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March 9th 2010

I got married to an amazing man, a decision I do not and will not ever regret.

The night before my marriage he was helping me pick out what to wear when he stumbled said "I'm insane" and fell backwards onto a coffee table piled with laundry.

Then he started to laugh. I stared confused, and dazed. We had both taken Ambien to help us get good rest before the good day, and I was not processing anything.

I asked if he was okay and only got more laughter in response. He had grabbed the twin blades that were nearby which I promptly took from him. I had no idea what was going on but knew something was very, very wrong. So when he grabbed the sword I demanded it be given back. He refused. I asked for the sword and told him he needed to lie down. He held tightly and laughed. I knelt in front of him put both hands on the sword and demanded again that it be given to me.

"How are you going to make me?"

I just stared back and he paused and let go. He then let me help him stumble to the bed. He laid down and began laughing and asking to talk to a friend that I knew well, but he used her full name. I remember thinking "He is a completely different person." I was still confused but I called her and told her that my husband wanted to talk to her and I handed him the phone. I was standing a few feet away and I began to hear things like "Why are you asking who you're talking to, you know who this is." Other points in the conversation made me realize. . . he was a completely different person. I heard her say

"He's getting married tomorrow!" and I heard him say

"Oooh, tomorrow should be interesting. I didn't know that."

Eventually she demanded I be handed the phone. He complied and as she spoke to me I watched him.

"I really shouldn't be the one to tell you this but I don't really have a choice. My brother has multiple personalities. This is Mere. He's mostly harmless but does like to get your husband in trouble, so if anything just keep him away from his mom."

"Umm. Okay, well I'm going to deal with this. I'll talk to you later."

So I sat down on the bed a few feet from him, looked in my husband's eyes and saw a different person.

"Hi" I said "What's your name?"

"My name is none of your concern." he said and laughed. He always laughs.

Not much longer and my husband returned. I called is pseudo sister back and handed him the phone. I let her explain what had happened. We laid together and he was upset. He wanted to tell me, but how do you tell someone such a thing? He assured me he would not let me marry him without knowing, and I believe him. He apologized and told me he did not want to make me have to deal with such insanity... he was so concerned for me.

I cried and said the only thing that scared me was the thought that he may not let me marry him.

The next day, very tired, we got married.

Parsain Parsain 18-21, F 9 Responses Apr 13, 2010

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I don't think being schizo has anything to do with his awareness of the personalities. Trayus is now aware of eight alters, because we searched for answers and didn't back down. That created a lot of problems for a long time, though. It destabilized his system and transitions became more frequent and more problematic than they had been in a long time. Alters he hadn't known of stopped hiding their existence from him.



I was pushed away, and still am when control slips from him. In fact one of the alters at one point united a majority of the alters against us, and was going to take control and leave me. Then we got pregnant and they changed their mind, then we lost the baby and we know Jin is plotting to try again but we're not sure what to expect.



Hmm. . . sorry, he's transitioning right now, lol. ttyl.

My boyfriend has schizo/ mpd. I understand how scary that stuff can be, especially when the others take over. If you want to talk contact me.



You're lucky that's all that happened. My boyfriend's alter Jake is the mean one. He pushed me away for almost two years now but finally gave in after almost splitting us up. But I love all three of my boyfriend's other personalities and couldn't live without them.



Do you run into this alter a lot? My boyfriend is also schizophrenic so he's aware of his personalities, although a lot of the time when they take over he can't remember squat. Let me know.

If that is how the word uniting is being used, then definitely that is our goal.

Thank you for sharing this!

I agree with Faucon, uniting in the sense of having internal communication, coordination and cooperation would make his life easier.

Getting rid of an alter is something that I'm still vary wary of. I've read too many accounts about people who thought they got rid of one, but eventually they returned. Blending two or more is a possibility however, provided they're willing to. Again, I don't know this from personal experience, I'm still a mess. :)

Ultimately perhaps uniting will be a goal some day. Right now it's just working with them as best as possible.

Trayus' religious beliefs prevents him from doing hypnotherapy. At the same time, though, we're not certain that ridding of the alters is or should be our goal.

Parsain, you're a brave woman, perhaps I didn't take enough breath as I was reading your story. Yes, please keep on posting, oh you're so young also! But I smiled when read that "Mere" liked to laugh. FYI, multiple personality seems to be able to overcome with some hypnotherapy. Please read Sybil by Flora Rheta Schreiber. Hugs for you and "Mere" :)

Thanks for the encouragement to keep posting. =)

Wow! That was surreal...kinda straight out of a movie or something...keep us posted girl...i reckon you're about to lead an extraordinary life...