My son has bi polar and has been medicated for the past 7 years. He has been doing fairly well living outside our home the past 2 years. However when he was home visiting recently I found a pipe in his pockets when doing his laundry. We've come to find out that he has been smoking dope for the last 6 months as well as nutmeg. I am stunned since he was always against drugs and was part of the "straight edge" movement. I am worried and angry and hurt. I know there are worse drugs but pot is a gateway drug. I am trying to detach with love, as alanon suggests. It's hard though. He is 18 and is free to screw up his life. I just hope he comes to his senses before he gets addicted to this or any drug.