My Wife Cheated On Me With Multiple PartnersI just found out my wife has been cheating on me for about 9 months about a day and a half ago. The sad part is I have suspected it for about 9 months as well. Every time I accused her, at least 30 different times, of looking at cheating websites, texting people on her phone, asking her if she went somewhere on certain days and saying she didn't, she would look me straight in my eyes and promise me that nothing was happening and that I should trust her. It took me until just early yesterday to finally decide to look at her phone when she was asleep and find the text messages to random people. I feel stupid, hurt, sad, and hopeless. Why didn't I decide to look at her phone earlier... Her reasoning was that she was bored at home all day and said that she never had those "college" experiences back in college such as random sex. I told her that the one thing that would break up our marriage was if she cheated on me, and I told her this numerous times, before and during the point she was cheating. But she did it anyway, and in our own home.
Anyway, now she says that she will do anything and everything to make it up and start all over again and be the wife I want, even taking away her phone and computer. I don't think that's possible. She has destroyed my trust completely and lied to me repeatedly, even when I knew something was going on. Plus I don't want to babysit an adult and wonder if she is lying to me again or going somewhere when I'm at work. I am going to seek counseling soon for myself to deal with all of this. But should I trust her again after lying to me for 9 months about cheating with so many people, after confronting her so many times, her never telling the truth and lying straight to my face? Everything hurts right now, and I keep coming to different conclusions. Just needed to get all of this out there.
BDeth 31-35, M 56 Responses 9 Apr 29, 2012