Irritated Easily

I'm the oldest (21) out of three sisters. The others are 19 and 13. The 19-year old is the mean one in the house and she somehow LOVES to pick on the youngest sister. I don't know why, but the mean sister is always picking on my youngest sister. For example, she'll tell her to pick  up her things off the floor, even if it's just one jacket hanging over a chair. She'll start shouting for her to pick up her stuff and uses more vulgar language towards her. Other times, she'll call her mean names behind her back and complaining about her to ME!  I'm always refereeing the two of them and it makes me sad to know that she will probably never get along with my youngest sister. Not only that, we go to school together and we have some shared classes. I sometimes ask to briefly look at her notes because I wanted to fill in some blanks at home and she always tells me, "Why don't you look at your own notes?!?" I tell her I needed to fill in some blanks, and she does give them to me after 2 minutes of nagging.

At this point, my parents and I think that something is mentally wrong with her. What's worse is that she is more book-smart and loves to argue well. She lacks emotional sense and street smarts and is so irritable all the time. (One time, she gave her driver's license number to some random person outside a building at our university, claiming she can register to vote after filling out the legit form. Luckily, nothing has happened so far.) Once you say something toward her and it annoys her, she'll start sassing you and you'll never hear the end of it. My parents and I think it's her hormones since she hasn't had a period close to half a year at this point. But still, I still have no idea what I'm going to do with her in the meantime.
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3 Responses Apr 17, 2012

Middle child syndrome is a condition in which children born in the middle experience feelings of emptiness, inadequacy and jealousy. It is also characterized by low self-esteem and extreme introversion, sometimes even leading to psychotic behavior.

The middle child, unlike the eldest child and the youngest child, is not given much attention. They have to go the extra mile just to get some of it. Middle children tend to be achievers because they need awards to be recognized by their parents. Sadly, this also goes the other way around, they can be very troublesome and determined to get noticed even if it means getting scolded at or punished.

Because they lack emotional support and guidance from their parents, they will always have a sense of low self-esteem. These feelings of emptiness and loneliness make them not very friendly and maybe even weird to other people. Most likely, these negative feelings will also stop them from pursuing what they want.

Other observable traits of middle children are insecurity and jealousy. Being raised in an environment where they have to compete for attention, it’s natural for them to have feelings of insecurity and jealousy of others. Seeing others easily get attention while they continue to strive for attention, these feelings of resentment towards others will continue to build up. All these repressed feelings of being unloved, unwanted or even hated can trigger an extreme case of middle child syndrome where they show psychotic behavior.

Excuse me ma'am, what are your thoughts on someone that loves to be picked on?

I'm not the type of person who likes to see people getting picked on. If they do enjoy it, I would just let them be. But if there's conflict involved, I would intervene.

Oh, my dream is to be picked on, teased, wedgied, and sibling tortured by a older brother or sister. :)

Medical attention may be prudent, especially if she's not menstruating.

She got some hormonal pills and is menstruating regularly now. The problem is that she still acts the same. No idea what's gotten to her.