I Have a Child With Asperger's Syndrome
I created an experience group named "I Have A Child With Asperger's Syndrome" a while back, I am still the only member, so I thought I'd drop in here and say Hi. My son is 14, and just started High School. He was formally diagnosed at the age of 6, after two incidents. Firstly, his soccer coach noticed he spent more time watching the Moon than the ball, she was teaching in Special Ed, and told me to consider A.S. Secondly, his school principle sent me a letter saying she didn't want him back until he'd seen a professional. Reading between the lines she assumed he had ADD and just wanted him drugged. Thankfully we got him a proper diagnosis. He must have been hard work for her as he would not stay in his classroom and would drive everyone mad waving his arms around and responding to simple things like "Hello" with "BEEP!"
We knew our son was different when he was a toddler. He avoided eye contact and affection, and did not talk until he was 3. But he is the 5th of 6, and an eccentric child finds a niche in a large family, and we just treated him the way that seemed best. We allowed for his eccentricities, and found ways to deal with the more problematic ones, such as decision-making. Given too many options he would spin in a circle. My mother took him to buy ice cream one day and unfortunately chose one of those "50 Flavour" places, and he had a total meltdown.
We expected puberty to be a trial, but it actually went quite smoothly. I imagine it's a nightmare for an undiagnosed kid or one with an unsymathetic family. We have been told by his doctors that he is very rare in not suffering from depression, and they put it down to him having a large supportive family. He does get picked on at school, but with a brother in the football team that gets fixed very quickly.
We believe his A.S. is of the inherited variety, as his paternal grandmother is highly eccentric and was known not to have smiled as a child, but more to the point her father was a famous very eccentric polymath and general arsehole. Going back one more generation, we have a photo of his father with the exact wide-eyed same ex
I am here to tell you he is a delight to have as a son. He has taught me a totally new way of looking at everything, and especially at human society. I feel he is a gift. I adore him.