Totally Depressed Over Teeth Situation

I have severe gum disease, and I am losing all of my teeth, mind you I am only 26 yrs. old, I've always brushed them and flossed and used mouthwash, but can it be linked gentically? Some people in my family are already wearing dentures since in their 30's. I just got a molar extracted , which is now itchy like hell 4 days ago and my fronth tooth, and I had to purchase a flipper, so that I won't have to go to work without wearing something to cover the hole. I am so totally depressed, anyone experiencing what I am? Please let me know.  I have had 9 teeth extracted in total. I don't have dental insurance and I don't have that kind of money to fix my teeth.

kiizz kiizz
26-30, F
149 Responses May 19, 2009

i totally know how you feel and then i get dentures and they dont work either,so im still depressed

I too have the same disease.
I am going to lost my 4 tooth in the lower jaw in front as it is very shaky. As my gums are receded where root is not available, I had to extract those tooth, I am too 26, feeling very depressed.

oh god me too. I grind my teeth so bad that i eventually broke the post that was supporting a front crown and also loosened the crown next to it. Using crazy glue sealed in bacteria and so both teeth had to be extracted. I too wear a flipper (temporarily) which has turned into to 2 years, I'm saving for implants but of course my car and life have taken priority. I'm too embarrassed to date or even smile too much. I'm so sad and depressed.Though, I realize I have a lot to be thankful for. Why is dentistry such a luxury?

I'm doing research and looking into the Clear Choice Dental Implants. It's mainly my back teeth. Now I know the importance of flossing. It's not only been that.
Anyway...They look so pretty that I want em all done. W
Any advice on this?

I'm nearly 48yrs old and have had 3 pulled already. I have gum disease. Not diagnosed by professional but I know. I've researched. I have an addiction to eating ice and have chipped a couple or they just started breaking from decay.
I am so embarrassed. I'm a fairly attractive woman but I know anymore teeth pulled will start to show the bone loss in my jaw. The sunk in look.
Do the workers really think bad of you? I'd hate to know I was called names.
I want the clear choice dental implants but don't know much about them other than how beautiful they look.

yes it is very sad what they did not tell me the pain and sores the teeth never stay in in got the bottom front teeth pulled i cannot keep the teeth in i talk funny hurts so bad i cannot wait tell my next apt. to get them fixed i sure hope the permanent teeth will not hurt!

Hi I am 26 yrs of age as well, and have had bad teeth ever since my teeth starting growing in, the front teeth always been crooked I'm missing so many teeth. Missing 2 of my 4 front teeth on top the ones next to the 2 front ones left and right, now one of the front ones are about to fall out so I'll have basically 1 tooth showing. Lol yeah it sucks, and I been having alot of depression because of it and now have to consider quitting my job and which means quitting my jiujitsu training, basically my life is being put on hold...also I am a recovering addict, smoking crack for a few solid years didn't help my teeth either lol.. Yeah man I've had bad teeth all my life, i feel your pain, i have to convince myself remain positive somehow, but knowing this front tooth is about to come out, even though i have bad teeth as it is has me in state of depression that I havent had even when I was a drug addict and wanted to kill myself everyday. But also a part of me is saying to just forget all hate, your teeth is not what defines you, in order to get threw this I am going to have to not give a **** about what other people think.

I am having same problem, I'm embarrassed to leave the house. It is totally ruining my life, I can't get hired. And I always took care of my teethe, I was told its from acid reflux

Yes, I am also 50 years old. I have bad teeth. I also lost bone.
Hang in there. We will both have great teeth and gums. Britney Spears had bad teeth too. She worked on it. We will have this as well.

Likewise and not sure what to do

I feal your pain I'm 26 and I've always taken relatively good care of my teeth but I have full dentures on top and only the front 9 left on bottom whitch are completely rotten with no dental insurance and no money to fix them. my girlfriend of 7 years recently left me and trying to date somebody in this conditionis clearly not going to happen I feel I'm fairly attractive in every other aspect of my life but I understand I'm going to be alone at least until I can raise 4 grand and no dentist is willing to take payments and that's assuming full dentures are acceptable to a potential mate I think depression is a default in this scenario despite my best cognitive gymnastics try to get past it it's hard to go out and do anything these days but I guess all I can do is save money and keep on keepin on

Do to schizophrenia and negligence I lost one of my front teeth and a few others I look pretty narly but for other people dealing with a sort of depression to how you look I try to think of myself as a warrior or a viking haha embrace it until you can change it
This link may also help

im a black guy having bad teeth...from the childhood to the present people still makes fun with me..besides i dont have any gf..idk what to do but i think if any one has teeth problem...then it should be solved must

I think I am in your condition now. Had very bad teeth history though I brushed them regularly!! Now I had my two front incisors crowned and 1 molar as well!! Got 6 fillings and two besides my crown incisors are not in the good condition as well, had small fillings and now becoming quite large after awhile :(:( I am only 25 too and I doubt that my teeth would last till next decade and I really need motivation as well :(

Hi I know what you going trough I had all my bottom left and mollars extracted and my upper 1 mollar extracted this is all including the 2 left wisdom teeth I am 24 years old and expecting my 3rd baby on my right side I have to get the other 2 wisdom tooth extracted and get 5 fillings done to save what I have left I can no longer eat and now eat like a baby mash food it is to painful to eat on my right side by the way and sometimes with the baby or juicing I still have pain this was all done 3 weeks ago and I am 21 weeks pregnant and my anxity and pain make things worse. Thinking I'm gonna dye or have nerve damage. But yes this can happens and im just praying to god to please help me deal with the pain. And canthe afford implants or balpas mini implants

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I am 26 too and I lost one of my front teeth. Guess what? It was over a domino's sub. I was supposed to go to the dentist the VERY NEXT DAY to have them worked on.
I feel entirely cursed when I remember this. I was eating that sub the night before and all of a sudden, while chewing, my tongue shot forward and I noticed the space. I ran to the bathroom and that is when I saw it, chipped right to the gum. Dentist said there was no hope, and I am poor and medicaid apparently doesn't care that cosmetics can play a huge role in mental health.
Psychiatrists and counselors can talk to you for hours, they can throw any pill they want at you but if you can't fix the actual problem, your self esteem will never get better. No amount of talking or pills is going to make you happy and openly smile and laugh and ooze with plenty of confidence to share because when you do, if you do, what you smiled or laughed about will be a long gone memory as you wait to see how people might react to you.
I feel like I have Body Dysmorphic Disorder, I know I don't but because of this, I feel like I do but it is not any kind of brain delusion, there are cruel people out there that will emotionally punch you for not having what every human should have.
So why, medicaid, why spend hundreds and thousands for pills and conversation when the real source of your self esteem will never be fixed? Sure, some things you have to learn to accept like your eyes or your face or how you were born.
Or wait, actually they do cover your face. They pay a dermatologist just because you have acne. Really? And they will even fix your nose under certain circumstances, like if it causes breathing obstruction. Well how about the ability to eat?
How can you ever have a good quality of life when you lose something that can be so easily fixed, so cheaply fixed, when you consider all the money spent on pills!
Want to know how much my emergency migraine medicine costs? I pay three dollars a month but I always look on the bag for the full price. $900 dollars is how much gets spent on it. Add that up in a single years time and it covers what it would cost to fix my mouth with some left to spare. I know that I need it but sometimes we have cosmetic needs too.
People have a right to have every part of them and sometimes that can't happen but teeth can be replaced and made to feel, look and might as well be real because it's the closest you will get.
I understand some cosmetic procedures are petty, get over your breasts, they are what they are, some women lose their breasts due to cancer, how do you think they feel? I wonder if the government would consider giving them new breasts? But to ***** about the size, just petty.
But we all have a right to teeth. Sorry I got ranty, I'm in the same boat and it ****** me off that in years time medicaid will pour thousands into pills and talks yet they won't consider ONE more cosmetic to be ruled necessary? Some people don't want fake.
Some people don't want to meet someone, fall for them and then come move in time have that person find out the first night that all your teeth just pop right out. I try to understand some people have compassion and it's more about the inside than the outside but for someone who has been bullied all their life, it's hard to let go of seeing the shallow, the childish, and the superficial, especially when now you have something to actually be bullied about.
I'm sorry, you all have my sympathy and I have my self pity and my anger towards a government that don't consider some of the biggest causes of depression.
Just because high school is over, doesn't mean everyone becomes nice and accepting. The twenties they say are the last good years of your life, the last fun years and I feel like mine was cut short as that awful night happened when I had just turned 21.
Since losing that first front tooth, I lost two more front teeth and it's left one big gap, I stopped caring when I didn't see a solution. Now I smile closed lipped, I remember to cover my mouth if I laugh and through conversation I appear to habitually pick at my lips to use my hand to cover it when really I intentionally pick at my lips.
Yet medicaid will pay for pills and pay for people to talk to you and it will never fix it and they will pay for it for fifteen years, twenty years, think of all the money that is, when they could just give in to the most natural cosmetic surgery that a person wants and NEEDS!
That is the world though, you get ruined, you don't have money, suck it up and personify how much you have in your bank account because that broke smile represents your financial worth.
Guess what? They have a program where the government will buy you new clothes and take you shopping. It's part of vocational rehab, I know because my boyfriend applied to the program. It's supposed to help you get a job, well will your teeth help you get a job in an interview?
Clothes aren't a need, so long as you have them, whether they be raggedy or not, if the government expects you to deal with an ugly mouth, why are clothes any different? So long as you have some raggedy shirt, some pants and a few pairs of cheap Good Will shorts and shoes, just like dentures, it's a cheap fix. Of course it is nice that they offer this but if they care about clothes and acne, why not your smile?
It's kind of funny but life is kind of like one big game of World Of Warcraft. If you are a level 1 or 2? You are nothing, invisible as people walk by while you hold a sign begging for change or for food. If you're a level 20? You get benefits as if they care but once you get messed up in a way that they don't cover you because they consider it a feature of a higher level, just deal with it.
In fact at this level it is impossible to get better because you are always staying just above water. Rent goes down? So do food stamps, so any extra you make, you can't get ahead with it, you have to take that extra money to replace the lost food stamps.
30 to 50? It's possible to make it, if you make the right choices and do the right things. Any higher than that? That is when you are top, that is when you get every privilege in the world, all the features of WoW get unlocked to you, nothing stands in your way. WoW is about levels as the world is about money.
I hate the government. The egotistical bastards who want to create and make a game out of life to make themselves and their "friends" feel superior. Actually still kind of reminds me of high school too. The need to feel better than everyone else, equality in every way doesn't fulfill that narcissistic need.

