I Don't Know What To Do, She'll Soon Leave My Life Forever


-I really don't know what to do. There's this girl on my college, and I've known her for the past five years, but we've never really got together, or even became friends. It all changed a few weeks ago for me, when one day she just walked into the classroom as the only thing I could think of was: "God! Was I blind all these years!?" Now I can't stop thinking about her. I've never been in love like this before - heck, I never felt anything this intense before. I tried telling myself it's all in my head, but every time I would see her the whole world would fade away, my heart would go into overdrive and I'd just... I don't know. I just don't know. And I was always indecisive, always insecure. I don't know how to approach her - everything I think of turns into gibberish just from looking her in the eyes...
And in just two weeks, she will leave my life probably forever. And I can't have that. I can't imagine what my world would look like without her in it. So please...
Please... Just help me. I don't know what to do. I don't want to lose her before I ever get the chance to truly know her.
themanoflegends themanoflegends
26-30, M
4 Responses May 13, 2012

I'm a girl and I will give you good advice. Naturally, girls tend to be happy when she finds out that a boy likes her. So, if a rumour was to come out that you liked her then maybe she would turn to you more. But take things slowly. Start smiling at her. Then when you feel that she is smiling back then start simple conversation. It may mean rolling your eyes at her when a teacher you both hate is talking and making her giggle. Make her laugh. And don't lie when you talk to her because then your lie will get back to you. Good luck and contact me for more advice 😎

I don't want to stir anything up, but I'd really like to know how it all ended up :)

The two weeks came, than past me by. I met her, and things went pretty much like I expected them to go. But I think I still made the right choice, and because of that, most of the pain of watching her walk away never came. I still feel the same towards her. She sneaks into my last waking thoughts in the evenings, and on many mornings I wake up with her name on my lips.

It's nice to be able to feel so strongly about someone :)

ok, since she will leave college soon and if things go badly you won't ever see her again you have nothing to lose and everything to gain - be it experience or whatever. if you feel this strongly for her, and want to know her you will have to make the first move. just make an effort to talk to her be funny, confident and pay attention to her, don't play mind games or analyse her behaviour just be real! say it straight up: i realise i've never had the opportunity to talk to you and i heard you say 'blah di blah' (make something up) recently and thought wow, now here's someone i can relate to! hi my name is 'whatever ur name is' etc and just make conversation, just talk about anything and everything - if she leaves without giving her number or whatever just ask for it - no fb thing EXCHANGE NUMBERS. and drop her a text a few days later and then call her a few days after that.

When I wrote this, I thought that she was going to take her exams early and travel to the States for the summer, but I was wrong. Not that this is a vast improvement, but it did give me a chance to see her a few times more than I thought I would. We're going to meet tomorrow, (got an excuse over some book I'm gonna borrow). Thank you for all your advice. And wish me luck. :)

Yes, this is more easily said than done, but you definitely have to talk to her. Think of any excuse to spent even 5 minutes talking to her. Maybe you can ask her something about a lesson you didn't understand (or pretend you didn't understand), or ask her casually what she plans to do for the summer... anything to start. And, once you've caught her attention, it'll be more easy for you to do something together, even if it's not a real date. At least then you'll have a chance to let her know how you really are. Maybe she won't leave, maybe she will anyway. But you have to do something to know. It will be better that spend all your life wondering how it could have all turned out...