I Have A Mean Disrespectful Daughter
I have a 31 year old daughter that lived with me until two years ago when she met this jerk at a redneck bar. She had always been a "good daughter" and then she started to change. She wanted to take off with him but they then decided to get married. I gave her a wedding (I'm a single mom) the best I could give her; and it was really nice. She received a lot of presents and the family came from out of town for the event. The night of the wedding the "groom" said that some of the cash they had received was stolen. I could not believe that; I know now he probably took it; he uses drugs. Then the marriage license "got lost" it was never filed in the court so they are not legally married because of that.
Two months after, I went out of town; they came into my house and took the title to one of the cars and pawned it for almost $5000. First experience for me, I rescued the car! then they totalled it. He starated taking my daughter from apt to apt skipping the rent, I helped them once or twice. He then totalled the second car that was bought with the insurance money from the first one. I then found out he was leaving her alone almost evey night using her car but she would not tell me anything. He then got mad at me because I started to question all that behaviour and took off with my daughter to his mother's house (he is 36) got her pregnant. By then I was almost losing my mind, we are not like that at all. I convinced her to move back with me and she came during the pregnancy. I bought everything for the baby, we had the hospital ready, and everything that she needed. One month before the baby was due he called her and said they (mom and him) wanted to take her shopping for the baby. She was all excited and left with them; I was terrified and for sure she did not come back. One week later the baby was born one month premature. I was left with everything for the baby and when I asked her what was I supposed to do she told me to give it to goodwill along with her clothes that she also left behind.
We have been insulted by this people, they have kicked us out of their house once we tried to talk to them, robbed, I have hired private investigators, talked to detectives, officers, attorneys, judges (I work in the legal field) and because she is an adult nobody can help. We cannot see the baby, when I call they won't answer most of the time and they do or she does she is rude, angry, disrespectful, and hangs up on me. She had her sister be the baby's godmother and now she won't allow her to see the baby. My 81 year old mother has tried to talk to her and the same thing.
Everybody tells me not to call her anymore and I can do that for a certain amount of time but then I get a lot of anxiety about her and the baby's safety, I miss her, I feel betrayed, I wish I could say something that would make her change and be part of us again so I call her. Mothers would understand this. And then she treats me like that and I end up crying, desperate, depressed. There has been a lot more to this story, horrible things. He uses drugs, does not work, lives with his mother who condones all this behaviour and probably tells my daughter things against me. They all came to the wedding! and then they changed and started acting this way. I don't understand anything that has happened. My daughter has learning disabilities and for that reason I sometimes want to excuse or explain her behaviour or maybe think that they are holding her but when I talk to her briefly on the phone she does not sound like that is the case. Has anyone been in a situation like this? What are we supposed to do? I know, I do pray, I leave it to God, but it is so hard. Maybe connecting with other people with similar experiences would help.
