My Mother Is So Aloof And HostileI always dread visiting my mother because I am never sure how she will be. Will she be chatty or say three words? Not want to do anything or do everything. Get annoyed when I ask her something about what she is doing or tell me a little just to shut me up. All my life my mother has not been very open or communicative and you would think I would be used to it by now. She is so closed off emotionally and I really think she does not really care what I do or my brother does. When either my brother or I try to help with something she gets hostile and angry and pushes us away but if a friend of hers offers to help that is fine. She rarely shows any kind of emotion be it positive or negative and when I tell her something that I am excited about she barely shows interest.
There was recently a blow up between my brother and mother which I unwittingly contributed to by asking him to help her with something. He called to ask about it and she got hostile with him so he hung up on her. He told me he has had enough of her treating us like crap and I don;t blame him. She is angry and I often feel that she wishes she did not have kids to deal with (even though we are in our 50"s). The way I handle it is to spend as little time as I can with her.