My Loss, His Gain....

My husband was unemployed for 2 years. During this time I worked 3 jobs. I barely made ends meet. He didn't do much to help except spend money on drinking and bowling. My credit fell, I don't think I will ever be able to buy anything again. My car was almost re-poed. I got turned into check systems, because I had over drawn my account. And I didn't have the money to make it current. I put off finishing my degree, all my friends (couldn't afford to do anything) and my dream of barrel racing again. He finally got a good paying job and we were at a place that I could go back to school. I quit my full time job and just worked my part time job. We talked about this. I said money is going to be tight while I go to school. We are going to have to sacrifice. He didn't start paying attention to his money situation. He just spends it however he wants to. Now we are broke and I just started school. He just informed me that he will not be helping me pay for school or to get new tires on my car so I can get to class. He is done helping me out. I not been full time employed since the middle of June. I have three jobs again so I can pay for my own things and i am looking for a fourth while going to school so I can finish. I am so mad at him. I sacrificed everything so I could make it work, but he refuses to. It's his money. I wish I could go back and leave him and resume my life. This may be selfish of me wanting him to help me out. I just always thought he would do the same for me. I told him I put my life on hold for him and he said, "That's life."
turninnburnin3 turninnburnin3
2 Responses Sep 13, 2012

you are better off without him, find a man who is willing the give and take, not just take take take, I am in the same boat as you. Distant yourself, people never change though, you have have a list of things that you don't like being single again vs being with a selfish man, see which one is worse and choose the other one.

That's very sad, =( It hurts just to read it.

It will make me stronger though:) Thanks for your support.