Our Little Maid SemiraHi. I am new here and I just want to write about what happened to our maid, Semira.
It was nearly Christmas time and Semira wanted to go visit her mother in the country side. Semira is about 24 years old. She was kind of slow. I don't mean to be offensive. What I am trying to say is that she doesn't grasp the significance of things and people's actions until it is too late or someone tells her.
Well she was going to the country to visit her parents. We were sad to see her go. It is impossible for the remaining servant to do all the chores so I had to help her because everyone else was too busy at work or school. I was disgruntled about this since it took away my vacation time and I couldn’t go to my own home. But I put up with it as best I could except for the occasional furious outburst .
Semira came home three days late. My mother was really angry about it. She kept promising to me and my sister that she would kick Semira out on her ear when she came back. My sis and I would just look at each other and roll our eyes because we knew she would do no such thing. She is very tender hearted. Even though she would sometimes hurt people with her very sharp honesty, she was also one of the first people who would sacrifice her own comfort for the sake of others.
When she got home, Semira was very listless. She was very quiet and subdued. I didn't notice at first but when I did I thought it was kind of a relief. I tell you; a week ago you couldn't shut that girl up if her life depended on it. And she would always make these stupid jokes that my sister would say were in really poor taste. But now she was totally silent.
I went outside to walk the dog that and when I returned I stood for a few minutes talking to the doorman. He told me that Semira had been crying while waiting for the garbage truck. Normally I would have kept that information to myself but I told my mother about it while I was making coffee for her in the traditional style.
The next morning I rose to the sound of weeping coming from the kitchen. I went downstairs in a hurry. My mum was standing in the kitchen watching Semira pulverize a piece of lamb. Right away I knew that mum had confronted her about her depression. Semira started crying louder. Ooh I am so not going to have breakfast today. Think of all that snot falling out of her nose... ew, ew, ew!
Then to top off this whole ridiculous mess, Semira went and hugged my mum. Mum stared over Semira’s shoulder at me with a faintly alarmed ex
She told us that her half-brother had kicked her out of the house as soon as she got there because she told him that a man had raped her. I mentioned before that Semira is a little slow. When she boarded the bus, she was supposed to go to a place called Wollo. That is more than 200 kms from Addis Ababa. Further than that there is a city called Tigray on the northern Border of Ethiopia. As you might have guessed she boarded the bus for Tigray and the little idiot forgot to get off when she was in her home town. So she travelled across one other region and ended up stranded in a strange place with no money for a hotel room or food. The driver for the bus took pity on her and gave her permission to spend the night in the bus. If there is one thing you can say about Ethiopian men, it is that they like a damsel in distress, at least the good ones do. They have a huge hero complex.
Semira was safe that night. In the morning the driver and his assistant left her with a man she knew back home. He spent the whole day with her. Then he told her that she could spend the night with him at his home and they would do nothing but sleep. Needless to say she believed him. I don't mean to sound callous and cruel but she should have seen it coming. In this day and age when every media outlet is preaching about the dangers of trusting near-strangers, I can't believe that she would go and do something so stupid. That night she spent the night with him and the next morning she was no longer a virgin.
Let's take a step back and examine this for a moment. In this chain of events Semira had seemed like the victim. But what if that wasn't the case? What if she is tricking every one of us including her so called "rapist" into believing that she was an idiot? What if she had planned this as soon as she saw that young man?
Here is why I am very skeptical. In rural Ethiopia a woman's virginity is sacred not only to the woman herself but also to her family and extended relatives. If a man takes a woman's innocence he has to do the honorable thing and marry her. If he refuses to marry her he risks starting a family feud between his family and hers. And mark my words it would be better for you to be surrounded by ten venomous snakes than to make an enemy of an Ethiopian hick. They never forget a slight and they will repay it ten times over before they kill you. Living in the country they are brought up to be ruthless and cunning by their environment. Italian vendettas are like nothing when compared to the blood bath that is an Ethiopian feud.
So a man has to be a moron of galactic magnitude to deflower a woman and leave her without marrying her. Everyone knows this. So why would a man who is known by his victim rape a girl and leave her? I will tell you why. Because he didn't really rape her. She seduced him.
The sad thing about maids and other domestic servants in Ethiopia is that they aren't allowed to have romantic relationships. People forget that they are women who want to have families and men who desire wives. So they are forced to resort to trickery to get what they want. Semira is one such girl. Her family wouldn't permit her to marry when she can work in the city and send them money to spend as they like. The young man wouldn't marry her unless he was forced into it. So by seducing the young man and making the fact known to all, she has killed two birds with one stone. She has snared a husband and forever destroyed her family's oppositions to her marrying.
I feel filthy after writing this. I am going to take a shower.
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