I think our sense of humour is a very big part of who we are. And there are some jokes that you can only ever share with a few people. When you meet someone with the same sense of humour you invariably hit it off. My sense of humour is very, very dry and quite dark but most things make me laugh because I was brought up by people who acted like we had a responsibility to make eachother laugh, to help us got on with eachother. Not all families do this - I have now experienced 2 families of partners who think that helping eachother and showing polite interest in eachothers lives is much more important than making eachother laugh. They look at me in dismay as I embellish a minor incident to make it funnier and then say, "but it didn't happen quite like that, did it?". No of course it didn't. It's my duty to try not to bore you so I'm jazzing it up. But they think its my duty to relate the exact truth. Since the incident didn't affect them, the truth is irrelevant really. Laughter is a social glue that can bind us together with someone with whom we have nothing else in common. It can lift us out of dispair and make us realise that we don't want to die yet because there will always be things to laugh about. Sometimes I think of something really funny and realise that the only other person in the world who would have 'got' the joke is now dead. That's when I feel saddest that they are gone now. Sorry this story wasn't funnier.