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Fear Of Death Is Driving Me Crazy

Hello Everyone,

I guess I will start off by saying my fear of death started as a child.  Any time I think of it, of what happens after (do I just disappear?  Everyone I love?)  I have a panic attack.  Just typing this is unsetting me.  As a child I talked to my father and he settled my fears by promising to be there waiting for me in the after life.  He passed away when I was 22 and in my heart I am still holding him to his promise!

Now I am almost 39 and the youngest of my family, my mother will be turning 70, my brothers 49 and 42.  Time seems to be flying by so fast and it seems that there is so few years left to us ><.  I know this sounds illogical but I cant help it.  Most of the time I am fine and then something click and Im pacing back and forth across the floor just about to come out of my skin in fear. 

I dont know who to talk to, because I really feel like Im going crazy.  My family is not very religious I believe that there is more than this (life) but Im not sure and no one can prove it to me.  This fear is starting to interfer with my life, lately I have been having a bit of chest pain which I am 98 percent sure it is from my diet lately and stress but I am having a hard time falling a sleep this last week.  The stupid thought that Im going to die in my sleep keeps going through my head and if I did what will happen to my mother and brothers?  Who would find my body ect ect.   Even right now it is almost midnight and here I am. 

Does any one have any suggestions how I can coop with this fear?  Please understand that saying trust in god is not going to help me.

noemail633 noemail633 36-40 5 Responses May 22, 2010

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I have this fear too. I get upset with myself for wasting my life obsessing over something I cannot control. Sometimes I think in 10000 years or so science will advance so much that people live to be 200 or 300 years old. Who knows maybe people will live forever one day. But it only makes me mad that I wasn't born sometime in the future....I want to enjoy more life. I love being alive. I don't want it to ever end. I wish I wasn't so aware. I wish I had stronger religious beliefs. I also have a fear of eternity. Being gone for all eternity. I am really considering seeing a therapist.

Your story sounds like mine. I have woke up in the middle of the night and paced back and forth for hours just thinking about it. Aaahh! I need help to.

Some prefer talking to a therapist, but I guess if you want reassurance talk to a priest. I don't think you have to be part of the church. Just be honest to them and they will provide comfort. And I've had this issue many times before. I've found that therapy and a small amount of medication helps, and talk to your family. The connection between you may also comfort you and help you sleep.

My family is catholic and they tell me that we are all going to a better place. But yet they still wear black at funerals and cry ...I think they are supposed to be happy and laugh not cry. Does not make sense to me. And when I mention it they say I need help. I think they are not facing the truth ...that we just don't know.

My family is catholic and they tell me that we are all going to a better place. But yet they still wear black at funerals and cry ...I think they are supposed to be happy and laugh not cry. Does not make sense to me. And when I mention it they say I need help. I think they are not facing the truth ...that we just don't know.