I've had issues with my teeth since my late teens. Both of my parents lost theirs when I was a baby. I have aunts and uncles on both sides who lost theirs to different reasons, I don't doubt it's hereditary.

As for me, I just had all but 6 (front-bottom) teeth pulled yesterday. I drank soda, ate a lot of candy, so I know that was dumb.. but I have slowed down on candy, to the point of having none, for a few years now. I used to love candy corn...BAD idea.

I am now working on healing from ALL those extractions yesterday. I have bad anxiety and panic attacks at dentists offices, I guess I can now have some comfort in knowing I don't need one so badly anymore.

I'm 30 yrs old, btw. I felt a little reluctant to losing them, but when I think about it, those were not my real teeth anymore. A dentist I saw in KY at 17 yrs old screwed them up.

I guess my problem was a trifecta. partly my fault, that KY dentist's, and hereditary.

I hope you are able to get the help you need, take care.

I'm 35 and didn't have any dental problems until 5 yrs ago (At 30), for 29yrs drank gallons worth soda and ate so much junk that I should've had numerous cavities but never did until I was 30, had 3 cavities at once. Stopped sweet's immetately. But no I listened to this one person, had to listen to his negativity, so I drank soda again, but one day It was like 90 degrees in my apartment, stupid me I used my teeth as to pry up the pop tab. account of this I bent my lower tooth and snapped my wire from my braces But still drank soda, got another cavity at 33 or 34, all next to my molors so I very much regreeet my stupid mistakes I made.The damage probably been done too much to fix them, when I get food caught between the gap on my up right side it huurts so bad.

I know all about this! Plus, dentists have not always been forthright with issues that needed to be addressed, asap. Cost me over 10,000.00 and I am in the middle of a nightmare. One dental implant failed, and now I have to wait to see if the "redo" takes. Periodontist was not qualified to work on me, but he chose to anyway. (chronic pain patient)
Get a few opinions and then research online, and asks questions. It is NOT your fault, because this is a genetic issue most of the time. I brush and floss always, and I only have 6 top teeth left, not counting the (2) implants. This can be costly, so find out your options, and there should be more than one. They all want to be paid before they work on you, for a "maybe" outcome. Make sure you pick qualified surgeons, dentists, periodontists, by reading their reviews. Also, check to see with your PUBLIC HEALTH DEPT., to find out if they had any complaints in the past. I wish you all the best, and do not beat yourself up.

I informed my dentist last time I want my amaglam fillings removed, my dentist told me 'They're safe' i informed her that the mercury were giving me health problems, but she removed one but refilled it with more mercury :( I might go to a orthodontist again (had braces in 5th grade)

Me too i can understand i am 37 and all my teeth are loose in my mouth and some are missing already. I found out i had periodontal desease when i was 28 and it pretty much went downhill from there. I have an extreme complex about this and i find myself speaking funny because i dont want to open my mouth too wide and let people see inside. I feel like people stare and judge me constantly. Its pretty depressing even more so because i dont have the money or insurance to get my mouth fixed. Im in some kind of pain or discomfort everyday. My mother has dentures and ahe also had gum desease and her mother had dentures in her 20's so im pretty sure it can be hereditary. I wish i knew of some kind of dental insurances or something affordable to take care of this. Ive accepted the fact that im loosing my teeth and i can relate to your feelings. Good luck my friend.

Please help me

i had it .. i also have no teeth.. i think i would rather be missing an arm !! its hard to smile or even talk to anyone i dont know .. and my problem is, i have this lovely gagging thing, so its very hard to wear the dentures ... people who have teeth have no idea what its like... when i was younger i think oh you just put dentures in and they feel like real teeth.. yay right !

This is for anyone considering, braces, the pure hell I've been put through if I can save somebody else from my experience, in 2003 I had my second set of braces put on due to a overbite and was told that I would need jaw surgery, because of these decisions I have severe root resorption on all my teeth ( meaning no roots, very little my teeth are mobile), at some point I am probably going to lose my teeth, I pray that I don't, I did everything the doctors had told me to do. also due to jaw Surgery I live with jaw pain, and my right side of my jaw is completely numb and my bottom lip burns and my jaw moved back and I still am with a overbite, I'm constantly applying minty lip balm to cool down my lips. I wake up at night crying because I'm so scared I'm going to lose a tooth, if I loose one with my mobility I will lose more. If I could go back and had more knowledge I would of just gotten a night guard. Please learn from me and be very wise alot of dentist are in it for the money. :(

As I write this, I am up after having 11 more teeth removed due to gum disease. I know how you feel. I'm not that old to have so many missing teeth. The process of waiting for new ones is long and painful because I don't have good insurance and I've been to numerous specialists. I took good care of mine too, but everyone in my family has bad teeth or dentures. There are programs and temporary fixes for people with low income. I hope your situation improves.

You guys know nothing yet i am 18 years old and i only have about 7 real teeth left. I dont know what to do i think it might be a disease. Im so worried and i dont have money for this, im really upset now.

What the **** is wrong with you *****? I wanna punch you in the face and slam you through a car door. I'm sure your teeth aren't perfect and you got some type of insecurity going on that's causing you to be a fake *****. Leave these people alone and get yourself a life or a ******* hobbie. You disgust me.

Ps this is to jcsavedme

K wait!!?!? WHO is your issue with bc you sound like a total ******* *****.. just sayin'!?

*F*cking B**ch

She said it was for someone else plus that someone else (!needs!) too shut the **** up.

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I am so sorry for all of you. If I jad the money I would pay for all of you to get your nasty rotten teeth fixed. I prayfor you all! God bless

Your ignorant. Get a life. I rather have rotten teeth then a rotten soul. n then you say pray for us all. Lol your funny. Grow the **** up n get the **** off here if this doesnt pertain to you.

You know, that kind of personality, if you throw it around at the wrong person, it might just get your teeth knocked out and then you will come crying to the rest of us.

i know how you feel mine are the same except they say diabetes is eating mine up i am so ashamed to go outside and when i do i have a cloth on my mouth or something i wish i could find help i live in merced CA

yes i am 30 and i have a genetic condition which caused severe tooth decay. i hate having to be so young and have full dentures. i cant eat certian foods and i still find it embarassing for my own husband or family to see me without them in. i totally understand what your going thru.

Do you like having a flipper? Why? Or Why not? Can you eat with your flipper in?? Can you bite down on the tooth that is on your flipper?? Do you ever have to take your flipper out?? If you do when do you have to take it out?? Does your flipper ever fall out?? Like when your talking? Or eating? Do you use denture stuff to keep your flipper in?? How much was your flipper?? If you don't mind me asking all these questions x Sorry so many questions

I am but I am only 14. Everyone in my family has teeth problems. My front three teeth are all severely chipped and I need my back two taken out... :( it makes me feel disgusting I can't smile and I have to be careful how I eat.

Heyy we have a same problem. I was only 14 y/o and i really hate my teeth and now i'm 15, I can't smile and can't eat well in school, Sometimes i don't eat at Recess time :'( I can't find free treatment here. I'm a tall person and they will really notice me. I got pain sometimes.. my bro and sis always annoying me.. ppl said why i don't be like them. My bro and sis are popular..they have a nice teeth with no problem unlike me that has a big prob with teeth, ppl saying "You're cute, you're hot" in chat but i can't appreciate that much "big down with my teeth as 50% of my life urrgghh. They said wait til u grow up urggghh.. This is so painful.. I want to smile.. please :'(

In am male,50 years old and my teeth were a hugr pain in my life.From a very young age they were always bad,crooked,uneven and discoloured.Over the years I spent months sitting in dentists chairs receiving treatment,fillings,route canal and extractions.Gum disease is what I had and this helped all my teeth rattle inside my mouth.I decided to have them all(bar 5 in bottom)removed and am now wearing dentures.Now they are not perfect by any means,they take a bit of getting used to,and the daily care routine can be a drag,but I can honestly say they have changed my life for the better.Nobody realises there not my own,I can talk and eat better than I did with my old ones,I have no more issues with bad breath or bleeding gums.So although you may have tooth problems,it doesn't have to be the end of the world.Find a sympathetic dentist and you may be pleasantly surprised

I am in the same boat. I have no insurance and have a flipper to replace my front tooth that I lost by biting into a Christmas cookie. It is like losing a part of yourself and the flipper is as irritating as possible. I am sorry to hear about your larger situation. Good luck.

