Mean Sisters Won't Change
When my mother died at home after several years of taking turns in helping care for her, the first thing that my oldest sister did was point out how my sister-in-law had "been there day and night". That happened on the day my mother died, to my family it seemed very important that we all see my mother's dead body-a sight I have still not fully recovered from. My partner's words to me were "She (your sister) is a mean lady" and he never talks like that. Being one of 3 sisters and the middle one- I always felt left out by them. They have planned trips with every sibling but not included me-when I asked why- one sister said "I never even gave it a thought". I consider myself a healthy person emotionally so I have a life outside of my sisters but I do always envy people whose sisters are their friends. The oldest sister is mean and the youngest sister has made it clear that she has plenty of friends. Favoritism is rampant among my siblings. Sometimes I imagine them regretting not being good sisters to me but I know that is not going to happen. I have let go of the idea that they will change.