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Adhd Success? The Keys...

I read of a list of successful people who have ADHD, or thought to have it, including Michael Jordan and Albert Einstein

Wow. I have been asking myself, "how do they make it even with ADHD?"

So I read a few articles on ADHD and how to succeed with it. I find a couple of ideas I think could likely be true:

1) Do what makes you hyperfocus. As ADHD/ADD sufferer, we have the ability to enter the zone, and once we are in the zone, we can go for hours without rest.

2) Have a good self-esteem. Accept yourself.

I think for those of us who end up on the short end of the ADHD stick we likely have made the same common mistakes: Working on our weaknesses instead of utilizing our strength to the max.

Having my ADHD undiagnosed gave me a huge disadvantage. I kept thinking that I could compete with normal people on their turf. I kept pushing myself to work harder, be more discipline, to not drop the ball, to out focus everyone on everything, to study how to study, to come up with the best time management, to accomplish multiple things, to overcome my weaknesses (now I know they are symptoms)

It was an uphill battle to the 90 degree, which mean I am trying to walk up a straight wall! I realize that unless the biological cause of my condition is cured, I will never be able to overcome the symptoms. Instead, I should do what feel right. For example, I knew I had the tendency to get addicted, but I didn't know that doing what I love would replace my addictions. I forced myself to do boring stuff instead of what I love. This create the vaccum for the bad pleasure to creep in.

I had a very negative upbringing, which made me feel guilty whenever I do something that feel good. I was trained to put a stop to anything that give me the thrill---the energy that ADHD craves. The irony is that, when it comes to bad addictions, I couldn't stop. I denied myself too much, but I still crave energy. Having denied positive energy, what was left was the negative ones.

I could only stop doing what I love that are productive, but couldn't stop craving the high that entertainment could give. ADHD people like to watch TV, play game, drink, and just seek excitement.

All these years because of not being able to know what was going on I kept forcing myself to be normal, i.e. to be very disciplined, work hard, and not get addicted to pleasure.

Now I know I should actually combine productivity and pleasure. This was why some people succeed even with ADHD. They were able to do something that they love and get paid for it.

In other words, ADHD is a void of energy. It craves energy. The sufferer can only function when there is energy. We have got to do things that give us plenty of stimulation, excitement, adrenaline, good feeling, and that makes us forget our problems.

When we are able to forget our problems by hyperfocusing on doing what we love (and productive), we can go non-stop. We can leave the boring stuff to our normal people assistants when we make enough money by using our strength.



Excellency Excellency 26-30, M 4 Responses Dec 25, 2011

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thank you, this does help. is it possible to have adhd and yet NOT hyperfocus though? i can't think of anything i can hyperfocus on except daydreaming, and even with that i can't seem to stay track with that either! i used to be able to hyperfocus on reading, but now i can't barely get through a few pages unless the book is extremely interesting, i haven't read a whole book in two years except one which i finished a few weeks ago.<br />
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also with accepting myself, that will take some time. i struggle with very low self esteem after having hated myself for years. but i will try. thank you for this, i will try to keep this in mind.

Agreed. I couldn't put it better myself.

Thanks. I am very encouraged by the affirmation from a fellow sufferer.

@arteye<br />
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I think if we happens to have high intelligent and ADHD, we do get a lot more sensually than average, or at least we reaction seems to look like we are very high. I guess it's good.<br />
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Thanks for the personal experience. <br />
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@ ShakespeareSonnet116<br />
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Yes, and not knowing that while having that negative self-image, punish-ba<x>sed discipline, I-wanna-be-normal, things-I-like-are-not-good-mentality... will only lock us in a negative cycle, and ultimately destructive.<br />
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Thanks

Agreed!<br />
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I am beginning to find my feet now (diagnosed only a few years ago).<br />
I'm trying different aspects of my favoured subject areas (the arts), searching for my hyper-focus.<br />
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It's the accepting that I find most interesting. I'm allowing myself more leeway now. The constant berating inner dialogue has lessened considerably.<br />
I no longer feel lesser because I am not like my siblings. I no longer feel the shame of not being able to get the things that I see in my mind to fruition. Because now I see that I've just been using the wrong templet.<br />
It is not that I am unintelligent. I just need to move stuff about a bit until I find the correct fit =)<br />
Knowing that is empowering.