Do you like having a flipper? Why? Or Why not? Can you eat with your flipper in?? Can you bite down on the tooth that is on your flipper?? Do you ever have to take your flipper out?? If you do when do you have to take it out?? Does your flipper ever fall out?? Like when your talking? Or eating? Do you use denture stuff to keep your flipper in?? How much was your flipper?? If you don't mind me asking all these questions x Sorry so many questions :(

Hi all. I'm just into my latter twenties now, and have had bad teeth all my life. I ate a whole tube of flouride toothpaste when I was a toddler and all my teeth came out with cavities, flourosis, brown stains, or lack of enamel. All of my molars are "flouride bombs" and dead inside.

Unlike you guys, my mother didn't make me brush beyond the age of 5, so I didn't do it often, being a daydreamer and not too aware of consequences. Sometimes I went many months without brushing. I flossed about three or four times in my whole life because my teeth are very close together. So it's almost impossible to floss between most of them without loosening them or removing tooth surface.

When I got older it was hard to care, being emotionally drained and overwhelmed because my family has undergone so many horrible things, it's been a horror story really, so we haven't tended to our health as best as we could. There's been many genetic diseases and all manner of abuses, deaths and suicide, addictions and endless poverty, suffice it to say.

Mum always knew some things about health so bought us healthy foods etc and I think this helped because I never used mouthwashes or toothpastes and when I had the ability to, I ate actual kilograms of lollies and candies and other junk foods at a time, month in month out, for many years, and didn't get the punishment expected from my teeth. I still do this sometimes. My teeth have been terribly damaged from such a young age I sometimes wonder why I try to preserve what's left of them.

I think that like your gut, your saliva has a natural balance of healthy bacteria keeping the harmful bacteria in check, but when you use powerful man made disinfectants it destroys the beneficial bacteria too, but of course the harmful stuff comes back quicker. Better to support your body's natural mechanisms through eating healthy, which I do... When I'm not eating unhealthy! I am not a good example.

But someone suggested coconut oil pulling. Ignore the claims it's propaganda or untrue, just try it. I have not used coconut oil to "pull" but did try it with cold pressed extra virgin olive oil, and it works. No idea how, but it does. Any oils used should always be "extra virgin cold pressed" as then the active compounds that help you have not been cooked to death.

The first time I oil-pulled, it was because with one bite, a vitamin E capsule would turn from clear and bland tasting oil to grey green pus-like stuff that tasted foul. This was some extreme imbalance in my saliva doing this. Olive oil is high in vitamin E so I filled my mouth to see if the same would happen. Yep. Clear oil turned instantly into foul, opaque muck I had to scrape off my tongue, almost clotted. I repeated it, this time waiting 15 more minutes before spitting, but this time it was clear, not yuck, and it's had a great long term effect.

Another thing to attend to is your acid levels. Your PH is supposed to be neutral. Certain foods are alkalinizing, others acidifying. Acidiosis (being in an acidic state) harms everything in your body including your teeth.

My brother had a black plaque that aggressively formed onto every tooth despite multiple daily brushings. I caught it off him. Like him I tried salt rinses and brushings, but to not avail. I started noticing that rosemary tea, brewed from loose dried leaves bought at an Asian shop, sat in a cup of hot water until it was cold before drinking, killed the plaque. I couldn't scrape it off but after some rosemary tea rinses and "pullings" the plaque crumbled off like chalk. It never came back.

I've had a root canal at 15 which I didn't need (greedy unethical dentist) and numerous fillings (including mercury ones when I was a child, but they all fell out before I was 10). I have had massive cavities for all of my life. Thankfully the nerves are mostly dead, I don't feel it for the most part. I did have 18 months of one tooth hurting me though because I was so not keen on going to the dentist. That one was terrible. I have had other toothaches before too.

But lately it's getting hard to eat. I have a sensitive tooth totally missing its crown on my lower jaw on the right, with just the raw pulp exposed, and the root canal on the left lower jaw has been missing its crown and infill for years, so it's a hole that leads well over a centimeter below gum line into my jaw. The tooth around the hole's been steadily breaking and crumbling away and there's raw flesh inside the hole now, and it bleeds when I brush or use a toothpick to remove food scraps, and I can feel them pack into there when I eat even though the root nerve is dead. I've had occasional jaw infections. They can make one seem drugged, make it hard to think straight.

I would like to remind people that physical illness can make you depressed, so please, don't let it have total sway if you can fight it; depression is a common symptom of many diseases, even if the person is unaware that they have disease. Depression makes everything seem out of proportion. Getting the physical issue fixed can fix the depression, so hang in there. Things will change. There will be a way.

I have had a black rotten hole in the middle of my upper front tooth since I was 17. It just grew over a few months, out of the blue. A few dentists told my siblings it was genetic disease, a rot that "can't be stopped", so they drilled holes in those teeth on my siblings; their teeth didn't have any rot before they drilled. My little brother got aggressive grey rot almost instantly after having a large hole drilled into it and had to have his tooth capped. They said the rot can't be stopped and just grows and grows but mine's not grown since I first got it.

I've had congestive heart failure since I was 17. Had a massive heart attack in my very early twenties. I'm basically a cripple in some ways, so it's very hard to get employed due to my appearance as well as the health issues, and due to the heart disease it's often more stress than I can take to go to a dentist to get seen to.

So I am not treating myself even though I might be able to afford it. I'm below the poverty line but dentists here tend to treat first and ask for payment later, and that's when I spring the surprise on them... "I can only pay it off in instalments of about $50 per fortnight". They have to say "ok" if they want the money, but they try to conceal it from other patients and I'm sure they don't like it. There used to be some help for people needing good teeth to get a job where appearances matter, but I haven't been able to get into that assistance. Really, good teeth matter no matter your job, or whether or not you have a job.

One thing that has surprised me is how down so many of you are. I do understand being depressed over your teeth, especially if suffering pain, and the social issues of having bad teeth, but if you're not smiling for years at a time just because of your flaws... That's letting a physical imperfection impede your quality of life!

Your teeth are able to make themselves unreasonably problematic, even cause horrendous suffering, but they are not the most important nor valuable part of you. They do not degrade or devalue who you are. With my terrible teeth I have smiled at many hundreds of strangers and literally only a tiny fraction have looked at my teeth when I smile; the rest smile back, looking into my eyes, and do not notice my teeth.
Even if they did, I understand their reaction and don't condemn them for it. Yes, I do feel a little bad for looking so hillbilly-feral-povvo-hobo (choose your slur of choice) but I have more important things to do than try to attain to someone else's standard of perfection.

Being shallow or any other character fault is just another flaw which uglifies the individual but does not make them any less a human being and worthy of being treated as such.

If they treat you as less for your appearance, they are fools.

But even fools don't deserve to be treated as their behavior may seem to merit.

Ignorance is a disease of its own if you take the meaning of the word "dis-ease" literally. It's a social disease too.

I don't have a lack of people wanting to "get with" me because I appear fairly confident in myself. It literally does not matter what you look like if you have confidence. People are for the most part somewhat sycophantic. If you act like you're of value, (and you are!) they will make up reasons why you are of value.

A genuine human being is always of value, irrespective of their appearance.

I dress in hole-ridden, torn cheap clothes, too large by many sizes; often I go barefoot; I don't shower as often as I ought to; but people treat me well and courteously because I am polite and smile, and don't cringe or act like a supplicant. My good intentions are genuine and apparent. So people don't see a homeless beggar, they see an eccentric, strong person. (Or so they tell me).

I don't mind being seen as a "hobo" (or seen with a "hobo" either) but people seem to interpret my appearance as more than I am projecting.

When you feel self conscious you invite a critical scrutiny. If someone acts like there is something wrong, or like they have done something wrong, it is human instinct or nature to look for what that wrong thing is. There is no faster way to get people to look for your faults than to act like you are guilty and apologetic of them, and want them to not notice.
Please, try acting with confidence even if you don't feel it. Fake it till you make it. Don't let a fraction of your overall appearance dictate your quality of life, relationships, etc. Obviously all that's more relevant to the people whose worst issue is the cosmetic appearances rather than the painful and debilitating cases.

I have a black hole that you can see from quite a distance in my yellow, cracked, white-and-brown-spotted front teeth, and I still smile normally at people. I get smiles from people with tooth disease and don't flinch or feel any revolted reaction; plenty of people with great white teeth are just the same. Smile! Even with bad teeth a smile is a beautiful thing. Smiles can help you get that money you need to get help, too. Even with bad teeth, a smile is a vital part of business confidence and things like that... Socially it is often called your most powerful weapon. Nobody said a smile of "flawless teeth" is your most powerful weapon, just the smile itself. Sorry for being so long winded. Probably pedantic too. Hope this helps someone, anyway! Love and peace to you all. And hope.

Your very strong person I wish I could be that strong,Iam not going to get over losing my teeth.Iam just ready to end my life.I already hate myself enough it will only make it to wear I wont be able to bear looking at my own self I know what your thinking Iam shallow..This is just hopeless ...

I'm not thinking you're shallow at all. I really do understand.

