My Wife Never Stops Talking, But We Never Talk!
My wife is an incessant talker. However, we never talk. I cannot get a word in edgewise with her. She literally can talk non stop for three hours. If I try to interject a thought she scolds me for interrupting her. If she pauses and I start speaking, same thing. She is so busy talking that she never takes time to listen. When she talks, even if I'm watching a TV program, she mutes the TV. I can't read the mail if she is talking. I feel alone, and she dominates every conversation. She has no friends and if anyone should try to get to know her she becomes so critical of them that she pushes everyone away. I hear a constant barrage of insults form her every day. She sits around all day thinking of all those things which displease her, usually me. Then when I get home she unloads it all on me. I just listen and shut up, because I cannot talk to her, only listen. Our marriage is suffering and she says it's because I do not communicate with her. Every attempt at communication becomes a huge monologue for her. She has no idea who I really am because she won't take the time to allow me to communicate that to her. I love her dearly, but am searching for some way I can communicate to her. I have resorted to writing letters, but that infuriates her. And, I'm too nice of a person to tell her she is boring me to death with her incessant talking. Once in awhile she will pause long enough to ask me, "What did I just say?" so she can make certain I am listening to her. Sex in our marriage has become non existent. All intimacy is gone. I mentioned sex a few weeks ago and she bit my head off. I love her dearly, but we seriously need to communicate. I'm going to try this weekend. We are going to a marriage seminar on '"Communicating with your spouse." I'm hoping she will see the error of her ways. If not, I'm going to be very bold, and just nail her hindquarters to the wall. One way or the other she will hear what I have to say!