Confess to Emotional Affair
If your spouse shows you information about emotional affair, and feels certain this is what you are doing, why get so defensive? I have been trying to get my husband to admit this is happening with his "friend" because of all the text messaging, letters found a long time ago, and hiding his phone. I believe he is not having sex, because he admitted he wanted to, and she refused. Why then continue this "friendship" when you both know this is what he wants.
Now, when I bring him articles that explain emotional affairs, he gets angry and says he does not care what I found written because it has nothing to do with him. However, there have been times he begins to see that maybe there is something more, but I should not get upset when they are NOT having sex.
Is that suppose to make me feel better when we are not having sex either. He is hiding what he is doing and how often he feels the need to communicate with this girl half his age. I want to know the real truth, and he just gets defensive or refuses to discuss. Do men have a problem seeing and admitting what is going on, in fear it may have to end? Is it not wanting to hurt the spouses feelings? Or, is it just not being capable of telling the truth or how to communicate openly and honestly?
Women want to know, and we want the truth whether it hurts us or not. Keeping silence or ignoring the issue, does not make it go away, it makes it worse in the relationship. All I do is think about things, look for evidence, and distrust this man of 20 years marriage. What is it, that makes a man unable to communicate?