But I think that your self hate is not really based on your teeth, it's probably much deeper than that. Somewhere along the line you probably adopted the idea that you're worthless or a failure or whatever the negative and untrue belief is. There will be a way. There is more and more awareness all the time about the humane aspects of dental care, being a necessity not a frivolity, and I believe quite soon it's going to be much more widely and cheaply available in most places. Why aren't people doing fundraisers for this? Why aren't there charities focused on helping people with dental problems? Hang in there, things will change. You're only still young, you can still have a bright and happy future. I intend to do what I can to help as many people as possible get there, and I'm not the only one thinking like this. Keep an ear out for help, it will come.

Wow! Though Im not physically able to say all I would like to right now, I WILL upon having a better internet connection. But for now, I JUST want to say to you: Thank you for sharing your very personal experience, so candidly. Thank you for your words of encouragement and hope. Thank you for your truth. Thank you for your wisdom. Thank you for your sincerity. Thank you for your honesty. Thank you for your obvious love of ALL. Just, thank you. Thank you SO MUCH. Your post DID help me. And the beauty is? It will continue to help me too. Thank you. God bless you, "SmileAnyway"! Til next time......


Wow that is so inspiring! I bet people make fun of you and your nasty teeth all the time. Those people are so mean! Im sure if someone is eating and you smiled at them they would probably puke from how nasty your smile is. Some people are just not compassionate to people like you with a nasty smile. God bless you and your ugly teeth.

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Bad teeth runs in my family I went to prison (drug possesion) there they pull teeth not repair. So I lost many teeth there I am now 50 years old and very embarassed to go out in public because I have no teeth. At age 40 I used to pass for age 25 I looked great, now after losing my teeth my face is sucked in and I look much older, I hate it ! I live from SSDI and they pay for nothing but extractions, I cannot afford dentures because I was born with to much bone on my lower jaw so dentures will not fit unless the bone is ground off. Implants would solve my problems but I need 4 to hold the lower denture in place. I am looking at the rest of my life with no teeth and it saddens me greatly.

I know this post is old but it popped up when I searched in google.

I completely understand how you feel. I'm just turning 25 and my teeth are just falling to pieces (literally). I can't afford the cost of most dental work besides extractions and the rate at which my teeth are going I will be toothless by 30-35. I've had 10+ extractions and more yet to come.

One of my teeth right next to my front is gone and only just 10 minutes ago the one next to it completely chipped on the entire front of the tooth, which is why I did this search. Because I am just at my wits end here and am really about to lose it. The depression and physical pain this can bring on is incredibly massive. It's good to know your not alone in this struggle tho.

I'm the same am totally depressed over my teeth my bottem gums have receeded so much my teeth r starting to feel loose I've got lots of fillings and need to have crowns on front teeth I'm so scared r b in full dentures by next year and I'm only 26 I'm so depressed and ill over this and have lost a lot of weight I've always looked after my teeth yet they r all so weak and breaking

Wow i am so glad i am not alone!

I am 29 and have had the same problem. I was 17 when I had my youngest son, and I do feel that pregnancy causes harm to people with already bad teeth. When I was pregnant, my wisdom teeth came in completely rotten. The dentist would not pull them because I was pregnant. I was in so much pain constantly. The rotten infected teeth caused the teeth next to them to become infected, too. 6 weeks after my son was born I had 7 teeth pulled (4 were my wisdom teeth). This is where my long journey of missing teeth started, but my real dental problems started during childhood.

I brushed and flossed 3 times a day as a child, and in elementary school they made us do a fluoride rinse every day. As a child, my parents took me to regular dental check ups, but I ended up with a crown by the time I was 13. I constantly was having cavities filled or root canals done. It was a never ending process.

Skip ahead a few years... After I had my son, I had more dental work done. My mouth was feeling pretty healthy, but I found out I had to have two more teeth pulled. Before I was 20 I had 10 teeth pulled. I had my second son when I was 20 and then I lost my health and dental insurance.

After I lost my insurance I had more teeth problems and wasn't able to do much. My teeth broke, fillings fell out, and I got infections. I was still brushing and flossing and using mouth wash, but nothing was helping. I went to a dental van for people with no insurance, and during that time I had a total of 5 more teeth pulled!

I got insurance and went to the dentist where I was told I had a bacteria that grows in some mouths that is pretty rare. It eats the pulp of the teeth from the inside out instead of a cavity that attacks the outside of the teeth. They made a flipper for the front teeth I had missing and said to keep coming in and they would get my mouth all healthy again. Unfortunately, I lost my insurance a short time later and was not able to continue going there.

Currently, I have only 16 teeth. One is getting pulled next week and I have two more teeth that are chipped! I am so done with teeth and I just would like to get them all pulled out. It would save me a whole lot of pain in the long run. I have ZERO teeth on the right side of my mouth, and two back teeth left total. It is hard to eat and sleep. I wear a partial on the upper and lower parts of my mouth that fills in all of the empty teeth places, but it doesn't make it easy to eat anything solid.

I am sorry you all are missing teeth too, but I know how you feel, and I am thankful to know I am not the only one suffering with this pain (physically and emotionally). It sucks to know we are looked down upon like we have done something wrong, illegal, or embarrassing to lose the teeth in our mouths. We have not! It is beyond our control, unfortunately.

I have bad receding gums at the moment and im scared to lose my teeth. I highly suggest to anyone to try oil pulling with coconut oil. If you dont know what it is google it. It gets rid of the bacteria in your mouth that causes gum disease. Brushing your teeth alone wont get rid of the bacteria.

wow. i am so glad i found this site, for at least i feel a little better knowing that im not alone. I am 24 yrs old. when i was 16 my mom got hurt at work and went on workmans comp. for the first time in my life i was able to get state insurance, for my single hard working mother always made too much to get any help, but only made enough to just cover the bills and expenses of living. I went to the dentist and had ALOT of fillings done. the problem is, i think they did alot of unnecessary filling to get the medicaid money, and did not to a good job at all. I couldn't really floss i have alot of cavities that started at the gumline, and in between my teeth. some cavities ive had over 2 yrs. when i did have the money to go to dentist, something always seemed to come up that the money had to be spent on. and i have a daughter and its like when i was pregnant, it took the calcium from my teeth or something. I had a cavity in between one of my front tooth, and it got so bad that both sides of the tooth broke off. I hadnt smiled in a long time, and have also been single because i dont want to meet anyone. I finally went to a dentist and got a treatment plan. the total cost is $29,000. i have had 3 back teeth pulled, a root canal and build up on front tooth, a deep filling that still bothers me, and a filling on another front tooth. and i still need crowns on all my top teeth.They are changing dental insurance. i have to have a deep cleaning, and a few more fillings, but after i get healthy i can enroll in their dental plan, and it will cost $40 a month and it will take 50% off the cost of my treatment plan, and anything i need done no matter what it is after i complete the treatment plan, the $40 a month will cover. by the way the dental place is called empressions dental. they were great to me. they were the first dentist to not make me feel like a side show to be gawked at, or embarassed. they also informed me that alot of it is just genetics. but they have worked with my mom to help her afford to pay for the work i had done, for not one job i have interview for hired me, i feel because of my teeth. and i am a beautiful girl, but i cried when i got home and could smile again. i still have alot of work to be done, and i dont know how i will find the money. But i prayed for god to find a way for me to pay for the previous things i just had done, and then i got offered the dental plan, and they also gave me a plan that takes 25% cost cut for $100 a year, wich really does take a chunk out when your looking at the cost of crowns. just please dont lose hope, because thats all we have.
i Just dont understand why there isnt state dentist or a state loan to get the dental work done. for 1 we could actually die from tooth infections, and 2 how are we to ever become a productive working member of society if we are in pain constantly and no one will hire you because they think your a meth head or something. Its crazy that we put put making money over suffering people, because we are suffering in more ways than one!! I and many of you are way to young to have dentures. this is a horrible problem that someone needs to address and find solutions to. we are suppose to be the future, but how can we be when we are slowly dieing. LOVE and BLESSING to all of you!!!

I have the same problem... I'm afraid to eat half the time and constantly worried about my teeth breaking off. I didn't have dental insurance for more than 5 years and in those five years I began having severe toothaches all over my mouth so I chose to have the most painful tooth pulled and the dentist was pulling so hard I heard my jaw cracking on the opposite side and have had a problem worth my jaw locking if I keep my mouth open for more than 5 minutes at a time. My bottom teeth are breaking slowly and now I only have some root pieces sticking out of my gums except for the front ones that I don't use to chew with. I finally got dental insurance and had a deep cleaning done and had to take alot of breaks. Even with taking breaks at the end I couldn't close my mouth and my jaw was popping really loud when I tried.had some fillings done and a chipped front tooth fixed, but my dentist said he wouldn't see me again until I got my jaw fixed. He referred me to a jaw specialist and they told me I'd have to pay 500 just for the consultation! Well, I didn't have money for that so haven't gone back to the dentist. Why won't dentists allow payments? It is so frustrating, and I'm sick of worrying about my teeth, it has been almost 12 years of teeth problems! I finally got dental again so I'm going to go to a different dentist and just have small things done at each visit. I'm so embarrassed about my teeth when I go to a new dentist, but I know that they have seen worse.

I hope this helps someone here.

In 2010, I had veneers placed on some of my upper front teeth. Unfortunately, I have Tourette's and within a year had destroyed all of them including some of my natural teeth. My tics will cause me to grind and do other unnatural movements with my jaw. I really was quite heartbroken at the whole situation, especially since dental work isn't cheap!

