I Need Some Help....

I have always know things with my mother was not normal but now that I have been asked by family members do I think she is bipolar I really don't know what to do.  All I have done for the past 4 days is research bipolar.  I feel like I found the dictionary on her.  The chaos I grow up with is too much to even get in right now.  In the last 3 years I have pulled away from her.  She has caused so many problems in my own family I got to a point I said I was done.  But now that I have learned  this could be the problem ...What can I do???  I want to help her but she is so hard to talk to let alone discuss anything about herself.  I know she will fly into a rage & shut me out.  I have talked to my dad ( & yes they are married for the 2nd time but live in two different houses) Go figure!  My dad thinks it's true but don't  know how to deal with her or the problems.  He just wants me to try and get close to her again so she will have someone to talk to.  What is step one ...how do I get her to go see a doctor ????
Jewelz7 Jewelz7
13 Responses Jul 30, 2010

Bipolar Disorder is genetic. Currently I think there are 2 types although I've heare there may be 4. Only a doctor can dianose the problem. If you have family members, maybe you could get together and talk with her about seeing a doctor. Or better yet. If you know her doctor, call and talk to him/her privately about your conserns. When she goes for the next visit he can advise her and keep you out of it. I've done that before and usually if it's in the best interest of the patient, the doctor won't say anything to your Mom. There are so many new meds out for bipolar disorder, it's not hopeless anymore. Some of the old meds. just seem to make things worse. Please think of the "hell" you mom has been going through. I know it has been " hell" for you also. I wish the very best for both of you but do something or things will remain the same. Best of luck.

You can always turn to nutrition for mental health. From mood swings to memory issues and all degenerative diseases, it's all there. And nutrition means a diet of fruit, seeds, fresh vegetables, plenty of water and maybe fish, while avoiding junk food, especially refined food and sugars (fast-releasing carbohidrates). Also avoid milk products. You might also want to supplement vitamins /minerals associated with your mother's condition.

My mom is completely irrational. She acts that way anyways. She could very well be bi-polar<br />
I don't much think about the diseases or problems she may have.<br />
I created this and when I have to be around her I keep saying the same general things either in my head or in different ways to her.<br />
I love you.<br />
I love that you want my success<br />
I am sorry<br />
I love that you express how much you love me in anyway<br />
Please forgive me<br />
I am doing what I feel is the best thing for me<br />
I know our relationship will repair itself and we will both feel when its time to be close again. <br />
I am sorry mom, I love you. Please forgive me. <br />
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I also write her letters, more for myself than her. She is not ready to hear my words so i write them and she'll feel them.<br />
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Much love.

as someone who has just retired from working in mental health i know this problem too well and you need professional help. I would make an appointment with your doctor and discuss this with him. He will then put you in touch with your local mental health team alternatively you can check this and go direct. If your mum has unexplained mood swings it could very be she is bipolar or it could be another medical condition. I have a younger sister who is bi-polar and an older sister who had similar symptoms but this turned out to be an overactive thyroid. You need to to do this asap so you can be a family again recovery is possible

You might want to find a Pranic Healer in your area. Go to one on the premis of having some aches and pains taken care of and ask her to come along. She may have some issues along that line that she would like to get rid of. <br />
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Using Pranic Psycotherapy they can correct the underlying issues causing the problems. Let them know ahead of time that she has these issues. Find one and go yourself first so you know what to expect and then invite her along. I'd do it, but I'm a fair distance away from you.<br />
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Options! :)<br />
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0TAsSX4L7iM<br />
http://www.pranichealing.com/<br />
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Be well,<br />

I am a 49 year old medicated bipolar male, and my mother is 68 and bipolar, though she has gone off and on her meds many times since her diagnosis in 1977. The things you describe are vague. Bipolar persons often wreak havoc on the lives of those they love, but she needs a full evaluation and diagnosis by a psychiatrist (M.D., not a therapist). As for you, I am not sure you can get her to see a doctor, as the person suffering with the illness is often blind to it and stubborn. What area do you live in? There are bipolar support groups all over the country for bipolar persons and their families. If you cannot get her to go for help, at least you can get some of the support and answers on how to deal with her at these groups. I will include the link....<br />
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http://www.dbsalliance.org/site/PageServer?pagename=support_findsupport<br />
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Good luck to you

I don't have as much faith as some do in so-called professionals. Some are well-paid hacks who are so arrogant that nobody can tell them anything, and have too much power over the patient. Be careful in choosing a psychiatrist. I believe you must choose somebody that is likeable and decent, and who will spend lots of time with the patient. Also many of the medications available today are not necessarily that well tested. Paxil is an example of something that may be difficult or impossible to discontinue later, and can have frightening side effects. Some bad psychiatrists may misdiagnose and give inappropriate medication.<br />
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Just remember this one riddle: What is the difference between God and a psychiatrist? <br />
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Ans: God knows He's not a psychiatrist.

