I found out that on Aug. 5th my wife cheated on me with another man. I am in the US with our first daughter. My wife has our second daughter in Germany. She goes to the club, leaves our second daughter with her mother, and says I made her do it. I am not the greatest man in the world, never have been nor will I be. I have heard every lie in the book. That my ED caused this, missing her first daughter, it was the booze, he was there for me when you were not, and you do not know what I am going through. Well I was a soldier at one time I know what lies he told her. My wife became another notch in his belt. She was to blind to see it until later on when someone told her what he said about her. My wife is a self-centered, living in vain, piece of crap. She said at one time that she could never cheat on me and then have to look into our children’s eyes. Well I have been trying to work through this but it gets harder every day. She acts hot or cold. She hides things from me. We use to have each other facebook and email passwords. Now it is like we are complete strangers. She expects me to just hand our first daughter back to her. I cannot do that right now she has just gotten use to speaking English again. She is reading and writing in English as well. Now she wants to confuse her with this and maybe turn her against me. My daughter and I have been here for 9 months since April. She just needs to hold on till she gets her visa, but I am not sure if I could even look at her. What do I do? What do I do for my children?