After looking around for about about a year, I found a reputable dentist in Costa Rica. I know this doesn't sound like the best route to take, but when you don't have much money options are limited. The place that I went to is run by an American guy named, mike lomax. It's called Costa Rica dental team.

I had 11 crowns placed about two years ago and haven't had any problems yet. A couple of chips here and there but that is due to my tics. My dentist up here even agreed that the work was of good quality. I do still live in constant fear of damaging my teeth further, but you just have to take it one day at a time. Really hope this helps somebody here. I hope this goes without saying, but I am in no way affiliated with this company.

I am so sorry for your loss. I am older than you and going through the same situation. After spending $30,000 to fix my teeth with crowns and bridges in front I found out that I had a very poor dentist who did root canals on the side teeth top and bottom and did not repair the damage and the teeth just decayed after 5 years. All of a sudden they started breaking and I went to other dentist and got the story straight. I almost let this so called dentist work on me again and then bells started going off after I had spent $8000 more for the kind of dentures that have pins in them. I left him and had to have all of my teeth pulled. Well, they have to rest for 3 months before I can be fitted for dentures. I have not walked out of my house since that happened. I am supposed to be fitted for the dentures the middle of November and get a cheap pair to see if they will look right because there was nothing there to go by. Believe me I have cried until I just cry croc tears. I feel like I will look awful but this is my only way out. I like you, am not rich and we have had to do without to do this. I have all of my mirrors covered because if I look I feel faint. Honest! I will be thinking about you and pray everything will turn out. I try to think about all of the things that could happen and feel lucky. I could be going through worse but this takes the cake.
I only hope that my first dentist will get what is coming to him. I feel like what goes around comes around but it is not my place to do the honors. It will happen.
Good luck to you. Dee

I find it hard to believe that people that young can lose there teeth from decay unless they don't take vitamins, minerals, natural mouth wash, and non fluoride toothpaste. BTW never chew sugar gum .. Only the fake sugar stuff, but then you get cancer.

That is the most stupid thing to say

A lot of things can cause people to lose their teeth!!! Drugs, Diabetes, Gum Disease, Decay , Eating Disorders, Fighting, Car Accidents, Dry Mouth, Genetics. And a lot of people don't have dental insurance because a lot of jobs don't offer dental insurance most jobs only offer health insurance since health is more important!!!
Also most things can cause cancer now a days!!!

I have the same exact problem :( your not alone.People tell me Im beautiful ,but because I have bad teeth I just feel so damn ugly

I've read some of the more recent replies. I was going to say that too much fluoride can cause the tooth and gum issues you, me, and many others are suffering through. I wish I had my hands on the data that proves this (I studied chemistry at university, so subscriptions were covered by them) but I can't afford access to this information. If you live in an area where the tap water is treated with Floride, then I would suggest switching to a non-florinated toothpaste, or just using baking soda and peroxide. Yes, it tastes like hell, but it cleans and whitens teeth. However, you can't use it every day/multiple times a day. That would be too abrasive on your enamel. Just a tooth brush and peroxide would do the trick in between times. BUT DON'T SWALLOW THE PEROXIDE AND DON'T USE WITH SMALL CHILDREN. Anyway, even if you live in an area where your taps aren't florinated, you may still want to switch pastes. Floride and Fluorine are toxic to the human body. Even at very low doses. I wish I could point you all to the papers I had to read and analyze at Uni. The really messed up part is that fluoride toothpaste is cheaper. So, if you are like me, that's all you can afford to buy. Only I cut back to brushing my teeth once a day. That doesn't change the fact that I have got over 15 cavities and most are below my gum line where brushing and flossing are ineffective. (That should tell you right there that it is not our dental hygiene that is at fault.) But I have managed to avoid costly dental work over the past 10 years. I saw the dentist before I went to uni 10 years ago and I was still covered under my parents insurance. The dentist told me the number of cavities I had, but they were too small to have anything done about them. Then I read those papers and immediately cut back on tap water and fluoride paste. I bought a diiferent paste whenever I could save up for it. I bet most of you, like me, rarely eat sweets because someone told you not to and to "always brush and floss." Please, please, please, switch pastes. Give your teeth a chance. Don't take my word as law. I am not a healthcare professional nor a dentist. I am offering only my free opinion. And I encourage people to read medical/health/scientific journals and other periodicals if you can. The information is out there, you just have to pay for it, unfortunately.

My husband is 33 and he has like 6 teeth loose hes going crazy and no insurance at all what are simptoms of gum disease

im 27. like most of your stories, I too was on my parents insurance until 18. over the last 9 years my teeth have slowly gotten worse, all my fillings have long been fallen out. my situation, is the problem starts at the gumline right on the bottom of my teeth in the back. cavities start forming there and below where I can brush/ floss. eventually it turns into a hole which eventually breaks off at some point. now I have 2 teeth on each side on the top and bottom, in the back that are all atleast halfway broken apart. and when they do the pieces of tooth literally crumble in my fingers like chalk. now there is food that constantly gets stuck in the holes. to make matters worse, recently my front middle top tooth chipped, and its already coroded halfway across the tooth and is noticeable now if I smile from 10 feet away. im in constant pain, miss the taste of a nice chewy steak or a candy. I can't afford any dental work. any. not even a pulled tooth.. its eat and have a roof over my head that month or get 1 tooth pulled. at the rate of my teeth deterioration, I will be gumming food by 30. in so sad over this but it does help to know im not alone. Hopefully this obamacare will make it easier to get dental work done. God bless and good luck. -evan d.

I have the same problem and just now got dental again...I have all the top teeth, but I have many holes or cracked teeth and I don't have and good bottom teeth except the front ones that I don't chew with. A dentist pulled a bottom tooth towards the front and I could hear my jaw cracking on the opposite side so now I can't keep my mouth open for more than 5 minutes without my jaw trying to lock and it makes a horrible popping noise... my previous dentist said he wouldn't see me until I see a jaw specialist, and the specialist said is have to pay 500 dollars just for a consultation! Obama care really isn't good like I thought it'd be. Glad there are other people out there with similar situations, I am so depressed and sick of these teeth problems

Hi i now how you feel im in my fortys and im just slowly watching my teeth rot i had a bad session a few years ago with my dentist so im to scared to go and cant afford treatment didnt care when it was my back teeth but now my front,im so desperate i glue a false nail over one of them totaly depressed so i no exactly how you feel.x

I use wax for people with braces on the sharp or broken parts and I am like you, I have broken or crumbling back teeth and now I am having problems towards the front on the kicks in December 1st but my jaw locks after being open five minutes if im laying back in a chair. So depressed about teeth issues since 2002 or 2003...ugh

i am 16 and i fell and broke my front tooth,later it was extracted. nw i find it hard to smile because i dont want every one to knw tht my tooth is extracted. i have a boyfriend who is realy nice but i am wondering if he would like fall in love with some one who has perfect teeth to laugh often and smile. people say i am serious, but i never told them y i dont laugh often. i have no self confidence, well i dnt have a problem with reading aloud. it is hard to pronounce sme words and its kinda embarassing when ppl find out cauz it seems like a big exclamation

Aww :( Which front tooth did you have to have pulled?? Was an upper top front middle tooth?? Did you ever get it replaced? If you did how did you??
If you don't mind me asking x
I'm sure your boyfriend loves you just the way that you are and he shouldn't leave you just because of that!!!


My sister started having teeth problems after she had her first baby,luckily she has insurance but she is in her early 30s,I always thought teeth issues only happen to much older people

completely relate to you.. it unbelievable how i am 23 years of age and i've always brushed flossed & mouth washed my mouth .. since i could remember. in NZ dental care is free till 18.. i had "prefect" teeth till day i turned 18.. and had to get 10 small filling every were.. since then its worst nightmare. the dentist ******.. didnt do it correctly fillings.. and some fell out within 2 years. I explained to another dentist i dont floss to much because they ripp my fillings out.. he said i must do it so i did and & of course they came out slowly. a few years ago i complained to many doctors about my teeth..that my gums would bleed. & no dentist would tell me i had gum disease.. till i saw i advert.. the paradontix disease toothpaste advert. i though to myself.. i must have that.. as a few years past.. till i knew of this.. but i think it had allready gone past the stage of cure.. my teeth are prefect its all the gums my rear back teeth get eaten from the top all four i try everything to eliminate it.. but i dont understand how this can happen.. it saddens me because tonight i had a piece of pizza and my front side tooth (the sharp) one complete split in half.. now i cant smile.. ive read documents on internet and they say if you grow up on the country side with floride in your water.. that is a main reason why your teeth & gums are weak.. but how can they sale toothpaste with floride.. my friends dont look after their teeth.. yet theirs are prefect.. i feel cheated. and im female like urself.. i just dont know how to get ride of this .. and every dentist i seem to go to dont give me any or not the correct advice.. my gums are tight.. my teeth are shrinking .. its difently the worst i wise dentist were free. for cases like ours. :((

Wow, its nice to hear that I am not the only one in this position. I'm 33yo and went to the dentist until I was 18 when my insurance expired. Never had one cavity the whole time. I haven't been to the dentist in about 14 years now and I have lost 6 teeth in the back and my front top teeth are half way there. I know what everyone means about trying to find a job. At an interview they want you to smile and be confident. Well that's hard with ugly teeth. And also say goodbye to any job where you interact with customers face to face. I have no job and no insurance so there is pretty much nothing I can do. I really feel like my life is over. I want a girlfriend so bad but I know that no one wants someone with teeth and breath like mine. People want to kiss without getting their tongue cut by sharp, broken teeth. To make things worse I am in Orange County,Ca where unfortunately everyone is expected to be perfect. I would feel a little better if I lived in Nebraska maybe.
I just want to get this over with and get some dentures. I am so tired of the pain.
Good luck to everyone.


