Its Like Looking In the Mirror

yes the description fits my symptoms aswell but there is a lot of co-morbidity with PD's .. its still a science that is in its early stages .. im sure avoidants have always existed and been given different 'labels' by different cultures down thru time .. perhaps tello's grandmother is on to somthing when she likens our condition to aspergers we are very like that i imagine and i can relax in the company of aspergers peoples i know.

My basic point is simple , yeh we have symptoms in common and it feels good to know there are more like us in this world to talk with .. however difficult it is for us to feel safe in our relationships with others .. some like me and tello there are dependant aswell as avoidant .. others can be skitztypal avoidant , borderline avoidant .. you get the picture , right? .. the picture is they are still only clutching at straws .. we know what it feels like because we live it every day .. i wake up feeling like im in a warzone ..but i live with my condition and i barely manage it .. im too dependant on others right now and it makes me uneasy because for me its difficult to trust even my closest family members.



In any case i want to thank you for sharing because even posting to forums like this can be formidable for peoples with avpd symptoms..



all the best and may some gladness find you where your at :)

igomental.

very true people don;t understand what it is like, my grandmother at one point asked me to read an article, she seriously thought i had Aspebergers, i was like no i dotn think so, but no one gets how it feels. im not into people coming close to me, im not into having to get up in class becasue then people are looking at me and i just feel it will be negative comments. i have nearly failed classes because i dont like going up in front of the classroom. i always need one person around that i am really close to, to feel comfortable, i dont make friedns easily i tends to only get close to one person adn that one person always tends to move away so then i am left on my own again, i hate going to the store because i have to go by myself and im scared of what peopel think. its sad and no one gets how it feels, i know it sounds irrational to everyone but for me i have a reason i feel liek i am justified, im really out going when i am in a group of my freidns though, but as soon as they are gone im back in my shell,. its liek i need ppl aeround me that i feel i know and they will prtoect me,

I have Avoidant Personality Disorder, but it was diagnosed by a professional not myself. I thought I just had depression but as he read the symptoms I felt like he was reading out of my imaginary dairy. Well I'd like to come out of my shell too, but it's much harder to do than to say, believe me. People who don't have don't and will never understand whats it's like.

but i will suggest that you dont diagnose on your own without professional help. i mean, i want to tell myself that i have borderline personality but i don't want to until i am absolutely sure about it.

sweet, but people make fun of me when I laugh out loud. They say it sounds like I'm wheezing. It makes you not want to laugh when people make fun of you for it. I don't like being such a serious person :-(