My Adhd Hell

I know exactly what kind of struggle you are going through, as I experience that too. It is a challenge, and I hope you are making progress!

I agree with lips, and I speak from experience. Your brain is different. Would your wife cry if you were deaf, and you didn't hear her? Most likely, the two of you would resort to sign language. I experience something like this. My husband is frustrated with my adhd, and he can be short and nasty. However, if you are doing the best you can, that's all that you can do. Perhaps she can write things down in a notebook or journal for you. I know it is impossible to remember tasks that someone merely asked you to do.

Here's are two greats book to get you started, recommended to me by a counselor who thought I might have ADD:



http://www.amazon.com/Stupid-Self-Help-Attention-Deficit-Disorder/dp/0684815311

http://www.amazon.com/Driven-Distraction-Recognizing-Attention-Childhood/dp/0684801280/ref=pd_sim_b_5

Well, I'd say something, but I don't have enough information about you, how your parents brought you up, how you had treated your friends in high school and so on.

You're telling the result and I'm always eager to find out the source.

I am studying ADHD in children right now. My assumption is that in some cases it can be

a reflection of your paren't relationship and it's a worked out reaction to their relationship.

In another case treating your wife bad is your aggressive reaction to the difficulties of the

real life and it's an aggression to your parent's system in which you were raised.

I think the understanding of this will help you to deal with your life's responsibilities better.

I'd go to a group study where I'd find people with same problems. It helps to recover and understand that you can come over your feelings and forgive your parents and earlier life in general. Good luck!

I have two sons with ADHD, one of them copes very well with it, more the dreamer type, but the other struggles very hard or better, does nothing to achieve something in life, although he took methylphenidat for about 10 years and I took him to many therapies. Now he refuses to take medicine any longer.

My husband has it too, I'm sure. But he won't go for a test.

I'm really sorry you and your wife have to go through this.I can truly feel your pain.My husband is desperate to "fix" me.Obsessed about somehow magically make me okay and normal.Believing Pills and Therapy can turn me into a functioning member of society while I know it's not gonna happen and it's just a matter of time until he'll come to the same realization

You're on the right track! There is help for this, trust me, I know! Once you get an official diagnosis, the process begins. It won't always be easy, but find a path and stick with it! There IS a light at the end of the tunnel. Peace-



Don

Hey i can understand what you are going through...its extremely difficult out there especially it hurts when you see the person you love is crying because of you..



You know its useless to regret to what you dont have...you should be happy that you have such a loving wife..nowadays its extremely difficult to have sincere relationships..you are gifted with such a wonderful person...you can make her happy to make efforts not by getting depress...you need to take desperate efforts not by just thinking that i should do this or that...you should make absolute deadlines that these things have to be done at this time at any cost...not by just making plans...you need to start thinking of improvement seriously no matter now difficult it is..."everything is fair in love and war"...do things which you have not done before...read my story in which i have given tips to tackle things..



i know i also get depress sometimes when i waste 3 or 4 hours daily...but then i stand up with n do things with new passion n feel good about myself..you know why i am so passionate about tasks?? because i have got such a loving fiance that i dont want to hurt him or loose him at any cost...i feel lucky to have him...and i dont want to regret afterwards that i didnt do desperate efforts for successful relationship...you should not waste a single second in regreting and love your wife as much as you can..



you dont know what will happen in future...life can br extremely difficult if you dont have sincere relationship...make efforts for this relationship as much as you can...make her happy as much as you can...good luck!!

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