My Anger Issues

I have been married for almost 5 years.  I have a 4 year old, a 2 year old and a 1 year old.  For the last 3 1/2 years my wife has been telling me I need to take anger management classes.  After tonight I think she may be right.  My 1 year old son woke up crying and screaming, louder than normal.  For some reason he was inconsolable.  Nothing that either my wife or I could do was calming him down.  I lost it, I was yelling at him, my wife and the situation...I couldn't stop my self.  I was freaking out more than my 12 month old son. 

This is not the first time something like this has happened, where I lose it when my kids are acting up.  I've never hit them, but I yell at them and my wife and trow things across the room.  I've never been like this my whole life and I do not know why I am now.  I don't know what I can do to change.  Anything I have tried to do on my own has only had effect for a few weeks, then something triggers my temper and I lose it again.  I need help.

kingnothing58 kingnothing58
26-30, M
2 Responses Mar 8, 2010

hope u feeling better at this time. i can relate to you

Its a big step to recognize there is a problem. And there can be many reasons for it and that is the thing to try and figure out. I have not been to anger management classes, but I bet they would be beneficial and anything that helps us improve ourselves is a good thing. <br />
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In the meantime, if you get frustrated or angry, maybe tell yourself you need to go outside and vent out there... its not good for the kids, your wife, your marriage, or you. <br />
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Its amazing how we think we understand ourselves, but lying in the subconscious are things just waiting to bubble over. I'm always surprised by this, but glad I can start dealing with whatever the issue is. <br />
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Best Wishes! Mel