I very very often try to please someone who can never be pleased.
I will do (almost, within limits!) anything to get my fiance not to leave me. But often I pay a high price: in siding with him bc he hints that we're done if I am friends with someone he doesn't like (which seems to be a lot of people), I compromise my own integrity and true self. I have let friends go who I valued just in order to keep my fiance.
I am ruled too much by fear and have for too many years blamed others for my own problems.