I agree!!! Dental work costs so much it's so horrible!!! I think dentists just charge a lot for any work that they do because their jealous that they don't make as much as doctors do because most people have health insurance but not dental insurance since health is more important!!
Aww :( Why can't you have kids?? How do you know that you can't??

Hi there I'm from Orange County too. I know about false images and what people see on TV and the media, that's what people think of OC. Anyway, good luck. Your health is all you have so it's very important that you get it fixed! My neighbor told me this and he was a smart guy!

How are you now? Yes, I am experiencing a totally genetic induced experience. Five Doctors. Three Specialist. Had absolutely the most beautiful teeth. Wondering. Is there life after this?

Howdy folks, what you are facing is merely nothing compared to what I'm. I'm only 15 years old and my upper jaw sucks big time. It's all crooked consisting of merely none naturally looking teeth. One tooth won't grow and other's way too narrow! I'm 'likely' getting a dental implant for missing one and a veneer for other. I've undue depressions, because these problems in my age mean being offered way other benefits than teenager posses! This is message to mere humanity, having a child you or your close relative possessing ******, especially broken teeth genetics is a murder! I want these teeth I've in 25s, 30s or even later, but not now. It's not fair!

Im 22 female and i also have very good oral hygiene but one by one ive lost my teeth im down to 4 extractions with horrible abyss infections its only a matter of tome i lose my. Front teeth :'( im extremely depressed and have very low self esteem


Your not alone Im a female and so many guys wonder why Im single .truth is Im so sad and embarassed of my teeth :"(

Aww :( But they should like you the way that you are!!!

He shouldn't leave you if you don't have any teeth in your mouth!!! He should just accept you the way that you are!!!

Aww :( What has caused you to loose your teeth?? Have you got the ones that you losted replaced?? If you have how have you? If you don't mind me asking x

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Hugs, not the only one. 24 here, starting the losing teeth game. When I was little I didn't take care of my teeth and my family went to a shoddy dentist who's fillings always seemed to fall out. Bad thing is all my molars have those shoddy fillings and it seems every year I lose at least one. Each lost one is a root canal, something I just can't afford.

At least I had some state insurance until I was 18 but it was difficult to get treatment, waiting a few weeks for an emergency or a few months for a typical issue was common. I had one root canal done when I was 17 and I've been in pain over it ever since. I want to have it pulled but I don't have the funds for a dentist to look at in depth.

I recently lost a molar after a filling fell out taking a small chunk of tooth with it there's no way I could afford 2k for a root canal so I simply had it pulled. I felt a bit disgraced by it but at least it was one in the back.

I'm about to lose another molar on the opposite side for similar reasons, another falling filling and sleepless nights due to pain.

There are no dental colleges around who do more than xrays in my area. I hate all the go to a dental college advice, I already did for the cheap xrays. I do feel very sad over the loss of my teeth and how the dentist and others don't seem to understand that I just don't have the money. Sometimes my family and I are homeless 2k is a large fortune for us, even covering the visit fee is a challenge. I've so far been 2yrs unemployed and I doubt I will ever find a job so I'll just keep losing teeth as fillings fall out.

I'm 39, I was going to the dentist until my job was outsourced to India in 2005. Lost my insurance. Teeth are all breaking and falling out. If I don't take 8 advil per day, I get huge infection swells in my gums. I have no money to do anything. I do have a job, luckily, but it doesn't even pay me enough to live on my own. I have to live with my dad, who is also in the same situation. His teeth are twisting and coming out. He's 64. My heart has begun having these murmurs over the last year. I have no HMO or primary doctor because I have no insurance or money to get one. People say "go to the university" but why? It costs more and I *still* have no money regardless of where I go. Sometimes I just hope it will take me in my sleep and I won't have to cut everything up into tiny pieces in order to eat or risk having a really bad infection that requires antibiotics to get under control. I'm so tired of this I am trying again to find a solution and that's how I found this page. It's so sad to see everyone's story. I can barely hold back my tears while I'm sitting here at work.

Good Luck to everyone having these problems - I truly hope you all find a solution <3
Jerry B

hi im 25 and i have really bad teethm for fixing them costs too much money and i have no inshurence. since i was a child i had a lot of problems with my upper teeth but my family couldnt afford dental expences. i went to the dentist when my teeth were allready falling. i did them in europe and it didnt cost too much money but the work wasnt good. its been two years that i have a crown on my upper teeth and its moving . it feels like its gonna fall off. i do have my roots but theyre in really bad condition. i have no money to refix them cuz i have a baby too and noone helps me. i work but i spend the money on him. i dont know what to do. my situation is really bad

Aww :( Which upper tooth do you have crowned?? Is it a upper front top middle tooth?Has your tooth been ok under the crown?? If you don't mind me asking x Dental schools are supposed to be cheaper than dental places.

I am a 33 year old male with exactly the same problem as you. Coming home from the dental school with a biohazard bag of my 7 teeth and fragments wasn't the best day for my girlfriend either.

hello, very sad to hear your story, however im going through this as well, i have got severe gum disease and my 2 front bottom middle teeth are about to fall out, my breath is unbearable, i never smile,im always chewing gum. guess what, im 15. i brush twice a day and use mouthwash, worst part is my rock band "Raw" is becoming popular, i cant be famous, with missing teeth, its my lifelong ammbition, it is just horrible.

I'm so very sorry.
Hope you are doing better.

I haven't smiled in 12 years, at least not where people could see my lack of front teeth. I am 33 now, but when I was 25 I had to have my four top front teeth removed due to extreme decay. When I was a teenager, I had braces. I had pretty teeth, but the braces left calcification spots on my teeth that quickly became holes. By the time I was 21 my left front tooth broke off at the gum line. My dentist said he could cap it by using a post but the cost was over $2500. I started saving. About six months later the other front tooth cracked vertically. The pain was so bad that I was taking medicine every 4 hours. Now we were looking at $5000. Eventually the pain subsided, as my rood was now dead. I started noticing that I could not look people in the eye when I talked, because it felt as though they were looking at my teeth. I also couldn't stand to brush my teeth while looking in the mirror because I would start to cry. Not because of the pain, but because I would see my front teeth.

When I was 25 I got dental insurance and was determined to fix things once and for all. I had problems with most of my teeth by then. So we started on a plan, we were going to fill in the cavities on my bottom teeth and pull the front top four, putting in a partial. At this point a partial was better than nothing and the four could not be saved. Well the thousand dollar limit on my dental insurance was reached in three visits. The thousand I had saved was gone with the pulling of the front four. So now I had no money left and a hole in front to show for it. I gave up again.

I have now lived for 8 more years thinking I could hide it from people by just not smiling, keeping my mustache over-grown, turning my head when I laugh, don't make eye contact, and eating lunch alone so no one would see me take a bite of my sandwich. I am going to the dentist tomorrow again fro the first time in 8 years, I am open to anything that will get me my front teeth back in my smile. I truly do like to smile.

My teeth are messed up as well asy sons just pray that God will bless you with the money or good credit to get implant surgery. All my teeth have to come out. I only have 5 teeth in top of my mouth and my son is 22 and lost 2 front teeth already due to tooth decay , keep you head up and know that you are not alone.

I am 27 had removed 4 of my upper front teeth recently, which were partial decayed. I visited one dentist ( don't want to mention the name of that bastard) in Chennai and he advised me to remove all 4 teeth and replace with bridge.
He brain washed me and showed beautiful pictures and models.. but never told me that i have problem in my jaw growth. ( underbite).
His intention was to make money, not to give valuable suggestions to patients. So he removed first and later prepared plastic model and did investigation. He took my case as practice or project for his play.
Totally spoiled my entire life.... each and every day i am suffering now. Took life's most worse decision.
Never never allow your dentist to remove your original teeth, unless that is the last option ( if not removing you are going to die)... Now generation have lot more technologies to correct even small root is left on your teeth... without root even if you place Gold bridge ,,.. waste . :(

Posting here, bcoz it should not happen to any of my brothers and sisters out there.

I'm so sorry to hear this. My situation isn't even as bad and I feel incredibly depressed. My dentist removed one of my healthy adult tooth because I had a supernumerary one which she said would grow in (and this was cheaper then surgical removal which I couldn't afford at the time). Three years later there is no sign, bone has deteriorated so if I ever get an implant I'll also need a bone graft. There is no way I can afford this. It makes me so angry considering my tooth was fully healthy! But I was young and didn't want to ask too many questions back then. Now that I think about it my dentist has never had my best interest at heart. After seeking second opinions many dentists told me there probably would have been no harm in leaving it there or I was in no rush to remove it.

