I Have A Spouse That Has Dissociative Identity Disorder
I guess I am lucky in the sense that my husband doesn't transition often. But when something does happen it is huge. Most recently was last summer. It was his mother who abused him physically, mentally and now we believe sexually. We went back to his hometown where his mother lives to get his brother and drive him back down to where we live. He was getting the abuse since my husband left when he was 15. Unknowing to me for three months, my husband was not there. His alter mimic (named that because he can mimic any of the other alters to almost perfection). I had no idea he had transitioned , he even had Sam (the mother figure) fooled, she said she had no idea it wasn;t him,he must have switched while he was helping his brother pack in his childhood home. He came to a day after my birthday in august and it was two weeks of trying to explain to him all that happened over the past few months. Getting him time off on such short notice was a pain too because he didnt want to explain what happened but for that much time his manager wanted a reason. That has been the worst of all the things that have happened while I have been with him. Besides that I was gone through a hospitalization, and a new alter emerging. I don't regret being with him, and I honestly have no problems with him having DID. The only thing I wish I could do is when he comes come depressed and wanting to kill himself, all I can do is sit there and listen, nothing I say helps. We have talked about integration but we are both undecided on it, my whole thing is him having to go through all the memories that have been repressed. And also he would lose a part of his family in a way I guess, the alters know more about him then he would ever tell me. I know he has trust issues so when he doesnt want to tell me something I accept it, and I never push for an explanation. There is just so much to explain, I do have a friend that he has told about his disorder that I can talk to and she kind of understands since she has a mental disorder as well. My mom will listen to him and me but I know she doesnt understand how it all works. He has a total of 8 alters, we both see psychologists who sepcialize in, we do individual and couple counseling. I just wish I could do more for him, I hate to see him in pain, he has been having these recurring dreams where he is being sexually abused by his mother, he has no memory of this, and he will not tell his psychologist because he doesnt trust her, it took him 3 months to finally tell me. I do not want to lose his trust so I will not go behind his back and tell her myself. He said he cannot tell if it is just a nightmare or a memory. I know the answer to that, there is a very high chance that it is a memory, but I do not know how to tell him. I guess it is just nice to get it out, sorry it was so random and bouncy i have had these things on my mind for a couple of weeks now,
