I Have a Story to Tell

My Personal Story

By: anointedonee

Written on January 23rd, 2012

i have been dating this guy for a year. for the past one year we have being dating, all he did was to criticize every man i had dated and finding means of talking to them about me. He succeeded in driving all my male and female friends away from me, because he said am not truthful and all the men i dated never loved me, but dated me because i was available. he calls me names at the least provocation and blackmails me when he feels threatened. he even posted some nude pix of me on some websites, but the fact of it all is I love this guy so much. he said i never came up to tell him about my sexual life. when i gather the courage to leave, he persuades me to come back, but now, he has broken up with me without any cause. what do i do?

By: anointedonee

Age: 22-25

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9 responses

boookah

three things alcohol, friends and time

Alcohol to numb the pain, friends for the loneliness and comfort. And time, to move on.

Feb 16, 2012
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bbwbellylover

He sounds like a real loser. Find yourself a winner. This guy has too many issues.

Feb 9, 2012
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RickISAmasing

You are much better off to be rid of him. I dont know why you stayed with him. He was an abuser and you are lucky he didnt hurt you. Stay away from him. Make new friends and dont be so quick to commit everything to one person. Now that you are free of him maybe some of your old girl friends will want to visit again.

Feb 9, 2012
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- anointedonee
  thank you for the advice..it is appreciated
  
  Feb 9, 2012
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oldfarmguy

I see him trapping you in all of this. Making sure you have no friends or no life aside of him. That is the first step to a very abusive relationship. Please for your own sake, forget him and move on to a better life.

Feb 7, 2012
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- anointedonee
  thanx so much for your advice will do just dat!
  
  Feb 7, 2012
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effy2012

If you still love a man who can do all of those horrible things to you, then you need to look in the mirror and ask why? We all have self-destructive impulses that usually stem from poor self esteem.

Take this time to work on yourself. Identify those traits which lead you to this type of man and deal with them. See a therapist if you think it will help. But, as the others have said, if you chose abusive relationships and then stay in them, the cycle of abuse never decreases.

Feb 1, 2012
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buddingrose4u

Give thanks to God that you are free of him. The abuse will only escalate over time and your self-worth will spiral downwards.

Kindest Regards,

Rose

Jan 30, 2012
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lorena1

Move on honey. He never loved you to begin with. Who does that to someone they love? Focus on your life and what you want out of it the rest will fall in its place on its own. :) Good Luck!!

Jan 27, 2012
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