I've got basically the same experience. My teeth always had lots of cavities when I was a kid but then in my late teens that seemed to stop and I developed no more cavities at all. I was glad because I absolutely HATED my dentist and was terrified of going to him. Since I had no more teeth trouble I stopped going. Well, fast forward to 25 years later and I wish I had gone more. My teeth are breaking and are going to start falling out. I was told about ten years ago that they were all cracked and needed root canals and crowns, but at the time it would have cost me about $12,000 which I could not afford. I'm in even worse financial shape now with no job and no insurance. One tooth broke about a year ago and it feels now like it wants to come out, and just this morning another broke. The piece that broke on this one didn't fall out though, its still attached and hurts if I try to remove it. I was lucky and it fit itself back together and is staying put for now but I know it needs to be removed. Its the weekend though and with no money or insurance I just don't know what to do. It's starting to hurt a bit too. This all worries me because the cheapest thing would just be to have all the worst ones yanked out, but how am I going to get a job if I can't smile? Right now, the broken ones don't show but if they come out or if others need to come will change my appearance which will definitely change my ability to get a job. I know that sounds vain, and it is I guess....but its true. I'm so depressed. Every time I run my tongue around my mouth I can feel aches. So I know there are other teeth that will have this issue eventually. I know this didn't help much for solving anything, but its for support.

I totally know how you feel. I found this post after googling "depressed about teeth." i was severely bulimic when I was a teen and also didn't take great care of my teeth. I have one crooked one in the front and my family called me "can opener teeth." My parents hadn't taken me to the dentist since I was 9--yet my sister has perfect teeth (braces etc etc) anyway, I have always had anxiety and depression, so I never took the best care of myself.. Well anorexia and bulimia exacerbated my poor hygiene and my teeth are ruined. Almost all of them have deep DEEP fillings that still hurt a year later so I will probably have a root canal in each.. I'm missing the same tooth on each side on my lower jaw... I have dental insurance but 20 fillings lter I am still needing work. And I take WONDERFUL care of my teeth now! I found the culprit of my still getting cavities to be that I swish my coffee (presweetened). I am so lost and hopeless... I am 22 and have an 18 month old and I scare myself (abd my husband!) because I'm so obsessed with taking care of my daughters teeth. I just know i will never have a beautiful smile and i cry about it every day of my life.

READ ME: For anyone who is having problems with their teeth, read the book "Cure tooth Decay" by Ramiel Nagel! This book covers a range of oral problems, and a way to cure/improve them through nutrition.

After I had some dental work done, I became very depressed. I thought my teeth would only go down hill from there. Guilt hovered me because I felt I should have taken better care of my teeth. I kept wondering why human teeth seemed to be so weak. This lead me to do some research. I found good bits of information on regrowing/remineralizing teeth. I came across the book "Cure tooth Decay" by Ramiel Nagel. I was reluctant to look at it because it seemed, well, "too good to be true." I finally did and I believe A LOT of what this book has to say.
I also read stories about people regrowing a chipped or a whole tooth. Visualization, I believe, is a key way to regaining teeth that have been lost. You need to want it, visualize it (smell, taste, touch etc), and believe as if you already have it. This technique has been said to even cure illnesses.

PLEASE, I encourage you to research for yourselves! It is all about nutrition. Our bodies don't have what they need to repair themselves.There are more books out there than just the one I mentioned. Not only regarding oral health, but other areas and overall health as well. The information you find can help improve younger generations' well being. I believe you can always improve your situation. You just have to dig.
I'm not guaranteeing that the things I suggested will work, but it's better than doing nothing and feeling hopeless.

You have my support.

I've heard of this book and the author has videos on YouTube

I don't know if it's worse when you have other medical problems, but the thought of having two more teeth extracted, even at my age, (63), IF I can get the money together -- well, it is depressing, and it really shouldn't be, should it? I mean, it's teeth.

Maybe it's depressing because your body has 'emotions' about what happens to it, and disease of any sort often causes depression, and your body at your age knows from experience that having teeth pulled is an insult to the whole body, including from the antibiotics with their effect on your gut fauna/flora... So it's depressed at the thought of going to the dentist, to 'communicate' that it's not good for you? I know, you have to go, I just mean that your physical reactions to things are often based on how your body has experienced those things in the past. Emotions are hormones and chemicals, and your immune system is around 70% located in your gut, and many white blood cells have endocrine receptors and transmitters so they literally do communicate with and respond to your emotional state, and so if going to the dentist is something your body has been harmed by before, the negative emotional response can be depressing. Depression affects your immune system and can be affected by your immune system in turn. Worth looking into.

I can totally relate. I am 33 years old and over the last 4-5 years, my teeth have gotten really bad. I have not been to the dentist since I was about 16. The dentist I had wasn't the best and his dental hygienist was equally bad. I have been terrified of the dentist ever since. My teeth are so bad now, that I am even more terrified. I want to go to the dentist but I am afraid that they will tell me that I have to have my teeth pulled. My front teeth are the worst. They have cavities, a couple of which I had cavities in when I was a kid and had filled. 2 of them kind of cracked I guess you could say. It looks like I have gaps in my front teeth now. I discovered yesterday that one of my molars in the back has a hole in it. I have dental insurance but am just that afraid. I try to take care of my teeth, I brush them at least twice a day and floss. I don't want to go to the dentist just to have them tell me that my teeth are unrepairable and have to be pulled. I used to work with someone who had that problem and she went around with only 2 front teeth and her molars. I don't want to end up like that. I have a pretty smile when I have nice teeth. But with my teeth the way that they are, I do my absolute best to not show my teeth when I smile and that makes it seem fake. I am so insecure about myself.

Went out to at lunch with my husband and one of my front teeth cracked. I could have just died on the spot! This is not the first time it's happened. I was brushing my teeth and the same tooth on other side cracked almost in half. I have 2 back molars on top each side of mouth that have the gum line and are jagged and cut my tongue. I can't eat hardly anything without major difficulty. I thought on the upside.... hey i might lose a few pounds....yeah right! All the rest of my top teeth are crumbling to pieces. I have 7 teeth up top that might be saved if i had the money.... and i have insurance but can't afford the rest of it. My husband has no sympathy for me whatsoever. I'm so depressed i can't stand it. I stay irritated and angry......and hurt...ashamed....embarrassed.....humiliated because of my teeth being in such bad shape. I have one molar on the bottom i have been putting temp filling in for years thank god it hasnt gotten worse but i keep infections in it and the upper tooth area. I have had severe sinus problems for the same amount of time my teeth have gotten worse and wonder if related. I don't smile or laugh because i dont want anyone to see and i dont want to kiss my husband because of them being broken. Im sitting jn my chair today at my wits end! I can't take it being so depressed im sick of feeling bad all the time. Im angry because i sjould have taken care of me! I'm hurt because my husband dont care jow i feel or that its hurting me!

Omg almost the same situation...I'm 26 an just found out I have gum deases..iv always took care of my theet now I'm looking them quickly in last 5years iv lost my front theet are falling apart I'm so depresst over it I caint even smile anymore Whiout feeling selfconsious.....I have two small kids an I whant upset a good example for them but seems like I caint catch a break I need work done evry two half to go tru mAger pain...I dont know what to do anymore an I also have no insurence so I'm kinda stuck...its really destroying my life..I just whant to b happy an whantto be able to smile whenever I whant that's my dream right now.... Kt

Hi, I have been reading your stories and I sympathize with you all.. Have you tried oil pulling it really helps with teeth and gums there is so much information on how people have cured and controlled their teeth and gum problems and have avoided some root canels, gum surgery etc... ....

if i had one wish it would b toget my teeth fix im ashamed i dont smile anymore i wish someone could help me

I have horrible teeth, I've had 3 sets of braces since I was twelve. Afer having them removed there was a black spot on my front tooth were a cavity formed underneath. Never had it filled. Being as you have two front teeth, the other was fine, that was until I had a root canal done on the one without the cavity, idk why, it was the dentist that said it needed it. After the root canal there was a hole on the back were they drilled, and after a few months it began to get bigger and then finally when eating one day it broke in a vertical way, not straight across but up and down, but slightly diagonal leaving it looking like the shape of the state of Florida. This caused depression and anxiety. Scared to talk, scared to try and find a job, even scared to eat. And for the one with the cavity on it, it's now created a hole in the center of my tooth. Very noticeable, causing more depression, causing me to stop taking care of them. This causing plaque buildup on my teeth that kinda hides the hole. I know this isn't good, but I stopped brushing all together with the thought that they kinda looked better due to the white plaque covering the hole and the yellow and brown stains, now I regret it. I have bad breath all the time, I'm so depressed to the point we're I haven't brushed in probably a year, using only my finger to scratch some plaque off near my gums and such. I'm absolutely terrified of Goin to the dentist now, worried of the criticism I might get, and being as I have severe anxiety disorder, I panic at the thought of it. Possibly the only way to have them removed for me is to be put to sleep, and have an oral surgery done. But I have no insurance and no job, no money, and 21 living with my grandmother who is barely making it by. All these factors make me so depressed that I wish I would just die and not be a burden to anyone any longer.

