No Boy

my family doesn't know that i don't want to have a boyfriend because i think i might be a les.

JenS JenS
18-21, F
3 Responses Mar 9, 2010

Don't be too hard on yourself. You don't have to rush anything. The internet has given us the means to easily find others like ourselves, so you can explore yourself through your interactions with like-minded people. You don't have to declare anything until you are sure what you feel and have grown in confidence sufficiently to stand up for yourself.<br />
Whether or not there is a god, we cannot deny our own individual nature. It is a fact that diversity is not only an evolutionary requirement, it is also impossible to prevent. If you are eventually going to talk to your parents they must come to understand that their choice is either to continue to pressure you to live a life of pretence, or to allow you to grow as the individual that they conceived - like it or not. In the end the only taboo is where you deliberately set out to hurt an innocent person and that is patently not the case here.<br />
Take your time, become strong, prepare your arguments and choose your moment.

i'm from a conservative and religous family so, i can see to it that my mum will be ashamed of me and my dad will look at me strangely.

so sit down with ur self and think about it be real with ur self if u still feel that way go and have an experience with a fem if it rocks ur world tell ur family if they love u they will see and exept u for u