I Have A Partner With Anger Issues
Thankfully I left the guy because of his problems, which, looking back, I wonder how I ever did it because I was so impressionable back then which is why I got together with him to start with.
This guy used to get angry at anything. Whether it was mundane or serious. Once we were playing air hockey and he lost count - it was 3 games for a coin. He started bashing and kicking the machine, with people looking at us, and he would turn to them and yell: What?
When I tried to tell him we'd already played 3 times, he started yelling at me. This was just one of the minor things. Look out if anyone cut him off in traffic or short changed him. It didn't even have to happen for real, sometimes he just perceived that something was going against him.
The worst thing was that I couldn't even be myself around him. We would watch tv and he would say something about the show, and if my opinion was different he would arc up and say things like, "Do you think you're better than me?" It was completely irrational. For example, the show might be about curry and he would say how much he loved curry, then I would say, "I don't eat curry if it's too hot." He just seemed to think that if you had a different opinion, even without saying his opinion was wrong or stupid, that you were thinking that anyway. I ended up having to agree with whatever he said, and if he asked me, having to say: "What do you think?" so that he would answer first.
Finally over a few months he had stored enough paranoid perceptions about me to start saying I was against him and was trying to crush him. He would start yelling at me for the smallest thing, and back me into walls and benches, grabbing my arm etc. Once after one of these episodes I called a friend to come and pick me up and he started yelling that my friend had better not come here or he would kill him. After this, I left him.
This guy used to get angry at anything. Whether it was mundane or serious. Once we were playing air hockey and he lost count - it was 3 games for a coin. He started bashing and kicking the machine, with people looking at us, and he would turn to them and yell: What?
When I tried to tell him we'd already played 3 times, he started yelling at me. This was just one of the minor things. Look out if anyone cut him off in traffic or short changed him. It didn't even have to happen for real, sometimes he just perceived that something was going against him.
The worst thing was that I couldn't even be myself around him. We would watch tv and he would say something about the show, and if my opinion was different he would arc up and say things like, "Do you think you're better than me?" It was completely irrational. For example, the show might be about curry and he would say how much he loved curry, then I would say, "I don't eat curry if it's too hot." He just seemed to think that if you had a different opinion, even without saying his opinion was wrong or stupid, that you were thinking that anyway. I ended up having to agree with whatever he said, and if he asked me, having to say: "What do you think?" so that he would answer first.
Finally over a few months he had stored enough paranoid perceptions about me to start saying I was against him and was trying to crush him. He would start yelling at me for the smallest thing, and back me into walls and benches, grabbing my arm etc. Once after one of these episodes I called a friend to come and pick me up and he started yelling that my friend had better not come here or he would kill him. After this, I left him.
By:
BreezyCabin
Age:
31-35
,
Female
