WAAAAAH Why Me? Lol

c8lorraine.....I love this site--and it's you and other kindly and interesting people who warm my heart...

I don't think I ever blocked anyone---but then I never had a reason....there are a few trolls on here--but most of them just make me laugh.

Hey , you are a great friend, consider it their loss

charles849---after long and careful consideration about why someone blocked me, I now have forgotten who it was---but still--thank you for reminding me......I think that the person had one of those mad days--you know---where you do something totally crazy and unreasonable...Seriously, no one could possibly have a REASON for blocking wonderful, perfectly darling me. :)

wow are you sure you dont have a clue why . I cant see blocking anyone knock on wood but I would sure let them know why

Thank you rockpool. I wish I were more consistent about being, "thoughtful". Many times, online and in the real world, I say things, that I wish I could take back---often it seems as though my brain disconnects from my mouth--or my fingers :).

wiseowl---I've almost given up trying to understand why anyone does anything...lol. Humans are the most mysterious and unpredictable creatures.....I should know---I am one lol.

Maybe you didn't say something..could be they thought you might say something..Weird but that's not uncommon. I was blocked by a person I have never seen,spoke to or spoke about. I have no guilt either..just keep doing your good job on EP.

I have never sent a gesture except as reply. I have only one friend who sends group gestures.

I'm very fond of her and she is a totally "social" person. I just ignore her group gestures -don't bother to open or acknowledge them. I thoroughly enjoy hearing from her in comments or messages. If I received a whole lot of group gestures, it might get annoying , that's for sure. I think people who send personal gestures do it as a quick way to say hi- and to keep the friendship alive. Online relationships are a bit ephemeral, I pretty much deal with them the same way I deal with real world relationships....I am rather reclusive by nature ---although my door is always open to anyone who comes to see me---people who know me know they are always welcome, unannounced. However, they need to be prepared for a messy house and a grumpy mood lol. People come and go on here....I don't take any of it personally, Real life is like that too, some people stay friends for a lifetime and some you dearly love--you lose touch with....I have one online friend with whom I have kept close to for years.....I'm very fond of him,,,but I have declined to speak with him on the telephone......I don't think the things that we have in common would translate into the real world.

I believe there are times when one may be blocked by the system...The person who I thought blocked me said they didn't block me but the person hasn't unblocked me since so who knows...not a big deal.

I am one who believes in acceptance normally and it takes a lot to **** me off normally.

I will soon begin to block one group of people though.

I believe I have made it abundantly how much i hate to get generic group gestures.

Those unnecessary gestures suck time away from me.

I have little time that I can spend here and I do not appreciate having to clear my event indicator constantly by those who are not sending to me personally but to an entire group.

That is so impersonal as to be offensive to me.

i am not trying to be difficult but I made my wishes known not to be included when they click the names to send to.

Is this wrong of me?

I have tried to get EP to issue a blocking mechanism to block group gestures...they haven't yet and these things get overwhelming at times on a daily basis...they make it harder to respond to others who send personal gestures which I don't mind as much but I think they can be abused as well.

Their loss, our good fortune to find a great friend! :-)

Some people in this world are very well organized. I've always admired them and sometimes, even envy them... I think that this whole "blocking" thing is simply an example of some people's ability to organize and keep tidy. I know many people in the real world who are extremely well organized in their interaction with others. They always remember everyone's birthday, they always send Christmas Cards. I am exactly the opposite....I often forget birthdays--rarely send Christmas cards, lose important phone numbers and addresses---make lists then forget to take them shopping...on and on ===a perfect example of the disorganized person. This year, I sent Christmas cards--just a whim--have no idea why I did lol. The effect it had on my very well organized friends and relatives is, they called me long distance for long "catching up" chats. The really amusing thing is,, all my well organized friends and relatives---neglected to send me a Christmas card this year! hahaha---some kind of serendipity or weird coincidence--Now--I'll bet that this whole "blocking" game will have some similar ---unusual outcomes--- in the long run.

Ms gryfnn, I find it hard to believe that the reason someone blocked you is because you said anything offensive. Chances are you have expressed a belief or an opinion that is simply in opposition to hers... or so it happened with me.



I never did any study but I agree with MusicMouse - some people just look for a chance to disagree and exclude others, with the object to feel superior, if my cynical side is allowed to opine :)

I'm not sure if I've been blocked here on EP or not, but being on over 100 social sites and many very left - right, up - down, backward - forward, etc, I have been blocked before, and for very silly reasons. I've noticed something in nearly 40 years of behaviorism studies, and I'm not sure if it's not genetic, but I believe there are 2 mentalities in humans, those who search for reasons to accept, and those who search for reasons to exclude. I've written several articles about this phenomenon throughout the years. I've tried in my lifetime to advocate for acceptance...or at least tolerance, but some just wont budge. I think it is instinctual in some people, and not just taught. I think that if someone blocks me, they are doing me a favor, because they are intolerant and I would be an accident waiting to happen. Their loss!



Thanks for the cool post my friend!

Dear Duchess--yes the person did unblock me---I don't know why ---I seriously avoid reading her posts or commenting on them---as for Irish jokes--I still have my Irish gentleman friend who is consistently a real live Irish Joke ...He makes me laugh almost every day...his language is outrageous---nothing repeatable ever comes out of his mouth. If he ever says anything memorable--I'll let you know right away. :) love, gryf

Dear Duchess, you have a delicious sense of humor---:)

Lol Puck! you are a real philosopher... this whole blocking thing--seems like a kind of complicated game to me---sort of like middle school--12 or 13 year old kids.....It may be that I'm getting senile---so many things amuse me these days.. of course, I've always had a habit of laughing in the wrong places..My husband used to get so annoyed when I did it in the movies....or started cracking up BEFORE the punch line in a joke....----Today, my oldest daughter was putting a bicycle in her volkswagon--she's about your age..I don't know why it struck me funny - but it did...Thank God-she also has an odd sense of humor --

I look at it this way: For ever door thqt closes another opens.

So far, I haven't had any inclination to block anyone----I don't tend to take a lot of what goes on here very seriously.......lol -- maybe that's what got me blocked.

ayankee, LOL the little green glowing guy really gets your attention! I was very interested in the stories of the person who blocked me---and sympathetic to her painful experiences....I'm not upset that she blocked me--I know I say thoughtless and stupid things sometimes--I just wish I knew what I said to offend her-- so I could apologize.

Sunshine Eddy, I think the person who blocked me is very sensitive---sometimes I am clumsy and say silly things without thinking--unintentionally hurting someone. Communicating with people here, is a good way to practice sensible interaction with others :)

We must have been blocked by the same individual... I have no idea why I was blocked, either...



*shaka*

i dont really ever get offended i like it when people tease me and stuff and i think everyone has their right to their own opinion and unless its hateful they should be allowed to say it but like not allowed to tell someone to drop dead thats to mean

I'm sure you won't lose much sleep over it,lol.I know I wouldn't.

I love that little green glowing logo guy.Oh well,if I ever get blocked and know it,I'll have to come back and get me one too,lol.

LOL ---there are some very strange posts on here from time to time---sometimes one is tempted beyond ones strength. You are a good friend and a good writer...a talented writer can say things in a way that is honest but not offensive. If you tell someone off--you do it with finesse :).

Thank you for your comment--I think that if you say anything the least controversial--even if you are joking---you risk offending someone...I doubt most people intentionally offend others.

im sorry that happened to you just try to find new ones and give the person some space and they may unblock you