Stressed Allllllll the Time!

I am a high-achiever, but I fear that I work so hard to get things that I am not as happy as I could be. I don't know how to live without being really anxious all the time. I have to read myself to sleep because I can't just close my eyes and nod off--I worry too much if I'm alone with my thoughts! I need to take up meditation but I'm so busy it never becomes a high enough priority. If you feel the same, add me as a friend!

D07C D07C
22-25, F
2 Responses Jun 28, 2007

I was once the anxious, high achiever you describe who was unable to find the sand man without some other form of attention nabbing activity. I absolutely went full speed until I passed out each day for YEARS AND YEARS! <br />
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This lifestyle is not a healthy one. It took a MAJOR life-changing event to get me to open my eyes and realize the 'things' I was working so diligently for were not important in the greater scheme of things and that the most important things of all were health and happiness of which the 'things' I was aspiring toward or attempting to obtain do not provide.<br />
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For me it took something MAJOR to prompt me to look within myself and question what was driving me. I had to be honest with myself. I had to find the source of my anxiety as well. In some cases they were the same. <br />
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I suspect you will have to do some very serious, deep, honest and intellectual self reflection as well. If you are able to do this NOW rather than later when you're forced to by life, you will be in a much better situation and will be able to enjoy those 'things' you do achieve much more.<br />
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For your anxiety you do need to take up something, yes. Meditation? I'd recommend meditation AFTER you find the source/s of your anxiety and utilize meditation to continue your 'tweaking' efforts as well as the relaxation.<br />
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Once you locate your sources of anxiety and drive (usually derived by fear of sorts - which you have to figure that out as well) you will find a natural relaxation enter your life.<br />
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It is true many of us are wired to be 'high strung' to begin with. However, making yourself the best you can be emotionally (fixing things inside) will allow you to live a much less anxious existence thus a longer and happier life.

Take up meditation!! If you do it right, it'll be time effective and beneficial - people who have a regular meditation practice need less sleep, and with the benefit of being more centred you might find it flows on to improve your productivity and effectiveness elsewhere (after all, perfectionism often yields *low* productivity :P). Plus, it might even unlock a few things within yourself you didn't know were there :)