My Wife and My ExI have been married now for almost 12 years. My wife had an affair with my "best friend" of over 20 years. The affair lasted just over two months until I found out on Oct 24, 2007 (I call it D-Day). I had suspected something for the entire time, but couldn't prove it and they both denied it. It wasn't until I pulled her cell phone records and caught him in the lie. He said he "Didn't even know she had a cell phone" and the he "doesn't know her cell phone number". I said "Really? That's funny, your cell phone knows it, it's called her cell phone 10 times and she's called yours 6 times." He knew he was busted and asked me how much I wanted to know. I said All of it. Well, he only told me about half of what I wanted to know. But then my wife finally admitted to it and filled me in on some of the rest. Through my own PI work, I now know what dates, what hotel rooms, how much he paid for the rooms, every call that was made between them, pretty much all of it. We are now "working out our marriage". HE is out of our lives. He's known me a LONG time, he's seen what I was like once before when I was betrayed by a former wife, and he KNOWS that if he comes anywhere near again that I won't hesitate to arrange for him to meet his maker. Do I still sound bitter? Well it's only been a few months since D-Day, so forgive me. This has been the absolute worst experience of my life, no question. I just felt so empty inside, like my insides had been ripped out and discarded. What a hollow life this is lately. I'd like to cut his f'in **** off!
Anyway, *shakes head to try to come back to reality*, Sorry for the rant. But sometimes I just want revenge on him so bad I can taste it. But I've promised him, my wife, and God that I wouldn't so long as my wife and I are recovering our marriage and as long as he stays away from my family. I sometimes feel like less of a man for NOT taking vengeance out. But I am taking the high road and, for now, as long as these conditions are met, keeping my peace.
So here I am, the newest member of this fine club of good people who no one wants to be a part of.