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I Have Been Cheated On

The Bartender Did It.

By: patchworkofmistakes
Written on December 22nd, 2007
Age: 26-30 , Female
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22 responses
  • KickArs

    u were lucky to discover the truth bfore u being dump,keep sailing, keep up the faith. put extra caution on person u date. classify his attitude if u can o cannot rely on him before u take a big decision... seriously it wont waste ur effort.

    sry for broken english...zzzz

    Oct 22, 2012
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  • pikka

    hello...i salute you, and let me tell you i know exactly how you felt...you are brave and you survived that ...bad experience.

    my mom is currently figthing cancer and she was in coma for a period of time...the hardest time of my life, days before she got in the hospital i met and started dating a guy, pretty much exactly what u said...he made cruel jokes on my looks, and kept asking 'if im so nasty then why u even date me?' but then he would manipulate the whole situation... anyways i always suspected something was wrong from the way he behaved...but i let it pass for i needed the distraction to go on. months later i found out...disgusting proofs of he cheating on me with several girls...so i can really relate to how bad it feels to be cheated on, plus having the pain of having a family memeber with cancer... yet God is good, for u and i found out proofs to get rid of those people and now we're free to move on with more knowledge, for me it's still a bit fresh but i realized the only real freedom is true forgiveness..not in the way to take him bakc, but to really see the big picture and forget about the pain a nd take only the knowledge...thank u so much for sharing your experience, i can't tell you how it made me feel to read it. even thou i don't know u, i send u a big hug. I'll keep on my mom's side figthing cancer, i know God will help us to win.

    Jul 22, 2012
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  • youtub5201

    You can always be thankful to be the victim and not the perp. Would you want to be that guy? Ickkkk, I wouldn't. I'm sure someone else will see all the soul you have to offer and if you respect him, he will respect you back, and you will have a long, beautiful enduring relationship. Stay strong!

    Aug 3, 2011
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  • ebony80

    good riddance to bad rubbish

    Feb 15, 2011
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  • patchworkofmistakes

    Thanks, luvmylt. I hope so. I am over him now, but some of the emotional abuse I can't get over. I still hear some of his comments in my mind.

    Feb 10, 2008
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  • luvmylt

    What an A**! Sorry I have dated jerks before but none as cruel as him. I believe what goes around comes around! He will get his!!!

    Feb 10, 2008
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  • patchworkofmistakes

    Thank you all. ColorMeReal, I am so glad you had a man that stood by you. You deserve it. I have learned to love and hope again. It just angers me that people chip away little bits of your soul with their actions and then just leave. It's like they have no right, you know?

    Dec 25, 2007
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  • picgirl

    Thats a cowards way out!!! Im so glad that youre not involved with him anymore. I know it hurt you. You only get stronger from the things that hurt us!!!

    Dec 24, 2007
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  • ColorMeReal

    It is hard to trust again after being cheated on. I think the way he treated you and talked to you leading up to this also makes it harder. He met you when you were down and pushed you farther down.

    I hope you will find someone that loves you regardless of your weight or hair...or lack there of.

    I was so blessed that my husband took my baldnes dueing chemo better than I did. He constantly told me I was pretty and that my little bald head was cute. He also was kind about the weight I gained during chemo as well. (Every anti-emetic was steriod based...eek)

    Patchwork, hold on to the hope. There is someone for you too.l

    Dec 24, 2007
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  • patchworkofmistakes

    Sometimes I think when we get cheated on some part of us is forever broken. I know I am not the same person I was back then. I am harder now, less trusting, more critical. It's sad, because I am naturally a very trusting person.

    Dec 24, 2007
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  • BlueGeorgia

    Some people don't realize the pain that being cheated on by someone you really love brings on a heart. The pain I experienced changed my life, emotions, and personality.

    I think for the most part I have changed for the better but the brokenness remains. I wonder if it will ever go away.

    Dec 24, 2007
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  • redheadsrule

    When you a grieving alot of things are out of focus .Don't be to hard on yourself,he is a jerk!

    Dec 23, 2007
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  • patchworkofmistakes

    Ok, bring your spurs!!!

    Dec 23, 2007
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  • BlueGeorgia

    Just let me know if I have to go have a talk with him. : )

    Dec 23, 2007
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  • patchworkofmistakes

    LOL, thanks, blue, you are so sweet. Your kindness to us depressed souls are appreciated! :)

    Dec 23, 2007
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  • BlueGeorgia

    Congratulations on the loss of the jerk boyfriend.

    Your post kinda makes me wanna pay him a visit. : )

    Dec 23, 2007
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  • patchworkofmistakes

    They are. I guess I shoudl have known better than to jump into a relationship in the state I was in.

    Dec 23, 2007
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  • redheadsrule

    Pretenders are the worst!

    Dec 23, 2007
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  • patchworkofmistakes

    Thanks guys. He was a nice guy at first, then he really changed.

    Dec 23, 2007
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    • toodlepipkins

      Hey there, I just read your story - I know this happened a while ago, but I'm a journalist, and could get you a great deal for telling your story to one of the UK's women's magazines, like Take a Break or Love it. I can make sure you're happy with the story by reading it back to you before it goes to print - and it's the perfect way to get your own back!

      Does that sound like something you fancy?

      It'd be great to have a chat about this. Please contact me for more details, or I could give you a call? x

      Oct 13, 2011
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  • redheadsrule

    That is cruel i am so sorry you were treated like that.

    Dec 22, 2007
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  • ThisIsNotBilly

    Ouch, what an a--hole!

    I've been there before tho' I can just imagine how it felt to hear that on the phone.

    Dec 22, 2007
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