Missing Sisters

When I was a child, my mother told me the story of my having been a twin. Sadly, my twin was  not born alive, and I have always wondered what life would have been like, had she lived. How different my life, my family's life would have been.

Oddly enough, several years ago, before my mother died, she told me I have another sister. A living sister, older than me. By my calculations, perhaps five years older than me.  My father had gotten a girl pregnant and she had decided to move away and keep that child on her own, having no further contact with my dad that I know about.

My father doesn't know I have been told this. But this family mystery has been gnawing at me for years. And now, Dad is creeping up there in years.

Part of me really wants to seek this sister out. My older sister. See our family resemblance in our features, hear her voice, know her talents and struggles. But I do not know her name, or what state to start in. Or if I would ruin her life by seeking her out. She would be 50-ish. Possibly have her own grand children.

This will probably remain a mystery. I can not dream of how to approach my father. And I have no wish to disrupt someone else's life. I simply feel deprived and sad.

Bananafone Bananafone
46-50, F
2 Responses Mar 2, 2009

Wow, I kinda thought that, but what if she doesn't know her "Dad" isn't her bio Dad? What if her Mom never told her? <br />
And how do even begin this conversation with my Dad? Guess I need to make a trip and do this face to face...<br />
Ummm Dad, there's something I need to ask you about. Mom mentioned a daughter you had before me...before you gusys were married... (sigh - getting butterflies in my belly)

what!!!! finding your sister isnt an imposition on anyone! you have to do this! you have to find her! it will eat away at you if you dont! then you have to post everything cuz i have to know what happens!!! she may not know about you! how could anyone be upset if they met a sibling they never knew? you would be robbing her and you by not seeking her out. and as far as your dad goes he owes this to you! hes the one who had the kid!