DisownedMy father has been an alcoholic for many years; I guess I knew it all along, but it has just recently REALLY come into the light. My husband (fiance at the time) were living in a fix-up property of his. He lived elsewhere and we worked on his house for free. My father suggested that we have our wedding at his house, as it was a good location for an outdoor wedding... Well, we worked day and night on his house. He paid for our wedding like he always promised. 3 days after my husband and I returned from our honeymoon, he told us to get the f*#$ out of his house because we f*#$ed up his entire life! That was about Oct. 20th. Since then, we have not talked or emailed. His girlfriend, whom I do not get along with, has emailed me to tell me what a bad person I am and to accuse me of stealing things from the house when we moved out. And to accuse me that my husband and I destroyed the house. None of that was true and due to the harrassment, I had to change my email and my phone number. I have decided that I will not subject my husband and I and our future children to my father's alcoholic abuse and behavior. I feel this is the right thing to do for me... but I am still really torn up about it. My father emailed my husband more childish garbage about stolen "items" (mind you no specific items were ever listed) and put it in black and white for us both, that he wanted us to move on with our life without him in it. So I even quit my job, because I worked in a bar that he drank at. I just am having a hard time getting a grasp on the fact that my father doesn't wan to know me anymore, even though I don't want to know him the way he has become. Anyone with any helpful advice, please email me.
tbettenbrock 21-25, F 3 Responses 0 Nov 14, 2007