My Husbands Alter Doesn't Want A Wifehello new here and didn't know where else to turn...my hubby and I have been together for over 12yrs...and have worked hard to build our lives together in that time...he has accepted my two girls from an abusive marriage as his own and now we are grandparents X 3...health issues we have had our share but we have always managed to be there for one another.
Since I guess maybe September another alter has been popping in...and saying things that were out of character for him... in regards to the life we have...he made it plain he did not want a wife or children or anyone around him.. this way fleeting and only would last an hour or two and then Hubby would come back and not remember anything but lost time.
I always knew he was DID as am I ...and he always knew I was... we accepted whoever was out and so did he. Until this other alter came he berated my 4yr old alter and caused a lot of chaos in my system..but I am not here to talk about that. Just letting you know how he was.
He chose a girl on line to be friends with...she was looking for a "Daddy" cause she likes to wear diapers and he the alter would take virtual trips to the zoo or playground with her...we don't know if she was just role playing or what....but the other alter became very attached to her and has written his feelings down on EP...I can see hubby switch mid story after a few paragraphs of the alter stating that she (the girl) is the dream he'd been searching for to hubby saying you lied and that is why I can not longer be there for you.
The alter was planing on leaving...no there is no real evidence of this...no plane ticket no packed bags but he was trying to get a debt card on our account...Hubby found out when the card was reported as stolen...cause of suspicious charges...things he bought her... the alter even went on line and let her pick out her own card...Hubby didn't know any of this he only lost time. A lot of time.
I am trying to get my head around this as is he...but for now he is mentally shut down and emotionally shutdown...he was devastated yesterday....I understand where he is but I don't know how to help him...
Any and all advice would help...Thank You.
elderwitch47 46-50, F 3 Responses 0 Nov 16, 2012