Something That Helped Me A Lot...

Well, I started here on EP breaking all the rules, thankfully unnoticed. I wanted things that turned me on.
Gradually, slowly, more than that seeped through (I'm an advice-giver by nature) and I saw more.
Now I have begun searching for other experiences of things I enjoy, not related to sex etc.
I joined groups, and left other (>18) groups more and more, as I wanted to see more and more of the hobbies I was discovering.
Now, my news feed has very little >18 stuff in it at all (and my circle!).

It took a good 18 months to get to this point, but that's because I was going blindly towards a goal I didn't know I had. Now, I don't have a daily need for >18 stuff anymore, and I'm much happier with my irl relationship :)

Recommend trying it - find something you like, find others who like it too, and share.

Spread those wings ;)

cloudsoflife cloudsoflife
31-35, M
2 Responses May 17, 2012

Yes, I never thought of myself as an advisor, but I will try to at least commiserate on the topics that apply to me. It is a total ego boost to have an response chosen as the "Best Answer". Plus, when all of my life experiences are weighed together, it makes me realize what made me strong and why I chose to survive. I just joined some groups on Facebook too. Recipe sharing, motorcycle riders, knitting, and home organization are tops on my list. At 59, I feel more in control of my life than ever before, but I also know when to relinquish some things, like how to forgive people. How to know when someone is being snarky because of their own insecurities. And when I focus on those areas, I don't spend as much time worrying about this fetish. I know that I'm more than this.

So I discovered something recently.

Strangely, the habitual search for a bigger bladder bulge or a more attractive pp dance meant I got my kicks from anything I found that was superior (in my eyes) to all I'd found before. I lost track of what actually aroused me...

In reality, I get going when I need to pee a little, and also when she does. When it gets worse, I just watch them squirm without any real joy or excitement feeling. That's not always true, like when it's breaking barriers or personal bests by virtue of situation (mostly nights out), then yes I'm excited by that. But the general desperation thing doesn't get me going.

So, I realised that. And I realised that being a bit desperate is much more arousing: intercourse on a full bladder doesn't do it for me because I don't push through that and nor should she have to if she doesn't want to.

So finally, I am losing interest. That must be the only way to remove/modify a fetish: bit by bit realise what it is and change your perception of it. The thing I really liked was saying "F you" to your body, like bursting for a wee, finishing your drink and feeling like superman/woman - then on that high note taking a couple of shots and carrying on the night of drinking. That's just not realistic most of the time, so my interest wanes.

Finally. :)