I am a adult with bi-polar problems (hypo-manic disorder) .Medication will work if the person with the problem will let it. Leanardo De Vinci, Einstien, Winston Churchill, George Washington and a long list of othe well known people were bi-polar. If you want to help, try to help her to find a creative outlet. If she has one, work with her so she dosen't feel isolated. Be careful this problem can sometimes be handed down.Be sure you understand her medications, good and bad effects. Doctors some times like to get an opinion other than their patients. I let my wife speak for me because if I am (manic) too up I will tell the therapest that I am fine. Love her and remember that she may not be able to see the problem herself. Your frustration will only feed your frustration and make helping harder. If you would like to see the things that can be done by a hypo/manic, go to "facebook/erwin dale brown". You will not be disapointed.

I am a 50 yr old former mental health case manager with a mother who I also beleive to be bipolar. It wasn't until I became a case manager that I realized that my mother is bipolar. Like you, I had a chaotic childhood. My brother and I never new on a day to day basis what "mood" my mother would be in. She would often fly off the handle, scream at us, throw dishes and glassware both at us and the walls, jump on top of me and choke me for reasons that I cannot even remember today, yell at my dad and accuse him of infidelity which I don't beleive was ever true. My dad was a very docile and agreed with whatever my mother said or did because he did not want to "make waves". You could never challenge or even disagree with a bipolar. They take it as a challenge to their authority. My mom and dad now are retired and live 3000 mi away from me which I love. I have learned to secure a hotel room when I visit even though they have a large home. My mother will never admit that anything is wrong with her. I did family research and discovered other relatives on both my mother's side and father's side who are bipolar. The sad thing is that this was hidden from me. I now have 3 daughters in their 20's who are all bipolar. They are unable to maintain relationships, jobs or even friends. They were also unable to get through college even though they ranked in the top 3% of their class in high school and scored extremely high on SAT tests. I've actually had other adults call me up, come to my home and ask me what is wrong with my daughter(s). One thing I have learned, unless your mom admits that she needs help, she will remain untreated. I think that it is very unlikely,at this stage in her life, that she will suddenly decide to seek treatment. I disagree with your dad about trying to get "close to her". The way I feel now about my own mom is to make less calls and less visits to her since I have found that it is affecting my own health. I feel that I have suffered enough during my childhood and should not subject myself to any more of her insults and aggravation. My bother chooses to placate her by being very agreeable to anything she saysbut what he doesn't know is that my mother wants to move in with him if anything happens to my dad (he's 74)! Right now, I'm glad I'm not the favored child!!!

Jewelz, if you are sure it is bipolar, there are a chemical imbalance. She needs the correct medication, coz as 9D said there are different types. She also needs the correct vitamins and minerals. Normal doctors don't have enough knowledge on this. You need a specialist for the correct prescriptions and your mother must be willing to participate. She also needs a hypnotherapist, but first the correct chemicals = medicine + foodstuffs!<br />
As the top 2 friends said; you are in our prayers.

You need to talk to a professional about this but not only 1. There are different types of bi-polar and I know this because I am one :)<br />
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Medication has not been the answer for me, it seems to be an easy way out for all (others) concerned - medicate them and hide them away - reminds me of a stanley kubrick movie I once saw...<br />
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There are different types of alternative treatment and medication in the western sense are the easiest to approach for the family & friends but have the worst effects for the patient.<br />
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Bi-polars are generally more sensitive to external energy influences and balance needs to be found for the patient - treat the cause and not the symptoms so to speak.<br />
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For some interesting viewing watch some videos on youtube from the youtube group called "bi-polar or waking up"

I can relate to close family with personality disorders and how difficult it is to get them the help they need. Have you talked to your physician--your doctor might have suggestions my prayers are with you.

Hon, you need to contact some sort of counselor for yourself. Working together maybe he(or she) can help you come up with a plan to draw your mom into counseling and hopefully on to appropriate medication. I don't recommend getting close to her again until you have the support of a professional. You will be in my prayers.