Will She Come Around?

I have a younger sister. She is 19, and I am 24. We have the same mother but a different father. Up until I was 13 years old I lived with my mom, my step-dad, and my little sister. When I was 13 I went to live with my bio-logical father until I was 18. During my time as a minor I would go to my mother's house every other weekend and holidays. Over the years I felt my sister and I growing farther and farther apart, When we were little we always loved playing together, my sister acted like she truly looked up to me and respected me as her older sister and always enjoyed spending time with me. However, shortly after she was around 13 and I was around 18 our relationship as sisters was slim to none. In my senior year of high school I drove her to school almost everyday just to have the chance to re-kindle the bond between us. However, things were never the same. 

       The years rolled by and my sister NEVER calls and we live in the same city. She never emails me. Once when her mom and dad were out of town and they asked me to stay at their house so she wouldn't have to be alone. During that weekend she stayed gone with her friends and only came back to sleep and eat and shower. When she was out late she wouldn't call to check in and it worried me sick. I guess I have just always wanted to be friends with my sister like I see my friends who are friends with their sisters. However, she never gives me the chance. We live in the same town and I could die and she would never know it. 

      Maybe its more important to me because I'm older and I realize that when our parents are dead all we have is each other. She always had it so much easier. Her parents were together, mine were divorced and I was tossed back and forth like a volley ball for more of my childhood/teenage years. When I was 18 I left home and ran out of money and couldn't finish college. Her parents allowed her to stay and now she's finishing college long before me. I make attempts to have a relationship with her but she makes no attempt back. I have just as much of a social life as she does but I still make time. She's very much caught up in HER friends, HER job, HER classes. I don't know if that's part of being 19 but I don't remember being that way. When I was 19 I was practically married raising my boyfriend's kids. 

   I have hopes that she will come around when she's older. I don't know what I'll do if she does not. I love her so much despite the years between us and the growing apart we've done. I just want us to be close again, in touch with each other at least once a week. Not a few times a year. It makes me feel like I"m not wanted. Oh well, all I can do is love her and hope for change.

Maryella Maryella
22-25, F
1 Response Mar 13, 2010

Give her Time she is young there will be a time when she realizes family is what you have and it is very important.just keep the lines open. God Bless