vacuuming and digging- gotta love his work ethic! lol<br />
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I just read this and then actually had to tell my daughter not to wear the guinea pig on her head! :)<br />
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At least I can smile knowing that I'm in good company. . . although I guess they say this at the funny farm too huh?

...okay, I'm back. <br />
Luckily, the vase broke in pretty big chunks.<br />
Good thing he enjoys vacuuming.

Thank you for that SCARY revelation, Speechless! :D lol<br />
Lilt... I can sympathize, empathize, and laugh with and AT you, cause I got one of those adventurous rascals! :O

The girl's mother had developed the best parenting skill early on.<br />
A sense of humor.

Ninja - yes, that's my kid!! No fear, an adventurous spirit, and no regard for his safety! I dread the teenage years! Thankfully, his younger brother is much more biddable. He's the kid the books were written about. <br />
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Lilt - that's hilarious!

That seems a bit extreme, ninjadad. At least leave them on the shelf. When the neighbors come by to report the latest, you point to the books and throw your arms up in the air.<br />
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I once had a tiny, feisty student who managed to fit half of her body into the tail pipe of the pumper truck during our fire station field trip.

I love the titles Lilt! <br />
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It's always an adventure going to school to get him. What did he do today, who did he lick today? Please tell me that pudding mohawk is someone else's kid...Oh God, let that ambulance/police car be there for a demonstration of some kind!

There are hundreds of books, bcj.<br />
Most of them are useless.<br />
I let you know when mine is available.<br />
My working title is "You Are So Beautiful When You Are Sleeping." <br />
Or "I Thought I Told You To Stop."

there is a book?<br />
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now you tell me<br />
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Loving him is the easiest part, Myo.

BWAH! I didn't see that coming. I love this kid more with every story.

hahaha, that's funny bcj ! <br />
That's pretty much how it went with our other two boys. This third one is adding new chapters to our parenting book on a regular basis.

the school never called. matt used to come home and report the school to me. I would have to go in about twice per year to discuss with them.<br />
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"Hey Mrs. Lilt! <br />

"In my head, I feel a bit like the earth is shifting."<br />
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I love that comment, Analyzer! That was exactly my feeling last week, when I reached for the phone and saw it was the school calling.

she needs to tell her son to think for himself. some parents! =P

Why does that not surprise me, WhatNot?<br />
Just be home in time for dinner :)

I tried to make it work for me, Whendolynn. I decided to make a big fire pit over the weekend. Do you think he helped me dig that?? No way. But he kept me company with lots of questions while I dug.

I iron too Lauren! <br />
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--conversation a few weeks ago with the 5-yr-old. <br />
"Mommy?" (yes, baby?) "You should never write on people's wee wees with magic marker." (Um...did someone get in trouble for this at school?) "No. But you should *never* do it." (Well, um. told you that this was a bad Idea?) "Nobody. It just came out of my own head. There are just some things you should never do. That's one of them."<br />
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That works too, IT.

I hide out back and take a few puffs lol

Lauren, I go dig in my garden, of course.

Um Falcon...I don't think any of the moms here required the translation :)

As with you and your son, I always knew that a lot of processing of angst was occurring with the hole digging. It was his own form of therapy. When he was digging holes I knew to leave him to his business.<br />
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I find it so cool that your son found a way to comply with your demand and still fulfill his own need. Kids are so smart!

These are all great! <br />
Right now, there is a jump rope and a guitar strap attached to the handles of the fridge. I am supposed to be using these to open the doors. And he watches to make sure I'm doing it!

Lilt I spend a lot of time with an 11 year old who dug a huge hole and tried to fill it with a fire extinguisher's foam...all made perfect sense to him cause he wanted to photograph it.<br />
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If we can really look I think kids have so much wisdom. Your son found a way to express himself and you are wise enough to let him.

I could write a book titled. "The things I really never thought I'd say."<br />
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Like, "Gabe, we don't make waterfalls out of our television."<br />
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"Gabe, we don't put butter in our nose."<br />
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"Gabe, we don't throw knives at computers."<br />
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I got into this topic with someone once...Things you should never have to tell a kid, but find yourself saying (Incidentally, I have had to tell mine to knock it off with the leg licking too!) My favorites were: <br />
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"You cannot stand on your brother's stomach!!"<br />
(why??)<br />
"Because you'll squish his insides. And. Because he's crying!"<br />
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and the ever so wonderful,<br />
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"We don't throw chickens!"<br />
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and the icing on the cake?<br />
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"Wearing the superman cape doesn't mean you can fly!!!"

Once, there are so many things they don't put in the books. I never thought I would have to tell a child to stop licking my leg, either.<br />
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Datura, the hole was actually sort of symbolic of the hole he dug himself into at school. I think he was trying to get to China :)

Hm. I really relate to this story. My youngest son is a hole digger, too. I actually thought maybe he was the only kid who did this.<br />
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There is something quite profound about your son's reaction to your need for the hole to be filled in. His need was still to have a hole. What a clever kid.

Hahahaha!! Mine always seems to leave me spluttering with things like this. They don't put this stuff in the parenting books, do they?