Explaining The Inexplainable To The Doubting Thomas'

So, as many others have done, I'll put this disclaimer to say, this is my story, my experience, yours maybe different.

I haven't actually been officially diagnosed with ADHD. But, when I first found out about it and read some more, I got my AHA! moment. It's understandable that many sufferers of ADHD go through life without expecting to have a condition and, the fact that they are challenged by easy things can be considered as 'sure everyone probably has the same problem'. I've always known there was something different and I've been on a quest for the better part of 20 years to find it. Self help book after self help book, energy drinks, vitamins, coffee, exercise, hypnotherapy, changing jobs (far too much) and sulking. When you don't know what the problem is and try to fix issues that are incidental of the underlying one, you don't get anywhere. The problems you think you have fixed come back. I believe that no-one thought there was much to fix for me as I was just a day dreamer and possibly a slow learner. Average grades in school seemed to be acceptable. Being a bit socially awkward (even though I was massively so) was thought to be something I'd grow out of. I don't blame anyone for this not being realised before and so I won't dwell on that.

The problem I see is acceptance of this condition and for it to be treated with respect. Too many people rush in and say 'there's a condition for everything these days'. Or 'it's just drug companies trying to get your money'. If someone needs treatment for something, thats far more important than slamming it's severity and pretty much calling it a mediocre condition.

Trying to explain to someone what ADHD is and how I am affected by it is stupidly hard. The symptoms are too common in too many people, they just fail to grasp that these symptoms are a constant in the lives of ADHD people. If someone asks me what my symptoms are, I say 'I lose attention, procrastinate at work, forget things, get lost, have social anxiety, crave change' etc, they often respond with 'yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, I have all of those but I definitely don't have ADHD'. I try to explain that they are always there in an ADHD sufferer. It would take a very personal conversation to explain it properly, which isn't something you should have to do with a person who isn't a professional therapist. So, I come away thinking that they believe I don't have it. I will be getting a diagnosis on this. When/if that comes back as 'Does have ADHD', people are likely to think 'but this is an over diagnosed condition, there's a high chance you don't have it'. It's an unwinnable fight.

I guess the best/only way is to not discuss it and get treatment. Living with it and expecting people to accept you for being different will just not work
forevercloudy forevercloudy
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2 Responses Dec 15, 2012

PS. I have a T-shirt with that exact logo on it as the channel and I wear it with pride :3

The ones that do "get it" are pretty much the same books on different pages.
I wish I couldn't relate so well to what you said but it's prety silly to run from the truth.
All I know is that I changed a lot since I was a child and I learned many things in order to mature myself in different aspects of life, but there's always a gnawing little thing that always keeps chucking the same poop from one neuron to the other messing up the gears :/