My Husband Had/is Still Having?? An Emotional Affair With His Coworker. What Now?
On Friday night I discovered that my husband was having an "emotional" affair...(I will only call it that because I have no PROOF that they were physical). I found emails and pictures dating back to three years ago. She sent him pictures of herself in lingerie. She even sent him a link to a hotel just a few days ago that she liked to which he responded "when are we going". When I looked at the dates on these emails I was devestated. The first one I found with pictures of her in lingerie were sent the day before we got engaged. The others were sent around our first wedding anniversary and a week after our second child was born. There were so many of them I just didn't know where to start or what to think. In the emails he called her "perfect" said she was his "#1". I have been with this man for over ten years and married almost two years. We have two kids, one isn't even a year old and the other is three. I am deeply saddened and severely PISSED. I want out. I feel like there is no going back after this. If this happened less than two years into our marriage what will happen later on. I am not perfect. Obviously I didnt' give him something because he went looking for it in someone else. The fact that they work together makes it worse. He will always see her. I have no control over anything. I will never know if they are still having the affair. I will never know anything. I feel that the only thing I can do is leave. But everyone keeps telling me that "men are weak" and that I have to remember that people make mistakes. All I feel is pain for my children and for myself. I cant' get her face out of my head. I can't get the words he said to her out of my head. I am a wreck and somehow I have to find a way to be strong for my kids. I'm sorry if I am rambling but this just happened a few days ago and i'm a mess!!!! If I leave him is that the wrong thing to do? Is leaving without trying unfair to my kids? All I see is the two of them together. I know it will take years before I can start to heal. I'm so confused.