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The **** It Bucket and the Rule of 5

This is for Fungirlmmm, because she got me thinking about something she wrote last night in regards to anger.

I saw an interview with Anthony Hopkins once where he stated the best prayer he ever heard was "**** It".  He got this from a Jesuit priest, and the priest's explanation for this prayer was:  if you say, "**** It", then you have released the problem into the hands of a higher power.  Brilliant, eh?  In applying this to myself, I altered it slightly and created my very own mental "**** It Bucket"; all the stuff that I do not need goes there.

About 5 years ago, I got the single most important piece of advice in my life from a friend.  I don't know if she conjured this herself or if she heard it from someone else.  I don't care.  It works.  It's called "The Rule of Five".  The rule is simple:  "Will insert issue problem or irritation here matter to me in 5 years?"  If the answer is "no", issue, problem or irritation is dropped like the proverbial  hot potato.  All of my garbage goes into the Bucket.  Now, you may have to adjust your increments of time; 5 years can feel too much like an eternity.  I've gotten it down to 5 seconds when it's been needed. 

The blissfully insidious training in this is that it very quietly and harmlessly shows you how to prioritise.  Once you get the hang of it's practice, then the real fun begins, because The Rule can be applied to everything.  Lights will not go on in your mind; bells, cannons and fireworks will.  You will take it, run like hell and go positively ballistic with it.  The sheer liberation in performing this will blow you away.  You will have enough insipid, meaningless **** in your own Bucket that you could sink the Titanic twice over. 

Go, hit your Bucket, and have a ball!

IAmStillSomeone IAmStillSomeone 41-45, F 5 Responses Jun 17, 2009

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This is a (to me anyway) one of the best posts I have read here on EP. Wisdom!

THANK YOU DEAR, YOU HAVE NO IDEA HOW MUCH I NEEDED THIS LITTLE GROUP & YOUR BRILLIANT IDEA OF A F*** IT BUCKET...I LOVE IT ! OH YEAH...MIGHT WANT TO GO AHEAD & GIVE ME ANOTHER BUCKET NOW, 1st one's gonna get filled up QUICK!!! LOL.

Thank ya, darlin'! Sometimes that Bucket gets its name morphed into the "**** Off!" Bucket; I use whatever works best at the time. ;-) And to those who gave this thing Recs...thank you!

Thanks, Ed! Glad the idea--no matter what the time fr<x>ame is--works.

Great post! I, myself, implemented the one year rule back in college -- will this exam matter to me one year from now? Works so well! Never occurred to me to use the 5 year rule! Thanks for the tip! :)