I Just Don't Know Anymore

Background info: my boyfriend was eric my 3 bestfriend were linds (we had been friends for 8years) julie (we grew up as practically sisters our entire life)and tori(we had been friends for 10 years).. I have been in the exact same situation i was with my boyfriend for 4 years and after about two he cheated on me with my best friend julie but they didnt have sex i took him back and i forgave her it took a lot but i did it i never trusted him again which proved to be a good thing because a few months later him and my bestfriend linds messed around at a party in front of people and at that party everyone was completely sober. And i again took eric back and forgave my best friend. In between all of this he had been cheating on me with random girls. I know i sound stupid for staying with him but i thought that there was something wrong with me so i would ask him what i needed to fix i know it sounds crazy... and then the two days before our 4 year anniversary he went to a party got wasted and had sex with my best friend tori and finally i realized that it had nothing to do with me and he would never change! He wasnt even the one who told me by that time i just had a gut feeling when he cheated on me.. After he begged me to come back and i wouldn't we got in a huge fight. tori apologized and at that point i was sick of hearing apologies so i told her she was a ***** and pretty much all of our friends turned there backs on her because of what she did. Because they both lost everything they ended up getting together and have been together for a couple of months now. Well that's my story you don't have to take my advice but even after i took him back our relationship was never the same because i couldn't trust him. You might be able to forgive your friend but thats not guaranteed because even after i forgave them i never trusted them with my guys and i still dont. But the good thing is after all of that i found a man who is good to me and would never cheat on me.. you should choose to wait and be with a man who will treat you like a princess all the time not just sometimes or just when there not drunk. If you ever need to talk you i am here.

You need to give them both a healthy dose of the silent treatment for awhile, they need to know fully that what they did wasn't right and that there is consequences to the choices they make. It will also give you time away from them so that you can get some perspective and cool your jets for awhile.

This may be out of your comfort zone but have you thought of all three of you getting it on. Whether or not you would be sexual towards your best friend but at least everyone could think "yeah not a good idea" and everything may go back to normal. Or you keep your best friend and move on from the guy.

Just talking out loud. Hope everything has been going well for you since you posted your story.

the perfect scenario would be to forget and forgive. but ur always gonna have that suspicion that they will hook up again, or maybe that they've already hooked up more than once. but things arent perfect. i was drinkin with my friends girlfriend one time and we wound up hooking up, except my friend walked in on us (was spyin on his gf). yep true story. we never touched each other again but my friend was always on his girlfriends case, accusing her of lying to him so she could meet up with me (my sister and her are friends too) they stayed together for like another year but he kept accusing her and getting ridiculous thoughts in his head. so she wound up breakin it off with him. he was talkin crap on the both of us and spreadin rumors about her. maybe we deserved it but long story short me and his girlfriend are still friends while this guy is almost completely out of our lives and our other friends' life. sux to be him. so u can be an angel and forgive them or break it off with one of em. you will have to choose who the better person is