My Worst Fear


My story starts with one of my best friends.  She was very healthy, just married, and ready to start a family.  She went to he gynecologist for a check up and what she thought would be a regimen to become a “mommy.” Instead her doctor found a lump on her breast and she was prepared to have a biopsy.  We played the denial game that weekend, telling her it was probably nothing, all the while we were all scared to death about what would happen the following week.  What would he tell her?  Would he have to remove her breast?  How will we support her if it comes to that?  We supported her with smiles on our face and tears late into the night worrying about her.  I flew in to be with her and took her to appointment.  I think I took the news harder than she did when he said that it was cancer.  She went through the radiotherapy (not sure that is what it is called) and they thought she was through it but it came back with a vengeance.  She had her breast removed in an attempt to save her life.  Not once did she complain; however she did insist that we all go to our own gynecologists.  My friend lost her fight with cancer but she did not die in vain.  My friends and I are very vigilant with the younger generations in our lives insisting that they make those annual appointments no matter how embarrassing it is to lie there with your legs in those stirrups.


Because of this effort my younger sister was diagnosed with cervical/ovarian cancer in earlier stages.  I insisted that my sister go to my OB/Gyn and even agreed to pay for it.  She was quite embarrassed to be in the office with a bunch of pregnant ladies.  I assured her it was for her own good and bullied her into going.  I am so glad I did.  She got her pap smear results back and they informed her they found abnormal cells and needed her to come back for more tests.  She calls to tell me and I answered her saying “yeah right goober.  You just want more money from me so you can go buy some new shoes.”  After she told me she had made another appointment I realized she wasn’t playing.  We went back for the final results of those tests and again, I was sitting next to a young woman with their life ahead of them as they were told that a gynecological cancer was going to interrupt the plans they have for their immediate life as they go through the treatments and the invasions upon their body.  My sister is a fighter however and she fights with all she has every day.  We have dealt with the loss of her hair and the throwing up over and over again; the weakness of it all, the weight loss, the depression, and the times that she just cannot work because she isn’t strong enough to do so. 


Ovarian cancer causes more deaths than any other cancer of the female reproductive system. But when ovarian cancer is found in its early stages, treatment is most effective. Ovarian cancer often causes signs and symptoms, so it is important to pay attention to your body and know what is normal for you. Symptoms may be caused by something other than cancer, but the only way to know is to see your doctor, nurse, or other health care professional. So please if you notice any changes in your body seek the assistance of your health care provider.


All women are at risk for ovarian cancer, but older women are more likely to get the disease than younger women; my sister is one of the exceptions to this being only 24 years of age. About 90 percent of women who get ovarian cancer are older than 40 years of age, with the greatest number being aged 55 years or older. In 2006, the year my sister was diagnosed 18,842 women in the United States were told that they had ovarian cancer.  That is a lot of women living with cancer.  It also makes it the second most common gynecologic cancer, after uterine.  Ovarian cancer causes more deaths than any other gynecologic cancer in the U.S., but it accounts for only about 3 percent of all cancers in women. 


My worst fear is that I will lose my sister and I won’t be there in her hour of need.  I would give up my life for her if I knew it would give her a chance to live her life and adopt children as she wants to do some day.  If you are a woman please go to your OB/GYN for annual screenings, and if you love a woman please insist that she gets examined.  It may make the difference in life or death. 


fungirlmmm fungirlmmm
46-50, F
7 Responses Feb 19, 2009

I am sorry sweetie.

D10, I went to your story and had tears in my eyes as I read it. Some great points there my dear friend.<br />
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My, Also some great points! thanks.<br />
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CPA, You make some very valid points. Thanks again for all your comments. <br />
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Peedee, It is so hard to deal with the aftermath that your loved one could possibly be here with you if she had gone to the doctor earlier. I am so sorry. ((hugs)) Thank you for sharing.<br />
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All Rog, Thanks for your comments. l hope it does help. <br />
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Arthur, I will keep you informed. ty sweetie. I have happy bunny out tonight btw.

Bless, Thanks, I will do.x

Please do Squadi because I adore you and I want you to be here with me for a long time.

Thanks for your story. I've dreaded getting checked until all this stuff came about with Jade Goody. Now it seems like it all hit home front. Its can affect anyone. Young old or rich or poor.x

My best friend died of cancer a few years ago. She found a lump in her breast, but didn't tell anyone or go to the doctor. By the time she did finally go, it was to late. Chemo and radiation therapy did help and it prolonged her life for a year, which she was grateful for. Her greatest wish was to see her grandson being born and she did.<br />
And, she made everyone of her friends promise to get mamograms and check-ups yearly, which we all DO!!

I had a coworker who kept getting sick. It wasn't anything serious, just a vague nausea and what felt like bladder infections. After many months of this she was diagnosed with ovarian cancer. OC hides behind a multitude of symptoms that seem to point to something else like bladder or stomach problems. It's often chalked up to Irritable Bowel Syndrome or stress. She finished her chemo and kept working. That was 10 years ago! Ladies, listen to your bodies. If something is wrong and doesn't get better, don't give up seeking answers.