I need to share my experience too. I have bad teethes from birth, about 10 front teethes have line in between each and yellowish in the line. I went to a dentist when I ws 17 years old but I was told it was only crown that could be done and it was expensive. I am now 43, married, my wife used to ask for kiss but I used to dodge it because, I feel bad about my teeth situation. Recently, one of the front teethes got broken from the line and remain 1/2 from the pulp. I felt bad and went to a General Dental Clinic and was examined and given appointment for the next 3 weeks. They are thinking of bonding and filling. I shall get you posted but I feel ashamed to talk now

the japanese invented sythetic toothenamel.. it will make white teeth and cure cavities.... it will be out for colorlessteeth in 3 years and 2cure cavities in 5 the book from ramiel nagel...maybe it works.he write you have to drik code liver oil and eat organs of animals.etc. acid is raelly bad for ur teeth fruits...
the only hope
or yall can try to regrow new toothenamel with eating reaaaaally healthy...but dont sress you after i read this artikel i feel lot better...if you stress you out you could die of cancer and youll die early...
dont use whitenings. they distoy the toothenamel..dont brush ur theeth to hard...
use xylit that kills the bakterias..hmmm i dont give a ff now..i wait for the synthetic tooth enamel...
be really carefull acid is distroying your teeth...dont eat lemon,oranges,ordont drink coke pepsi...the acid desroys the sensitiv tooth enamel... dont brush ur teeth direktly after u eat fruits... if u eat fuits drink milk or water....milk sand waterneutrilazi your black tee..or if...with milk...
wash your mound with ater after every meal..try to drink water and milk...
waaaaaaaaiiiit 3 years ...japanes have alraedy inventet syntetic enamel...
i will stop looking in the mirror...hihi for 3 years...
dont be to hard to yourself...
there is hope...
buy calcium and vitamind tabletts
love yall
i hope my optimism will not leave me tomorror...this nightmares aout my teeth are killing...
welife in the year 2012 ...everything is possible
synthetic tooth enamel yeaaaaaaaaaaaaa

hey just wanted to say....we have to wait 3 years the japanese invented synthetic tooth enamel it will be out in 3 years in us save alraedy your money for this

heey i exactly have the same problem. i am as pretty as you are and my teeth used to be good and withe. then like 2 months ago i noticed the back teeth were becoming yellow. i was so deppressen and psycho about it... after to much brushing and to often using moundwash they where beoming more and more yellow colorless grey yellow...i am also really depressed...i avoid smiling and talking to people.. always looking at other girl with preety teeth...and could have those teeth if your werent so crazy about it...
it not only you that has this problems...
i raelly want to help us...
i would say you are soooo preety that the color does not really matter...i dont know but i understand you... i am even in big dipression..
i am afraid i wont find a good job or a new boyfriend....
iam sorry...
the hting is that the enamel is worn the theet are becoming colorless...
i red with the right food you can renew your thoothenamel then i red about a chemist dr.gerard judd but i dont dont if his theorie works...

<p>Super stories here. Lifes not too bad here .. others out there got alot worse situations in life then teeth issues. Please keep that in mind and count ur blessings</P>

i totaly understan i have really bad teeth. ive had 14 teeth pulled so far. when i was younger i started trowing up alot and it riuned my teeth. im just depressed all the time now because i cant smile. one thing i was going to recomend was go to a dental school to get work done they charge way less than regular dentist

yes i got bad teeth because of throwing up.. and when they turned just a little yellow i wasbrushing like crazy and usind this bad moundwash wich finnally discolourd them ...i feel like i dont wanna exist

i an from russia that why i write weird

Hi I completely understand your frustration and depression. I am 21 with bad receding gums (due to over brushing) I also grind my teeth badly in my sleep and I have internal staining on my front teeth. It has my made me severely depressed. Iv been put on antibiotics by my dr to help (not really working). Iv always brushed and flossed my teeth, tried every mouthwash with still no luck :(
Go to the doctors. Tell them your problem. Iv been to numerous dentists to be fobbed of so the dr is your best option - or going to a cosmetic dentist - something I plan to do when I win the lottery ;) .. I hope you find someone to help

I got dentures at about 30. I took care of my teeth but because of genetics and medications I had gum disease. I was relieved to get them pulled.

Im 20. My teeth are dead brojen chipped loose full of cavities. I probobly have gum disease. Im terrified of the doctor but ushaly when i have ab issue like this i balls up. Im scared to death of gettng them pulled. In let the 3 minths ill be 21 and health incurance will be gone. When i was growing up my parents didnt care what i did. I was lazy and thought i was bullet proof so i didnt take caare of them. Now i brush . But its to late. I cabt tell u how deppressed i am. And how scared i am. And its dumb for me to post this because all people are going o say is go to the dentist. But. I gues im legting you all know there other people out there like you. P.S. srry bout spelling. Im on my cell phone.

i mean your could try the book from ramiel nagel cure thooth cavities its on youtube...just look

I have the same issue.. my teeth are sooo bad and I am scared to do things, and talk to people.. my parents didn't care what I did, or at as a kid..

Im 20. My teeth are dead brojen chipped loose full of cavities. I probobly have gum disease. Im terrified of the doctor but ushaly when i have ab issue like this i balls up. Im scared to death of gettng them pulled. In let the 3 minths ill be 21 and health incurance will be gone. When i was growing up my parents didnt care what i did. I was lazy and thought i was bullet proof so i didnt take caare of them. Now i brush . But its to late. I cabt tell u how deppressed i am. And how scared i am. And its dumb for me to post this because all people are going o say is go to the dentist. But. I gues im legting you all know there other people out there like you. P.S. srry bout spelling. Im on my cell phone.

I am depressed with my teeth color because, my teeth color has gone therefore I am in depression please please help me............

I knew I was having bone loss at the age of 17. But when my dentist told me I needed oral surgery I freaked out and never went back! The thought of surgery alone freaked me out. But what I wish he would have explained to me was that it wasn't them actually goin in to cut u up. They simply just go in on the sides of your gums. I lost a tooth almost 2 years ago. I should have immediately then when to the dentist but nooooo. I was still freaked. Just 2 weeks ago I lost another one. But when I had lost my first one I begin to notice that practically all my front teeth were becoming lose. Again I ignored it. Finally when I has lost this second tooth. I immediately became depressed I wasn't eating nor drinkin anything I started to feel so sick to my stomach cuz I always had a nasty taste in my mouth. I've never had good teeth. All my brothers and sister all have nice straight teeth. I grew up with gaps in my mouth between a lot of my teeth. I finally built the courage to do some research and contact a OS since I wanted to go directly to the source. Went in for exams and X-rays and thinking to myself like wow this is not even that bad. But of course I knew my situation wAs. Turns out I have perio gum disease. I had lost bone and about 12 teeth were impacted by this discusting disease. I needed 12 teeth extracted. I panicked! Big time! Came home crying my eyes out asking myself why I couldn't do what I had to do when I knew I had to do it. Now here I am 25 years old. Having to have 12 teeth extracted. I have 2 beautiful kids who thank god I make sure they keep up on their oral health. I have a husband my (first boyfriend) whom I've been with for 12 years. I was so nervous telling him what I had to do. I was afraid of what he would say how he would take it. Thankfully he has been my biggest supporter through it all! I ended up going back to the dentist the next day to follow the procedure. My kids were my biggest motivators! I have to stay healthy and take care of myself so I'm able to take care of them for as long as I possibly can. I have no dental insurance, thankfully my parents covered the cost. This has taken a huge toll on my life. I work in retail and I KNOW I can do better and make more money but my teeth were always my biggest insecurity. I even applied for mgt and I think I was approved because of my teeth. My interviewer just kept looking at my mouth. That's why I think so. Cuz I'm a fantastic worker and I KnoW I'm able to do what mgts do. My boss has told me several times. NoW here I am with 12 missing teeth. Waiting to go in for impressions. I never ever ever thought I'd have to go through something like this. But I could not be more happier knowing I will once and for all come out with a beautiful smile! Basically don't be afraid if the dentist. Ask questions. Do what u have to do to get your answers. I wish I would not have waited this long. I'm far to youn to even have any kind of fake teeth in my mouth and I only could blame myself!! I can't wait to be out my house and more motivated then ever. I know I will have 100x more confidence then I EVER had. I can't wait. So you people don't let this go this far!! Go see a dentist they have many credit options to be able to fullfill your needs!! It's not as bad as it seems. Expec with all this enhanced technology. I don't think I would have ever built up the courage to do this with out my family support. Let them know how you feel what is wrong and I'm sure someone someone will reach out to help you!! Don't be afraid.

I got ugly teeth also. I have a bf and idk if he ever noticed my front teeth with a cavity, he prolly did. Im scared of the dental due to anxiety & old dental visits. Im scared to go & get bad news, I know I got a mouthful of cavitys & im EMBARRESSED!:( my bf says hell always love me 4 me and its the inside that counts.....i hope he means that. My gums hurt on & off. I wish I could smile, like every one else & laugh without covering my mouth. Im depressed about it. I needa find the strength & courage to go to the dentist ASAP!! I just dont want to loose all my teeth, im sad & scared :-(

Go to the dentist hun. It's not as bad as it seems. If you don't go chances are you will lose all your teeth. You could have an infection causing all of this. You will never know nor get the cure if you don't build the courage to go. TRUST me I regret every minute of me not going to the dentist! You have to do it for your health! Good luck!

i was gonna say that yes it is genetic (you already have sensitive teeth that are affected by your body and vice versa) and there could be some underlying health stuff going on should try to see if you can budget out a naturopath to talk to about it. I know for me, i have health issues and i can see how it relates. A lot of it can be hormonal and immune too..and Ph. Everybody is different. I know it's a cost but it might be worth it if you could slow down the dental degeneration that way. I know for me i have slowed things down a lot, and i can ward things off that way. A visit to a naturopath would probably be less than a flipper! i dont know about the US but here in Canada anyways..